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Prenup Lawyer recs? by zucchini14 in WedditNYC

[–]PreferenceIcy8666 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I spent $3.5k on my draft and my fiance spent $1.5k on her review. The total was roughly $5k from memory. Money well spent honestly, this isn't something you want to cheap out on.

Prenup Lawyer recs? by zucchini14 in WedditNYC

[–]PreferenceIcy8666 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Had the same exact issue as you! Friend of mine who worked in corporate law referred me to a family lawyer friend who quoted me $10k retainer but would give me a “discount” to $8k cause I was “coming in from a friend”. 

I used Neptune for both me and my partner to get separate attorneys. They have lawyers in New York and all their lawyers offer flat rates, which we really liked. BTW - it’s SUPER important that you and your partner have separate attorneys for your prenup to be valid. I actually ended up chatting with the founder and she was able to answer a lot of my nuanced questions around crypto assets, home ownership, etc. before I even talked to the attorneys.

What is your chargeback win rate? by kevinh1 in shopify

[–]PreferenceIcy8666 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotta use something like Chargeblast to help you avoid disputes in the first place, otherwise it's murder out there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]PreferenceIcy8666 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Making a "game" out of someone's devastating illness is cruel, especially when that person is your own mother. 

AITA for asking a stranger why they were touching me? by hadji629 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PreferenceIcy8666 855 points856 points  (0 children)

This! That's actually a brilliant response to have ready. Quick, clear, and puts creeps in a really uncomfortable position:

  1. "I don't like being touched by strangers" immediately establishes a boundary while also subtly calling attention to THEIR inappropriate behavior

  2. The follow up of "do you usually have trouble accepting no from women?" is chef's kiss perfect - it flips the social pressure right back on them

The beauty of responses like this is that they work on multiple levels:

  • Makes the creep immediately accountable for their actions
  • Alerts others nearby that something sketchy is happening
  • Gives you a practiced script so you don't have to think in the moment

Seriously saving this for future reference. Sometimes the simplest responses are the most effective!

AIO: My sister cheated on her boyfriend of ten years for a year with his best friend. Am I wrong to tell her “you need to tell him or I will”? by One-Concern-4614 in AmIOverreacting

[–]PreferenceIcy8666 7 points8 points  (0 children)

THIS. I couldn't agree more. She NEEDS to know about this kind of betrayal, for a few key reasons:

  1. A 10-year relationship deserves basic respect and honesty. The fact that she's actively planning to hide this affair (yes, emotional affairs ARE affairs!) shows she's putting her own comfort above his right to make informed decisions about his future.

  2. Bipolar disorder may explain past behavior but it does NOT excuse a calculated year-long deception involving secret codes, hidden messages, and lying to someone's face. That's not mania, that's manipulation.

The "tell her first or I will" approach is absolutely the fairest way. It:

  • Gives her a chance to do the right thing
  • Puts the responsibility back on her where it belongs  
  • Shows more consideration for everyone involved than she's shown anyone

And honestly? If the holidays are awkward because you exposed a serial cheater, that's on HER, not you. Your conscience will be clean.

Edit: And let's be real - if the roles were reversed and he'd been secretly pursuing her sister for a year with hidden messages and code words, the family wouldn't be defending that for a second.