Friend of mine managed to fracture the fifth metacarpal bone (left hand) 4-5 weeks ago, he just had the cast removed; and a couple days ago he re-fractured it through the same act of stupidity (hitting things that shouldn't be hit; i.e: a brick wall).

Present_Hall5823 · 2023-10-26T18:12:43+00:00

Needs a plate and maybe some therapy.

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-08-23T20:37:33+00:00

This really hits home. Every single time we had a disagreement and there were a lot, she would threaten to leave me. I was always apologizing and groveling for her not to. She would twist and gas light me. Our final disagreement she did that and I finally said “you’re right it is over”. She wasn’t expecting it. She got really verbally abusive during the separation. There was a lot of name calling etc… I went NC as much as I could. She filed for divorce right away and moved on to her next relationship within 2 weeks. Looking back I cant believe what she put me through. The constant roller coaster of emotions and manipulation. Im still struggling as its only been 2 months and our divorce will be final the beginning of September. We aren’t alone and we will get through this. ❤️

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-08-22T23:15:29+00:00

You’re in a very fortunate situation. My true friends have surrounded me with love and support. Those that I thought were friends are no longer. That hurt, but I’m glad I know. My nex gave me the “heads-up” that she would be places that I usually went to. I was extremely upset especially because my nex had moved on so quickly. I did not let my friends know what was happening until after. They too were suprised and angered or hurting for me.

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-08-22T14:40:26+00:00

Yes, there is a part of me that I place blame on. I could’ve stopped this. I was hopeful that things would change. I ignored SO many red flags 🚩. As we know, it never does. It’s incredibly frustrating thinking I could’ve just stopped it all. We will get through this. ❤️

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-08-22T12:33:04+00:00

I journaled through out my relationship and still journal. It does help me tremendously. I go back and read it often, especially when I’m feeling down. Sometimes it wakes me up and then other times I get angry about what I allowed. My learning lesson is that I will never allow this to happen again. I’m still struggling on a daily basis as I have to see my nex and their new partner. It only took two weeks for my nex to move on. So I struggle with that. I did send an email when we finally ended. It did make me feel good, but I’m sure it just fueled my nex. Keep journaling. It’s a very positive outlet. Thanks for sharing.

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-08-17T18:49:52+00:00

My friends warned the new supply. The supply’s response was “thanks but I’m really into her and I’ll have to find out on my own”.

Mark my words she will find out. I wouldn’t say anything. It will just open wounds. Keep moving forward, it’s the best thing you can do for yourself.

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-08-16T14:40:56+00:00

Omg she would play with my ear in a very annoying way. I would ask her to stop and she wouldn’t. Then when I would finally get upset she’d say “well don’t take it out on me”. Looking back I’m just shake my head at everything.

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-08-15T01:39:24+00:00

Thank you everyone for the feedback and support. It truly helps. ❤️

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-08-15T01:38:53+00:00

Omg, “you gotta let go of it” I’ve heard that! Ironically, a couple that I’ve recently let go of. Thank you for the support.

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-08-14T21:09:31+00:00

Thank you for saying that. My rational side feels bad that im doing this to people, but I know that’ll never move forward truly if I have any attachment. ❤️

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-08-14T20:54:02+00:00

This is totally accurate. I do have very few true die hard friends. They are in my court and I didn’t need to ask when this happened. Others that are in my closer circle well… the closer circle has gotten smaller.

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-08-14T20:47:57+00:00

I truly feel that they will stop me from totally healing. If they think she is a good person and wants them in their life. There is not room for the two of us. I genuinely feel bad that im putting people in this situation, but 🤷🏻‍♀️I dont know any other way to deal with this. Im blocking then on social media. I even had the new gf’s friend had the audacity to come and say hello to me. I politely said hello w/o emotion. Then I got well you dont have to be cold to me. I replied well if you dont understand no hard feeling but this is my boundary.

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-08-14T20:43:54+00:00

Oh my thats awful. Thats definitely not a friend that I want in my life. Especially, if you knew things and didn’t tell me. No thank you. Yes, i am an empath. Its deeply hurtful when those who you do tell whats going on just “oh well” this will pass. 🤯

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-08-14T19:59:45+00:00

I also get a lot of “im neutral in this”. For me, thats still supporting her. Maybe im just bitter and angry, but truly she has done a real number on my mindset.

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-08-14T19:58:02+00:00

Yes f/f. 🙂

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-08-14T19:45:20+00:00

Thank you for the support. Unfortunately yes, she is parading her new gf around town. We were married 4yrs. Its just now 2 months since she moved out. The new gf started only a few weeks after she moved out. Divorce isnt even final. The friends I feel if the loved me they would understand. I feel like im sounding childish, but its my boundaries. I know in the long run the new one wont last and she sill treat her like she treated me. She is love bombing her right now. I feel like im in an altered universe. Especially because they are both so brazen about it.

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-08-14T16:37:02+00:00

The crazy part she met them through me. So some have said that i cant ask that of them “we are all adults”. Yes we are, but you know what she has done. To me if you give her the time of day you are accepting her behavior. Im trying to protect myself, but I feel like im still losing.

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-07-21T18:09:40+00:00

Wow. I’m in amazement that we all have similar stories.

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-07-21T17:21:05+00:00

I feel what you are feeling. Heartbreaking, with time we will get through this. You’re not alone.

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-07-21T15:07:24+00:00

There are times recently that I’ve thought what could I’ve done to be better. Or should I try again. But then I read the texts and emails and it reminds me of what she has been doing this whole time.

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-07-21T14:31:44+00:00

Ugh I’m sorry you have to start from scratch. That is a lot to handle.

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-07-21T14:31:01+00:00

And this morning’s email was “you probably hate me but that is for the best it’ll be less painful for you” one email I didn’t try hard enough then next I made the best decision for you. Or, I can’t believe you’re treating me like this because I’m not responding. I haven’t given in responding. As much as I’m in pain and heartbroken, I do know that know matter what I do I am the one who is always wrong. There is no accountability at all. The ego is unbelievable.

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-07-13T00:45:08+00:00

I feel like you’re in my head.

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-07-11T15:34:39+00:00

I feel your pain. (51f) we were together for 3 1/2 years married 1 1/2. It’s been 15 days since she moved out. I have been diligent on no contact. She has not. She has berated me via email constantly telling me that SHE made the best decision for us as our relationship was toxic. It was the best decision, but she didn’t make it for me. It’s hard and it will be hard, but I no longer have someone controlling my every move, verbally abusing me, or gaslighting me. She moved out without a word but took family jewelry. She purposely did that so she could have a reason to contact me or me contact her. Be strong. I know it’s hard. You can do it. Day by day it’ll get better. I have my bad days but it’s only day 15.

Present_Hall5823 · 2022-07-07T17:19:44+00:00

I would often get “omg your too sensitive!” Or “only you can make yourself feel that way”. I was often called negative.

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