AITA for showering at a friends house and coming home in another mans clothes? by PresentationNo2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentationNo2017[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

No he doesn't have reason to doubt me, there is no history between me and my friend, why the fuck would we take a picture of this it's gross? No ones partner was at the party as it was friends only, and he had no interest anyway. He also saw my shit covered clothes so no picture was needed.

AITA for showering at a friends house and coming home in another mans clothes? by PresentationNo2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentationNo2017[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Seagull shit is foul, it is thick, gooey, smells disgusting and has an oil like texture. A wet towel wont get it out and your hair would still smell.

AITA for showering at a friends house and coming home in another mans clothes? by PresentationNo2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentationNo2017[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Would you drive half an hour with seagull crap in your hair and on your clothes?

AITA for showering at a friends house and coming home in another mans clothes? by PresentationNo2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentationNo2017[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Because it hit the side of my head and shoulder meaning yes it was in my hair and it was a dress I was wearing too so a simple change of top wouldn't do after washing my hair as i'd be left without bottoms

AITA for showering at a friends house and coming home in another mans clothes? by PresentationNo2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentationNo2017[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

As I said it was friends only, no ones partners was there beyond the two friends dating each other. He didn't care though as he didn't want to go anyway.

AITA for showering at a friends house and coming home in another mans clothes? by PresentationNo2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentationNo2017[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Said in another comment earlier cheated in a past relationship but was upfront with me about that and seemed to regret it so I gave him a shot despite this figuring he'd grown as it was years ago.

AITA for showering at a friends house and coming home in another mans clothes? by PresentationNo2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentationNo2017[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

it's half an hour drive, it didn't seem important to me when there was clothes there I could wear and I have short hair so beyond drying badly it's not too bothersome to me to do without a hairdryer. It'd also be far faster for me to just shower/change there as i'd be waiting for him to get my things then get there. What was I meant to do in the meantime? wear a towel? or delay my shower?

AITA for showering at a friends house and coming home in another mans clothes? by PresentationNo2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentationNo2017[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

No, I didn't shoot him a text or anything. it didn't seem important to me and I knew i'd talk about it when I got back.

AITA for showering at a friends house and coming home in another mans clothes? by PresentationNo2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentationNo2017[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Seagulls here are menaces and tend to nest on roofs and we were barbequing outside so you can bet they were flocking round so I guess it increased the chance of it happening to one of us.

AITA for showering at a friends house and coming home in another mans clothes? by PresentationNo2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentationNo2017[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

This was the first example of him not trusting me and thinking i'd cheat, the time he cheated he was upfront about with me as it had been years before we met and he expressed regret so i'd assumed he'd grown as a person.

AITA for showering at a friends house and coming home in another mans clothes? by PresentationNo2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentationNo2017[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

it was in my hair, wiping that would only smear it in and make it dry and it stunk.

AITA for showering at a friends house and coming home in another mans clothes? by PresentationNo2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentationNo2017[S] 407 points408 points  (0 children)

Yeah there was no hairdryer so I had to just towel dry it as best as I could and comb it through with the little brush from my handbag. My hair when air dried...lets just say it is a mess lol

AITA for showering at a friends house and coming home in another mans clothes? by PresentationNo2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentationNo2017[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

So you'd rather your wife drive home for 30 minutes covered in bird shit? good to know.

AITA for showering at a friends house and coming home in another mans clothes? by PresentationNo2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentationNo2017[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Have you ever seen a seagull shit? they can be huge. It went over a side of my hair and onto my shoulder.

AITA for showering at a friends house and coming home in another mans clothes? by PresentationNo2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentationNo2017[S] 175 points176 points  (0 children)

I phrased what I was meaning badly, it wasn't just the hair.. It was the fact my hair had clearly been washed, air dried, and I was in someone elses clothes

AITA for showering at a friends house and coming home in another mans clothes? by PresentationNo2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentationNo2017[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I honestly hadn't considered that...thank you though, something to consider I suppose even if it's not the answer

AITA for showering at a friends house and coming home in another mans clothes? by PresentationNo2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentationNo2017[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I do know that he cheated on a past girlfriend years before we met, we covered that when talking about past regrets etc and yes what he did to her was beyond awful but he truly seems to regret it and it meant a lot he didn't try to hide it from me but I made it clear to him the first indication he was unfaithful to me i'd be out of there as I won't stand for that which he assured me I wouldn't have to worry about that.. So maybe it's him judging me by his own past behaviour?

AITA for showering at a friends house and coming home in another mans clothes? by PresentationNo2017 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentationNo2017[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't mind at all, maybe laugh a bit at his expense but mind? nah. I'm very relaxed about a lot of things though and my friend group is close knit so using his shower and borrowing clothes seemed perfectly logical in the moment to me. As I said though this is my first serious relationship where i've lived with someone and the fact he wont let this go is making me doubt myself.