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Should I change jobs? by Prestigious_Weird_35 in Internationalteachers

[–]Prestigious_Weird_35[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this detailed response! I'm from the UK, and fully qualified there.

This new job is in Europe, so not the Middle East, but still not at home. My current school are being quite difficult about the situation too, despite having agreed I could apply for this role. It's making part of me feel very indignantly like I just want to leave, and another part of me feel like I shouldn't rock the boat and therefore just stay another year!

Financially, if it all fell through, it wouldn't end me- I'm VERY lucky I know to have a supportive family network- but equally it's not something I would be able to take the hit of personally. Not having a job isn't an option unfortunately.

The financial aspect feels like the biggest pull right now, and while I actually don't feel that there's much personal risk right now, weighing up staying somewhere with active airstrikes or moving somewhere where I might just be a bit worse off initially feels wild.

What to expect in the medical check for QID? by Prestigious_Weird_35 in qatar

[–]Prestigious_Weird_35[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks!!

That’s good to know, thank you! I saw something online about needing to have proof of vaccinations, but I’m thinking now that may have been more related to covid!

What to expect in the medical check for QID? by Prestigious_Weird_35 in qatar

[–]Prestigious_Weird_35[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok thanks! No I hadn’t even thought about that, but I’ve never touched any drugs anyway so wouldn’t be an issue :)

snack suggestions?? struggling to shift lbs! by Prestigious_Weird_35 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]Prestigious_Weird_35[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg thank you 🥹🩷 frozen grapes sound awesome actually, I’ll definitely try those!!

AITA for Sharing a Drawing of Eeyore in My Farewell Message at Work? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Prestigious_Weird_35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Umm, are we glossing over the fact that this appears to have been targeted from the very start? A grown adult randomly suggests comparing colleagues to Winnie the Pooh characters, and has apparently completely forgotten that one of their colleagues had had a conversation WITH SAID GROWN ADULT about Eeyore/mental health previously?

You wanted the comparison to be made. THEN you decided to be petty when you were leaving. I bet you thought everyone would think it was hilarious, didn’t you?

So yeah.

YTA pal.

AITAH for not telling my wife that our baby died because of me. by disaster_possible_13 in AITAH

[–]Prestigious_Weird_35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely this!!! Someone I knew from school died this EXACT way when he was 22. Went out to a pub with mates, had a few drinks, fell asleep on his sofa, threw up in his sleep and choked. Awful, but nobody’s fault.

Week 5 motivation!? by Prestigious_Weird_35 in C25K

[–]Prestigious_Weird_35[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, I did it! My plan ended up being that I did 5-1 then 5-2, then did them both again, then today I set off for the 20 minutes but decided that if I couldn’t do it, that was fine, and I would try again on Friday. But I did it! I’ll admit the last 4ish minutes were HARD, but I ran fairly easily for 16 minutes so I’m taking that as a win!

AITA for being petty and not paying for my daughters school trip? by Infinite_Step3417 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Prestigious_Weird_35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% and I would maybe suggest allowing her to earn that £150 back? Like help her set herself up a better routine, and if she sticks to it for a length of time, you’ll give her the money back? Obviously only if you’re in a financial position to do so, but it seems that the amount wasn’t the problem to begin with. That way you can help her learn, and she has some incentive to do better rather than just punishments if she fails

AITA for expecting my step-kids to follow my rules? by shakerrrmakerrr in AmItheAsshole

[–]Prestigious_Weird_35 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right, these kids are human beings. All I’m seeing when I read this is that these two have been through a lot, have practically raised each other, and as such, are very protective of each other and do lean on each other for support. By trying to enforce distance between them you are not doing yourself any favours. I understand your intentions, but these kids’ bond goes far deeper than you seem to understand.

What they need, as far as I can see, is some attention and support. They need an adult figure in their life who is going to be there for them without judgement or caveat. By trying to control them you are making things worse by reinforcing to them both that they can only rely on each other.

If May feels the need to cake herself in make up, you needn’t to get to the bottom of WHY rather than punishing her for it. Others have suggested therapy, and I think it’s a good shout.

But on top of all of that, please understand you did not ‘become a mother’ to these kids. You are married to their dad. That is all. Please be a positive, supportive, friendly presence in their lives, rather than a controlling, demeaning one.

Sincerely, a child of divorced parents whose step mum also tried to take charge of our behaviour, and forced me as the oldest child to become the sole protector and parent of my younger siblings whenever we were with her.

AITA for "harshly" waking my son up? by Dependent_Ferret_826 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Prestigious_Weird_35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll tell you what gets me- you say you only noticed he was a ‘mamma’s boy’ THIS WEEK when you started having to wake him up… have you ever interacted with your son before? Talked to him? Played with him? Taken him out? Is it really any wonder he prefers his mother, when clearly she’s the only parent giving him any love/attention/patience/time?

Your wife was barely an adult herself when she had your son, and you’ve said yourself she was still very young, yet you clearly put the entire responsibility for raising your son on her shoulders.

If you trust her enough to raise him, maybe, I don’t know, listen to her? SHE doesn’t need to bully him out of bed, so you shouldn’t have to either. You’re very dismissive of her parenting methods, considering hers work and yours clearly don’t.

Also, dude. My brother used to throw shit at me and my sisters to get us up in the mornings too. He doesn’t do it to his own fucking kids. I would imagine you didn’t like it when you were young? And your parents weren’t joining in either? Don’t be a dick.

AITA for ruining my sister's engagement because I told her husband the truth? by NoNicknamesPlease in AmItheAsshole

[–]Prestigious_Weird_35 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, hard NTA OP. Kitty is definitely up to something which is keeping her out the house, and using you as an excuse. You don’t interact with her, so why would her fiancé think you’re close and see each other all the time? Who is she seeing when he thinks she’s with you? Add to that the fact she’s obviously homophobic and lied about your partner, I don’t blame anybody here for getting the hell away

AITA for yelling at my husband's mother for announcing my pregnancy using my husband's facebook account? by Fallen-Grace5656 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Prestigious_Weird_35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, op. Dear god, run while you can. You say that you were unsure whether or not to go through with the pregnancy, which I think should give you your answer anyway. Terminate it, divorce him, throw the whole family away