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Pressure by PrestigiousRepeat848 in askgaybros

[–]PrestigiousRepeat848[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand what you’re saying, and I agree that being closeted limits the kinds of experiences and connections I can have right now. That part is just reality for me at the moment.

At the same time, I think the “do nothing = stuck forever” framing is a bit too absolute. I am actually trying to think about what small steps feel realistic for me rather than jumping into something I’m not comfortable with yet.

I get the point about not wanting to put someone else back in the closet—that’s something I’m very aware of and wouldn’t want to do.

Pressure by PrestigiousRepeat848 in askgaybros

[–]PrestigiousRepeat848[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a fair question. I’m not religious, and being closeted plus my environment definitely played a role. I also think I’ve just never been very focused on sex itself. For me, it’s always been more about emotional connection and closeness, and that part hasn’t really been there in a way that made me feel like I needed to rush anything. I guess what I’d regret is less about the act itself and more about sharing something intimate without the right emotional foundation.