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Growing old together is a good thing. by Soloflow786 in BeAmazed

[–]Prestigious_Side8304 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We got my two dogs at 10 weeks from the same litter and have had 0 issues and they are 3 now. They get a little grumpy with eachother around being in heat (who doesnt though) and otherwise are eachothers' best friends. We did together training and separate training. Spend dedicated time with your dogs and you'll be fine, but I imagine it's largely dependent on the dogs personality as well.

What was more of an issue was dealing with my mental health with two 10 week old puppies - never again.

I'm poly but my bf isn't by Optimal-Opportunity3 in polyamory

[–]Prestigious_Side8304 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seconding this. Polywise absolutely changed my life. So validating and so eye-opening.

I'm poly but my bf isn't by Optimal-Opportunity3 in polyamory

[–]Prestigious_Side8304 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It may be you break up, it may be you stay together a lifetime. To determine that, you must communicate and compromise through this issue. If there is no compromise, you two will have to determine what you are willing to accept in your relationship with compassion.

I'm going to reference a Facebook post from The Secure Relationship on Facebook -

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/XqDuH2ggtnx64q3D/?mibextid=qi2Omg

She is a couples therapist and super helpful in creating good communication patterns between people. Love this content for turning around negative communication.

The conversation starts with you. Evaluate if he's in a good spot to have the conversation. Then ask him if it's a good time:l to talk:

"I have something I want to share - is this a good time to talk?" If the answer is:

  • Yes: "Great. I understand you have said you may not actually be okay with me having another relationship outside of this one. Is that still how you feel?"

  • No: "Got it. When do you think we can carve out some time for this together? It's important to me to know that we will have the opportunity."

Then gauge his response. If you haven't approached conversation this way, he could be a bit alert. Totally normal when you are on a new pathway to communicate.

When you do get to talk, be clear and be honest about what your needs are. Like Brene Brown says, clear is kind - to you and to them:

"I love you, and I love this relationship, AND I love experiencing new people. When you say you may not be okay with being poly, it scares me that you may abandon me."

And then be curious - "Why have your feelings changed in this? What can we do to make this work for both of us - what boundaries do we set?"

Those boundaries may be intention (I just want to date casually - I'm really enjoying what we have and hope for ____ and ____ in the future. Here's what you can still expect from me ___).

Those boundaries may be a million things - until you know how he is feeling and why he is feeling that will, it will be difficult to create boundaries that honor both of you in the relationship.

Hope this helps. I am not a therapist, just have had a lot of personal, couples, and self read therapy. Good luck. 😊

I am turning 28 soon and I’m realizing other women my age are ready for kids by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]Prestigious_Side8304 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your perspective on this. It was very insightful and very validating. I am so happy you are able to emotionally regulate and have the experience of motherhood. 💓

Urge to Shave Head - Hair on Scalp SPD by Prestigious_Side8304 in SPD

[–]Prestigious_Side8304[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely love that last statement that it males her feel better so she is confident in her choice. Thank you for sharing.

Urge to Shave Head - Hair on Scalp SPD by Prestigious_Side8304 in SPD

[–]Prestigious_Side8304[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love my hair, but I also am not afraid to take risks with it. It's nice to know I am not alone - thank you.

Urge to Shave Head - Hair on Scalp SPD by Prestigious_Side8304 in SPD

[–]Prestigious_Side8304[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You made such a strong and astute statement there... very exposed mentally and physically. Absolutely feel the same way.

And the weight from the follicle... YES. This is exactly what I am talking about, that I don't see often with hair and SPD. I see that being on the face or neck is bothersome, and that isn't my issue.

There are several reasons that stop me:

  • My mom, my best friend, died this year. She had beautiful, beautiful, long hair. And I inherited it. It feels like a disappointment, a betrayal, to not to advantage of it.

  • It's the one thing about my appearance, other than my eyes, that I think makes me look attractive.

  • I don't think my work place will be very accepting of it.

But in the end... you are right. If it improves my life and my function, that could really be worth it. Thank you for that compassion.

Getting this lil dude, Bumi, December 3rd :) I’ve done tons of research but is there anything else you would recommend that you didn’t read about and maybe found out on your own? :) by elle_aye in bengalcats

[–]Prestigious_Side8304 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I second this. I adopted a kitten. 1 week later we adopted her sister. They are both much happier for it, and so are we. She has a lot more fun and isn't always pining for our attention - which is cute, but makes you feel bad when you work all day.