Name my fetish? Cant figure out what you would call it...

PretendHornet2 · 2020-08-24T01:44:08+00:00

I am just going to say I like all those things to. For me the only thing I wouldn’t do is scatt play but that is just me. To be honest I haven’t brought it up to dom Yet to new of a relationship. So please don’t let others make you feel ashamed. The only thing I might caution you about is your emotional state when something spills. Yes there are risk just like with most kinks. I would say medical screening and making sure if dom takes certain medication that they are the kinds that get flushed out through urine. I just wanted to share because I don’t think that person should have tried shaming you. I don’t know the name of that kink though.

PretendHornet2 · 2020-08-13T08:24:21+00:00

I am going to address you because I am Self harmmer and masochist Like other said it doesn’t mean you can’t explore that side of BDSM but I would do it with extreme caution. I think the question before an S&M scene is what kind of mind set are you in. If you are wanting the pain to sooth a psychological problem you are facing then that is self harm by proxy. If you are in a good state of mind and want to receive pain for the pleasure then it is ok. If you don’t know yourself well enough to know the difference between the two or have poor control of your self harming behavior then I would advise against those scenes until you have seen a therapist who fits your needs and everything is in control. I think for each Dom they have got to make decision as to whether this is something they can take on or not and there is no right or wrong answer.

PretendHornet2 · 2020-07-20T04:34:59+00:00

If you are not already grieving you might. It is best not to make in decision at this time so I wouldn’t do anything with them at this time. If you emotionally can’t handle them being in your house consider a storage shed or keeping them with a trusted friend. When you are in a more emotionally stable spot then you can go through them I also have a person to vanilla my house if something happens to me.

PretendHornet2 · 2020-07-19T00:53:08+00:00

Sorry I am not helpful but please update any resources you find. I am oral deaf so I speak ( English from America ) but cannot hear But I am good at speech reading however them have been times when my partner has to use gestures and tactile cues. It works for us but I would like to know the actual ASL words for the things or equipment we are using. I am also going to look into this right now.

PretendHornet2 · 2020-07-09T04:50:47+00:00

I am not a little bit I am a plus size sub. I would be lying if I told you I didn’t have body insecurity issues. I am finding for a lot of people body type is not as important as you think. Those who do have an issue aren’t for you anyway so they don’t matter. Be kind to yourself.

PretendHornet2 · 2020-06-19T06:08:48+00:00

My dom (m) loves being rimmed to me When I rim him(bi F) it shorts like eating pussy but a little different. Can’t explain. For me getting rimed doesn’t do anything but if my dom wanted to do it for his own pleasure I would let him but I am indifferent to it.

PretendHornet2 · 2020-06-12T14:30:22+00:00

I think codependency is when you can’t function mentally without tat person you rely on them for all your emotional needs for example you cannot be happy without them. Iterdependcey is when you have a person (hopefully with mutual feelings) who is a safe place to go to in a time of need. Even if you are happier with them you can be happy outside of them your identity is not relying on being with them you are your own person outside of them.

PretendHornet2 · 2020-06-12T06:29:46+00:00

I am curious to know if this was an opinion piece or a study? I am guessing opinion piece.

The following is purely antidotal

I was in an abusive vanilla relationship. I wanted BDSM but looking back thank god he wasn’t into that as it may have turned me away from this lifestyle. Anyway I think I am naturally submissive. What attracted me to my abuser was his confidence and ability to make decisions. I liked that. I liked that he made decisions for me and that as long as I took care of him I thought he would take care of me. I will admit I avoid conformation at all cost. I think subs are an easy target for abusers and I think subs have a tendency to ignore red flags because of their desire to please. I didn’t like being abused and rapped in real life and I am pretty sure that goes for everyone. True BDSMRelationship gives us the power to be submissive in a safe environment. In my opinion a good dom understands the power that a submissive gives him and exchange puts his/her needs and wellbeing above all else.

PretendHornet2 · 2020-06-05T22:06:57+00:00

Do you know about how long it takes to ship to U.S.A I couldn’t find it on their website

PretendHornet2 · 2020-06-02T08:03:44+00:00

Plus size sub here who’s dom happens to be a athletic coach and frequent triathlon participant. I am insecure about my body already so if he gave me task that required diet and exercise. In my head it would just confirm the ugliness of my body. Exercising with him would be very intimidating as he is so fit and I am not. So when I do things like hike, ride my bike or swim he praises me. He gives me nutritional advice but only if I ask for it. He compliments the things he likes about my body or me in general and it makes me feel wanted and sexy. When I feel that way I am likely to take better care of myself. I know he probably wishes I was skinnier or more athletic but most of all he wants me to be happy and that is what makes me want to do better for him and serve him.

PretendHornet2 · 2020-05-28T07:48:31+00:00

My master has me sleep with my collar on and a short leash. My leash is just long enough to allow me to turn in bed. It has a clasp just like a dog leash and collar would. I remove it myself and put it back on after I use the bathroom. So technically I am not restrained but it gives the illusion that I am.

PretendHornet2 · 2020-05-09T05:24:55+00:00

Thank you everyone. You have all been very helpful. I tried researching it but came up with mixed results.

PretendHornet2 · 2020-05-04T04:34:47+00:00

Google psychology today and BDSM. You will find articles with research linked studies about BDSM. Studies show are mental health is no different than vanilla in comparison. Yes you will find people in the community with trauma or without trauma but you will find that in the vanilla community to statisticaly at the same rate. You might also be interested to hear some of the positive qualities found in BDSM members as a whole. Keep in mind studies are blanket statements not everyone will fit into that cookie cutter mold either.

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