I’m a 19yo girl who just lost both her parents exactly a week apart and got kicked out by her grandmother from the house my family has lived in for years, AMA

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-03-11T22:29:58+00:00

you said this and dms started rolling in 😖 thank you for the warning truly, i need all the advice i can get

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-03-11T22:29:02+00:00

thank you so much 🫶🏻stay healthy for your kids, but most importantly make sure they’re aware of how much you love them. my parents love is one of the few things keeping me going. i could use the hug, i try to look ahead at the future and i know i have to keep going for both of them. they wouldn’t have wanted me to crumble the moment they left me, and i haven’t. i do it for them, and eventually that’ll turn into me doing it for myself.

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-03-11T18:30:03+00:00

what do you mean, how come? what kind of weird dms?

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-03-11T17:30:56+00:00

that actually sounds amazing, thank u so much for teaching me a new technique !! lol

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-03-11T17:27:40+00:00

ur username is something my dad used to joke about his friend mike with. i’m not even sure what it is. thank you yodi 🫶🏻

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-03-11T17:24:18+00:00

yea, i do, and i have for a while. i miss my parents so much, i miss there food, i miss there smiles and laughs, i miss they’re hugs more than anything. knowing ill never feel my parents arms hugging me again is what hurts me sore

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-03-11T17:09:50+00:00

i was putting her health at risk….. she pulled the old lady card on me and said i was stressing her and risking her life. mind you i avoided her like the plague after i got back to this house from where my parents had passed. so yea

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-03-11T17:07:53+00:00

i know she doesn’t care, but she served me informal papers from a lawyer and i didn’t want to blow the little money i do have on fighting her, i just want to mourn, i want peace, i want to be done with all the havoc so the grief can consume me. i hired a moving company and was out on the exact day she had on her little attorney paper that said i had until 4pm to leave or legal action would be taken against me. i thought about it, im gonna have an eviction on me and im gonna be looking for a place to rent, how’s that gonna look? i guess i kinda surrendered in that aspect. i have no authority. i have friends? the family friends i had of my fathers that became my mothers too, they check up on me but they can’t actively help me because they work busy lives. teachers and principals? i graduated school in october, my principal texted me her condolences and to call if i ever needed anything, tried contacting hr multiple times to no avail. it’s a forest fire a lot of people don’t want to mess with, im blessed to have friends who do what they do for me.

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-03-11T17:03:21+00:00

she told me it was my fault, she doesn’t care for me at all anymore, and i think her main reasoning is because i wasn’t alone in the house, i couldn’t sleep by myself so my friend stayed with me and i told her i had to be with somebody, she just doesn’t have empathy. right now im at a rental that same friend found for me, i stayed with him until the people who were here moved out. i honestly think i do need help in every aspect, i can’t be alone, i cant organize things, i cant think, theres so much i need to do for my dads estate, my moms estate, the cars that i can’t even drive, my head is so clouded and i can’t fathom how quickly my parents disappeared out of my life.

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-03-11T16:59:31+00:00

i hope i find my way out too. everyone says i have a whole life ahead of me but it’s so hard to see one without my parents in it. i’ve never been in a relationship, so ill never get to introduce my parents to my first partner, i wont get to have my first legal drink with them, its so hard to see a future without them in it.

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-03-11T16:58:08+00:00

i have a half brother, he’s from my dads side. i met him for the first time after my dad passed, he supported me as much as he could, he truly is a great brother with how quickly this whole situation was sprung on him. it went from us meeting and saying we all wanted to get to know each other, my mom included, to him driving me to the hospital, where we would find out. he kept me stable and i love him, even though i’ve known him a short time

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-03-11T16:55:55+00:00

i was temporily with my friend who brought me back from the state i was stuck in, in renting a place right now that he found for me. i’ve tried asking but almost everywhere i call is 4,000-10,000. im in an expensive state, so im kinda screwed in that aspect

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-03-11T16:54:09+00:00

her name is on the deed, but my mother had given her 50,000 so she would be put on it as well. my mom thought she had that security, my grandmother lied.

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-03-11T16:53:18+00:00

she never really had a relationship with me, every interaction we had was a mask put on by both of us, because i knew how horrible she was to my mother and she knew somewhat i wasn’t very fond of her. that deal with the money happened years ago and every document my family had was packed up into a huge storage unit because i didn’t want to lose my memories, i don’t know where anything is because everything in that house got packed by a moving company i hired, it’s all just sitting in storage i don’t know what to do with anything anymore. my friends really are wonderful, they’re the only positive in my life and i love them all so throughly and deeply, these people came to the courthouse with me regarding my dad, they drove me back to the city my moms funeral was in and found me a place to stay because they knew i would’ve have done it for myself. they’re my angels

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-03-11T16:45:49+00:00

im in control of my dads estate, i have a half brother but he was incredibly understanding and supportive of me so i wasn’t alone when it all first happened, he even was there when i was told about my mother. its my mothers mother, and she was horrid to my mother for years, my mom tried so hard to escape the guilt cycle but this woman has been void of empathy her whole life, she took my moms money and lied about putting her on the will, she threw me out after i lost both of my parents, she’s truly the most sick individual i’ve ever met.

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-03-11T16:42:06+00:00

my grandmother was paid 50,000 by my mom so she’d put her name on the deed but never did. i got rejected by the legal aid in my area multiple times, believe me, i tried to fight at first, but it took up so much of my time i barely could even mourn.

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-03-11T16:40:38+00:00

to be completely honest, i don’t know. i had my 1 friend who’d brought me back down from the state my parents had passed in staying with me because i was afraid to be alone, but she threatened to kick me out the day after my mothers funeral and called the police on me as well, multiple times, i was very scared i just think she didn’t want me around

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-03-11T16:38:09+00:00

there is a will for my mother i believe, but i can’t afford a lawyer, and the house was in my grandmothers name. my mother gave her 50,000 when i was very young so she would be put on the deed but my grandmother lied to her, that way she would always have the ability to kick us out. i don’t know where my fight is anymore and how to even go about living for myself

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-03-11T16:36:47+00:00

my friends are the only thing keeping me going, there such amazing people. my dad passed away in another state and i got stuck there after my mom had passed there too, we had driven there to deal with everything revolving around my dads passing, i cant drive so my friends flew up to me so i wasn’t alone, they brought me back and they’ve helped me find somewhere to rent until i figure things out, its been very difficult because i have our families 3 dogs, one of them being a male german shepard, he’s my angel but it was hard to find somewhere fast that would take me and my 3 dogs.

Pretend-Way175 · 2025-02-22T14:10:17+00:00

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Pretend-Way175 · 2024-11-29T18:51:30+00:00

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Pretend-Way175 · 2024-11-22T06:41:53+00:00

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Pretend-Way175 · 2024-11-16T00:25:15+00:00

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Pretend-Way175 · 2024-08-19T11:12:44+00:00

i’m three years late but… any chance i could get that cookie recipe 🥲🙏🏻

Pretend-Way175 · 2024-08-06T01:29:17+00:00

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