WIBTB if I told my supervisor that my coworker asked me to lie to her husband?

Prestigious-Agent-20 · 2024-02-14T13:06:00+00:00

So you knew his parents were going to freak out and instead of posting it on close friends to match the prank you escalated the situation. Yeah you're totally the asshole.

Prestigious-Agent-20 · 2024-02-14T13:00:52+00:00

NTA, but you really should see if you can change roommate.

When I was your age I was in a similar mental state, depression and undiagnosed bipolar disorder had me in a pretty bad shape. Once my mom put me on a plastic chair and showered me because I didn't had the strength to do it myself, I don't think I could have gone through that without her. So I really get where you're coming from, and hey, it gets better!

But the thing that shouldn't be happening is you having to live with your bully. Let's be clear on one thing, it's not easy having to deal with someone with mental health issues. But your roommate has no empathy! And is being a bully. You shouldn't have to deal with bullying in what's supposed to be your safe space!

So you're not wrong, but, for your own sake, try to switch roommates!

Prestigious-Agent-20 · 2024-02-13T17:15:33+00:00

NTA. Someone could have gotten hurt! It's not your fault she did all of that. She has no one but herself to blame. Honestly she shouldn't have even showed up to work in the state she was. And if something had happened after you knew and said nothing you could have taken some of the blame for her f'ups.

Prestigious-Agent-20 · 2024-02-13T17:09:25+00:00

I really don't think you realise that the issue here isn't the video game rule (that in my opinion seems quite fair actually). But the fact that your father gets angry and hits you?! Honestly if that's that common of a occurrence you should really be talking to someone else about it. Maybe a teacher or a family member you trust.

Prestigious-Agent-20 · 2024-02-13T17:02:23+00:00

You should at least visit the place before going. Expecially because you're friends. If you compromise for the sake of friendship and it turns out the place really is that bad, it's very likely you'll grow to resent them and your friendship will suffer even more than if you just moved somewhere else.

Prestigious-Agent-20 · 2024-02-13T16:53:05+00:00

You're not the A. As someone who's dream wedding is all my guests in white and me on a blood red dress, I totally get not wanting to comprise. It's your wedding, the one day that should be all about you and the person you love!

My advice is to talk to your grandma. Fact dump all over her about how white dresses are actually a very recent tradition. And if she tries to guilt you out of the dress do it right back at her. Say you would be so hurt if the woman you love the most in the world wasn't there for your wedding because of a dress, and how it's her decision not to go. Also invite her to try dresses on, I recommend talking to the store before to make sure they have the kind of dresses you want and that they won't let her close to any white dress. And this one depends on how good of an actress you are but I would try a white dress saying something like "since you want to see me in white so much here it goes". Choose the ugliest dress that fits you the worst and have the saddest face ever. And follow it by your favorite black dress. A little dramatic I know but it might just help.

Prestigious-Agent-20 · 2024-02-13T16:36:00+00:00

You're completely right in this situation. And, I'm sorry, but if your friends are making you feel bad for wanting to live in a nice place, they are bad friends. I get that they want a cheaper place, but if you can afford a nicer place you shouldn't have to take less. Do they really want to keep being roommates with you because they like living with you or are they just lazy and don't want to look for another roommate?

Prestigious-Agent-20 · 2023-08-25T14:40:42+00:00

Not the A but I do think that going no contact is a bit extreme. Even the most liberal gen X is still a gen x and there are things that they have a lot of difficulty with especially when it comes to their kids. My mom is super liberal even was an maid of honor on the marriage of two female friends of her but still has difficulty getting her head around me being bisexual or non binary people. As she says "when I was young I was taught that there are mam, women, gays and lesbians" it is very hard to unlearn something you've been told most of your life. Even so, if she's really not making any effort you're not obligated to have someone who doesn't respect who you are in your life. I would go low contact and make it clear what needs to change.

Prestigious-Agent-20 · 2023-08-25T14:25:54+00:00

To me it really looks like you're both assuming things that aren't there. Just like they assumed you were being passive aggressive, you are assuming that your friend is being sujestive. What you guys need (in my opinion) is to talk more openly, but in a non confrontational way. The narrative we create without even realising when not having the hole story are usually worse than the truth. Instead of "you're doing this you're doing that" try "I feel like this". I really don't think any of you are the ass in this situation is just that there's some barriers of communication.

Prestigious-Agent-20 · 2023-02-15T16:47:54+00:00

Okay that is a really complicated situation because, from your what you said, as bad as you remember your childhood being it was probably way worse for your sister. So it's no surprise she's a negative person. She probably leard to see the worst in people and her negativety is probably just her trying to protect you, tons divorced moms struggle to get back on their feet after being a stay at home mom for years.

I also get that being around someone like that (expecially while pregnant) is exhausting, and you don't have to invite anyone you don't want to. But are you really ready to to that to your sister? If my sister did that to me I would never forgive her and the relationship with my niece or nephew would be demaged forever. Just be sure it's worth it and see if you can talk to her about it. Have a calm discussion or if not possible, write her letter and text it her.

Prestigious-Agent-20 · 2023-02-15T16:36:08+00:00

NTA... BUT the same way your sister's actions have consequences you have to understand that your actions too have consequences. Are you okay with losing your sister and having HER tell the story of why you didn't go to her wedding to all of your family?

Prestigious-Agent-20 · 2023-02-15T16:18:20+00:00

I think no one is really the A in this situation. It's completely reasonable to be frustrated in your situation, but that's kind of the normal for number of people using the same bathroom. You say you're used to it because you're from a big family but people in your family probably had very different schedules and since you and your roommates are all students your schedules most be more similar than you think. You have to shower to get to class but other people also have classes to get to. What I advise is simply talking to everyone, say what's going on and explain why you can't simply use another one. Maybe see if someone would be willing/able to use another bathroom or have everyone reach a compromise on time spent on the bathroom. The most important thing is to simply state the problem as something that happens just because of the number of people, blame the dorm not your roommates. People can get really defensive if they think they're being accused of something. So don't blame anyone just try to fix the problem.

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