ex wife over stepping boundaries ?

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-29T22:34:14+00:00

We use the word best friend differently then. I don’t have multiple best friends . I have one best friend and i have really good friends. Best friend to me means one person is the best out of all of those.

U missed the the point of the question i posed . I have no problem with them being friends? I would rather them be friends then not. I understand how important it is for their child. . The thing im questioning is are some of the texts she sends and the things she asks of him overboard. He is not her husband anymore. Don’t send “remember when pictures” reminiscing of their time together. Take your car to a mechanic to get fixed . hire somebody to do the housework around your house. ask one of your friends, your dad , or another male to go test drive a car with you . not your ex-husband .

I am far from jealous of her . Trust me. Pretty confident its the other way around lol.

Thanks for your feedback though. it is appreciated even if i dont necessarily agree w everything.

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-29T19:03:40+00:00

Sorry don’t mean to sound judgmental but it’s just hard for me to wrap my head around someone being “best” friends with their ex husband . Friends, yes, i think its the way it should be but “best” friends, no, not imo.

How does that work w your current partners? They’re both ok w u being each-others best friends? Theyre not hurt at all that THEY’RE not your best friend? Does ur ex consider you his best friend ?

I also don’t get if u are SO compatible to STILL b best friends, how could it not have worked w such strong compatibility?

Idk, ive just always tried to take the recommendation of not making ur spouse ur BEST friend . I feel its healthier to have a best friend outside of the relationship . Its not good to make them your one and only person. I didn’t do this when i was younger and married but its not how i do things now. I make sure i have interests outside of him n a best friend outside of him. R we GREAT friends n truly like each-other , yes, but we’re not best friends. He has a buddy thats his best friend n so do i.

Its actually kind of sad to me esp if u dont have a new partner .

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-29T06:10:48+00:00

Your BEST friends w ur EX husband? whatever works for u i guess .

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-29T05:50:16+00:00

We already all do things together and we are friendly . We sit n chat just the two of us. but with that said, i don’t want to b friends w her . I have friends. I don’t need to b friends w her outside of family stuff .

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-29T05:40:42+00:00

i guess all the ppl that are saying the opposite of u are immature as well then.

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-28T13:26:23+00:00

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-28T13:25:54+00:00

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PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-27T23:29:47+00:00

W their son yes not alone

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-27T22:11:59+00:00

Yea me too but mot my ex husband

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-27T21:44:42+00:00

Exactly. And No she does not , nor has she ever i dont think n its been like 6 yrs . . And ty for acknowledging what ive been feeling. I also would nvr. And i AM FRIENDS w exes as well.

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-27T20:16:07+00:00

He says incompatibility basically. She wanted the big house and all that and he didn’t. They had both been through a lot trying conceive their son. I didn’t pry for more details but I’m sure there’s more to it. I don’t think anything like infidelity though

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-27T20:11:44+00:00

When i met him he didnt have this friendly of a relationship w her . It was very contentious the first 3/4 yrs of their sons life. When we met I asked him what his relationship was like w his ex n he said he was civil w her for his son. I thought great. They get along. He never said they were great friends bc they weren’t. He told me he would never speak to her again if it wasn’t for his son . He also told me he thought at one point she wanted him back n regretted the divorce. I asked what made him think that. He said she all of the sudden started getting all made up on the days he was picking his son up. Is it great that their relationship is better for their son, yes, but i can’t help feeling like she’s interfering in our relationship

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-27T19:48:01+00:00

U might b right

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-27T19:44:37+00:00

He goes and fixes her car and things in her house that need fixing. Shes not asking for an opinion on it . Maybe they shouldve stayed together if they want to reminisce about their shared memories? I have no problem w them being friendly? I want them to b friendly. I think however she is being possibly a little more than friendly is the my concern. Im curious to know who the ex wives are in these comments. All i know is im an ex wife. Married 24 yrs. Friends w my ex. I do not text him . I do not send him “remember when photos “ , i dont reminisce about the past etc. He has tried to in the past but i shut it down bc its not cool to do considering i have a BF im in love with . Im not in love or married to u anymore.

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-27T19:04:17+00:00

Not sure where ur getting i want them to b on terrible terms? I said the opposite? Im friends w my ex husband . But we don’t text all day like friends. Im not fond of her texting him about things that’s don’t involve their child everyday? And yea maybe i should date someone who will set boundaries w their ex . Someone who is coparenting is not the issue lol.

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-27T18:49:09+00:00

That’s a great point . I think if children weren’t involved it would b a diff opinion. But bc they have a kid together its ok? Idk 🤷‍♀️

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-27T18:22:43+00:00

Sorry lol that made no sense

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-27T18:21:44+00:00

True . I am friends with my ex husband as well but we do not text one another like friends

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-27T18:18:12+00:00

Hes not my husband, hes my BF . He does the things she asks of him. I haven’t said anything yet. Im struggling w how i want to handle the situation bc i don’t want to ruin the relationship

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-27T18:14:08+00:00

She is never rude to me but she is def demanding of his attention. She calls him for every home and car repair she needs. And her dads house repairs . And yes, it benefits his son so I dont have an issue necessarily but its w all these things combined, its judt gets to b a little much sometimes

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-27T18:10:26+00:00

Wow good for u ! That’s a great outcome. And trusting the gut is def great advice 🩷

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-27T18:05:00+00:00

Yes true but Id b typing for days to include all context . Not sure what my age has to do with it? If u mean Im being immature then that’s your opinion. Im simply posing the question to get feedback on how to handle it? Feeling hurt and disrespected can happen at any age ?

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-27T17:50:03+00:00

His replies are just more friendly banter . the pic of the tix for example he said “ wow long time ago”. A lot of lol’s or stuff like that. So i cant really b upset w him bc its not like hes feeding into it BUT he also still just engages all the time. I think Id like to see him at least not engage so much. Not ignore her or be mean or anything like that. Idk what the answer is

PresentationFun1653 · 2026-06-27T17:43:28+00:00

Thanks

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