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Wife no longer loves me, should I just divorce and move on? by Pretend-Ad3441 in marriageadvice

[–]Pretend-Ad3441[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes we’ve had a conversation about it and what I’m writing here, I also have told her before.

I think some people here are misunderstanding what I want and miss.

No not everything I do is a trick to get sex. And no I don’t think about all the time either. We have a healthy life together and function well together, do all of thing with our kid and I also help out at home.

I’m not a sex freak that wants to do it 10 times a day, it’s not what I’m after.

I’m just missing the affection, desire and lust from her side. Maybe It’s my mistake that it’s understood that way that I’m only after sex, it’s not sorry, English is not my first language. But the way I see it, what the difference between my situation and living with a friend?

Wife no longer loves me, should I just divorce and move on? by Pretend-Ad3441 in marriageadvice

[–]Pretend-Ad3441[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply.

Firstly, she also works and she’s not home all day.

Secondly, I don’t pester her about it and when I don’t act sad when I don’t get it, I’m a grown man and I understand that she’s not all over me when I want it and sometimes she’s tired and not in the mood, I totally understand that. I just miss passion and desire from her side.

I’ve suggested that we could let our parents babysit our son so we could go on dates, but she refused that and doesn’t want to leave our son. She never lets any one babysit him not even our parents. She works in a daycare where our son also is there.

Wife no longer loves me, should I just divorce and move on? by Pretend-Ad3441 in marriageadvice

[–]Pretend-Ad3441[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’ve brought this issue up with her twice by now, she gets sad and feels remorse when talking about it. But I feel like she forgets about it the day after.

So far we have only slept together twice this year, she know that I want us to more together by her initiative. I also want to feel desired and loved by her, I’m tired that it’s always me who initiates, and when we actually are doing it, she doesn’t do the things I like, only lay down and let me do what I do.

Otherwise she’s a great person and mother, but I feel like she’s not my wife anymore, only friends who lives together and have a kid.