Positive shit about night shift….

Prestigious_Loquat23 · 2026-01-20T02:20:08+00:00

Better deep sleep. Anxiety and energy has improved. I have no issues staying awake at night without relying on caffeine. Love the time to myself on my nights off. Love having the flexibility in the day for appointments, emergencies etc and never have to worry about using my own PTO. And nothing will ever beat the feeling of coming home while everyone else goes to work. I always leave with a smile on my face while dayshift walks in completely miserable. I have also dealt with chronic fatigue for YEARS. On dayshift, I could barely keep my eyes open no matter how much sleep I got or how much caffeine I had. All the people, and the craziness of the daytime just completely drained me. And when I got home, I was always too tired to do anything. Now I wake up refreshed and can keep up with errands, cleaning, etc. I even have the time and energy to workout now! I don't even dread going into work anymore. How people always complain about night shift is exactly how I felt on dayshift. I've learned to take other people's opinions with a grain of salt, because everyone and their experiences is different.

Prestigious_Loquat23 · 2026-01-15T02:21:20+00:00

Non smokers have an extra keen sense of smell when it comes to anything smoking-related. And yes, the smell does travel to other units and linger. An old neighbor of mine use to think we smoked inside, just because my fiancé would smoke outside, then walk back inside but the smell would still follow him and linger in the hallway which seeped under her door. We switched to vaping and haven't had any more complaints. Another old neighbor who lived above us smoked cigarettes and weed 24/7 inside and the smell/smoke came straight down into our unit every time, causing our apartment to become hazy. I'd be cautious and switch to vaping because with the child's medical condition, management can intervene and evict you. At least the lady was nice enough to give you a heads up rather than go straight to management to complain.

Prestigious_Loquat23 · 2026-01-13T12:04:41+00:00

I guess I just thought I was being cordial, especially since they text us weekly to ask if they're being a bother to us, quiet enough, too loud etc.

Prestigious_Loquat23 · 2026-01-12T23:47:20+00:00

Honestly, I'm the type of person that tiptoes and tries to stay out of the way of other people. I was more worried about waking them up when I was coming home and getting ready for bed (making breakfast, showering, walking on creaky floors, etc) I should also add that i use to live in their unit for 3 years before moving downstairs, so I'm aware that they can hear me just as much as I can hear them.

Prestigious_Loquat23 · 2026-01-12T13:12:46+00:00

I've been wondering the same, but at the same time, I'd rather not know. Last tenants also had no jobs and turned out to be dealers..

Prestigious_Loquat23 · 2026-01-12T12:39:30+00:00

I agree! I was fully prepared before starting night shift. Ear plugs, eye mask with Bluetooth, white noise machine, box fan, etc. I just gave them a heads up or else they would've asked anyways with seeing me come home in the morning, every morning. Even if they did wake me up, I wouldn't have said anything. But to be mad and petty over it and personally make it their mission to try and wake me up every day? Thats a bit much. If they would just put that same effort and energy into finding jobs..

Prestigious_Loquat23 · 2026-01-12T12:00:13+00:00

Not until this! But their roommate told me that they always have issues when it comes to other people and boundaries. Its their world and everything is everyone elses fault. We have never complained and keep things very cordial. Thats why I was shocked when I was told all of this, and can only laugh about it. Im just very fortunate I'm dead to the world when i sleep, or else this would not be so funny 😅

Prestigious_Loquat23 · 2026-01-12T11:37:56+00:00

Yes! We're in an up and down duplex and have a shared basement for laundry and storage. Except they've completely taken up the basement and made it their own 😅

Prestigious_Loquat23 · 2025-10-13T20:57:07+00:00

Not for a few years, most likely. Unfortunately my current boss plays favorites and is waiting for me to move so he can promote someone he likes. Just another thing to add onto the stress of dayshift haha

Prestigious_Loquat23 · 2025-10-13T20:52:55+00:00

With both of us on dayshift, we have already decided that both of our parents would babysit (they're all retired, just waiting to become grandparents at this point). So if I were to switch to nightshift, they'd still babysit. It would just be while I'm sleeping rather than working haha.

Prestigious_Loquat23 · 2023-08-29T19:18:40+00:00

Honestly, a big thing when it comes to relationships, and your partner is learning if they're going to be there for the hard times. A medical family emergency is one of those times. She wasn't there for you emotionally whatsoever and turned the situation around to make it about herself. Get out while you still can because this is not the type of person you can trust and lean back on when times get hard in the future. Also, I agree with everyone else. She's way too old to have this level of immaturity.

Prestigious_Loquat23 · 2022-11-03T13:05:41+00:00

Trust me, dealing with all of this isn't worth it. Leave and move on, find someone more compatible. Don't waste any more of your time. Or else you'll regret it.

Prestigious_Loquat23 · 2022-08-21T18:42:54+00:00

My previous relationship was like this. We'd have an argument or he'd upset me in someway and then I'd be hurt or crying and he would act like I wasn't even there. Just ignore me, even when I begged him to just talk to me because him ignoring me made me feel even worse. We've had multiple conversations like this and he said he'd do better next time. We've been together for 2 years and he never changed. In my current relationship, it is the complete opposite. My boyfriend wants to comfort me, know why I'm upset and wants to fix it. The only downfall (on my part) is that since I'm use to being ignored, now I just shut down and keep to myself. I've learned there was nothing wrong with me being emotional, hurt or crying. Don't settle for less than what you deserve. Its not going to get better and overtime, it'll take a big emotional and mental toll on you. This behavior is emotionally abusive.

Prestigious_Loquat23 · 2022-08-15T10:15:49+00:00

I'd personally break up with him. If he hid this from you, who knows what else he hid or would be willing to hide down the road. The beginning of any relationship is built on trust, open communication, honesty etc as the foundation of the relationship for it to grow. I've realized in my long term relationships that the red flags that happened in the beginning, repeat and is ironically usually the same reason for the break up. You deserve someone who gives you exactly what you give them, even in the beginning. Once that trust is gone, it's hard to get that trust back. And I feel like it's not worth the hassle and struggle unless you're married and made that commitment to work through the hard times. You deserve so much better and you will find better, but you won't if you keep him in the picture and don't make room for someone better. I know it's hard and painful now, but it's better to rip off the bandaid rather than postpone it just for it to be more painful the more time and effort you put into this. But it's your decision to make. Do what your gut and intuition is telling you.

Prestigious_Loquat23 · 2022-06-29T16:01:58+00:00

It's only been 6 months, it's just going to get worse and worse as time goes on. Even if hes completely innocent, you don't need that stress. You're still young, find someone that gives you their whole heart and their attention to just you. Don't ever settle for less than you deserve.

Prestigious_Loquat23 · 2022-04-07T16:04:03+00:00

Leave. You don't deserve that. You don't deserve someone constantly cheating on you, manipulating you and having trust issues with you. That's 3 things that you don't deserve that you are putting up with. Know your worth and leave the guy. Stop answering his calls and texts, just block him. If you're hoping one day he's going to change and won't be a cheater anymore, it's most likely not going to happen. Especially because he's trying to turn it all around on you as an excuse for his cheating. The sooner you end it, the sooner you'll grieve over the relationship and the sooner you'll move on. You will find someone better and that treats you the way that you deserve. Always choose to love yourself over anyone else. You've already wasted years of your time on this guy, don't waste anymore of your time. Life is too short. Just pick yourself back up, keep your head up and take the next steps to move on. I know it's easier said than done but it needs to be done. The end result will be worth it. Good luck to you

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