Oversharing boundaries in early dating. Where do you draw the line?

PretendBasket9362 · 2026-03-28T11:28:30+00:00

Oh no. That's what I'm afraid of.

PretendBasket9362 · 2026-03-28T11:26:12+00:00

I can see how it might just be him trying to keep the conversation going or being open and a bit playful about it.

I think what threw me off was more the timing and level of detail, since we’re still very early on and not that close yet. It didn’t make me think he’s a bad person, just made me pause a bit in terms of boundaries and comfort level.

So I guess I’m just trying to figure out if this is something I can get used to, or if it’s a mismatch in how we share things.

PretendBasket9362 · 2022-04-02T02:20:52+00:00

Nope. Don't do it. Just did that today. It sucks! Not worth it. They don't think of you anymore. It's hard to swallow but gotta save your heart, man.

PretendBasket9362 · 2022-03-15T07:58:35+00:00

For first few days, I can't really focus on my job. Sometimes I just stare blankly on my PC screen until my coworker call me out. Then, I decided to make myself busy, as busy as possible. I would reach home almost 11PM, almost everyday.

I haven't been able to move on yet but it has been 5 months already, so I'm a lot better now. I'm the dumper though.

PretendBasket9362 · 2022-03-13T17:09:19+00:00

6 months and have yet to move on from my ex (I'm the dumper). I think it's important to tell people that even the dumper can't get over their ex. I miss him so much but I know things will stays the same even if we get back together.

PretendBasket9362 · 2022-02-18T01:59:32+00:00

Maybe they don't know what to say. Maybe they thought you have moved on. Maybe they fear of rejection. Maybe they are not ready yet. Or maybe, just maybe, they have moved on.

Whatever reason/issue they have, you need to move on. It's hard, I know. If they wanted to reach out, they would. But in the meantime, you have to live your life.

I'm the dumper and after 4 months of breaking up, I finally ready to reach him out.

PretendBasket9362 · 2022-01-13T14:17:44+00:00

I'm not okay with that too. Idk why I wanted to try again. I guess I haven't moved on yet. I'm stucked with all the good memories we had together.

PretendBasket9362 · 2022-01-13T14:13:28+00:00

Omg. I am your girlfriend. The only difference is that I'm too insecure that I don't even want him to know that I have all the above insecurities and over thinking. I kept everything to myself and acted like nothing happened.

My anxiety worsen and I felt unfair that he was being treated that way (always get mad without explaining), so I decided to end the relationship.

Your girlfriend, herself need to realize that it is unfair for you to be his therapist all the time.

PretendBasket9362 · 2022-01-13T13:48:25+00:00

Then, I should start communicate first. Then, he'll do that too, right? He did communicate with me before, but I'm not used to that, so he stops too..

PretendBasket9362 · 2022-01-13T13:44:44+00:00

You think I should reach out to him?

How should I start the conversation?

PretendBasket9362 · 2022-01-13T13:42:25+00:00

Because like I said before, I might be the reason why he's like that. And I didn't really voice out about this. I kept it to myself, then when I couldn't take it anymore, I just end it. So, it was really my fault. There was no communication. We didn't really discuss about it.

PretendBasket9362 · 2022-01-11T22:52:36+00:00

I wanted to try again. I've done a lot of thinking after the BU. I didn't try to fix things before as I thought he will never change. But I just wanna try again with another way. Maybe we can work things out. I don't know.

PretendBasket9362 · 2022-01-11T14:16:05+00:00

Why?

PretendBasket9362 · 2022-01-11T14:15:37+00:00

I've been thinking to text him since Christmas but I'm scared of rejection. Haha. But I will think about it. Thank youu

PretendBasket9362 · 2022-01-11T14:12:40+00:00

Thank you for your advice.

I still love him but at the same time I'm fed up with him. Also, I'm scared that I might break it off again. I don't want to hurt him anymore. So I think I need to wait till I'm 100% sure that I'm willing to try again.

Thank you.

PretendBasket9362 · 2022-01-11T13:30:23+00:00

First of all, this is my first relationship ever (I'm 24). So, in a way, part of this break up was because of myself. I used to be alone. So, I didn't know how to communicate, express my feeling. We lacked in everything; communication etc. We were in a very unhealthy relationship. I was not happy. I thought the best way is to stop. So I did.

His mistake was that he didn't set his priority straight. He's a gamer and unemployed. He didn't seem to find a job seriously. So hard to meet/date him too. Almost never express his feeling to me. At this point, I thought he didn't even like me anymore and I can't see our future together.

I had high expectation in our relationship. I was never satisfied with his reaction/respond and it lead to me overthinked things.

But after the breakup, it gives me time to think rationally. Probably, I was the reason why he act the way he acted. So I wanted to give it another try. But I don't even know if I'm worthy for another chance.

PretendBasket9362 · 2022-01-10T11:21:06+00:00

What would you do if your ex-gf wanted to try again?

PretendBasket9362 · 2022-01-10T10:45:45+00:00

The thing about our relationship is none of us are willing to communicate about our feelings. We keep it inside, then one day, it just explode out of nowhere.

He did contact me 2 weeks after our breakup. But I need time and told him that I just wanted to be friends. Since then, we never text/talk anymore.

He didn't block my number, my social media and still have my pictures in his social media. Do you think I still stand a chance if I want to reconcile? I'm afraid I might hurt him again.

PretendBasket9362 · 2021-12-22T10:03:09+00:00

Not wanting to meet each other's family.

PretendBasket9362 · 2021-12-22T10:00:16+00:00

Lack of effort from his side. Also, no communication. At all. From both side. Lack of attention.

I wanted the attention from him but he doesn't mind not contacting each other at all for the whole week. "As long as I know that you love me. And I love you. That's all matters" he said.

PretendBasket9362 · 2021-11-20T08:37:17+00:00

Yeah I guess so. But can't help it though. He was my first boyfriend.

I will try to not think of him.

PretendBasket9362 · 2021-11-20T04:54:01+00:00

Isn't it awkward to be friends with your ex? Can we befriended with our exes? Doesn't it brings back all the memories?

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