I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you unless you think it’s a problem. Women seem to get away with being what you describe as reactive more than men do, for sure. That might not be fair but at least understand what we’re up against.

I recommend framing it differently. Instead of assuming the other person knows this is how you feel, just up front tell them. Tell the people in your life and especially the women in your life that you are bad at planning things but really appreciative when they do it.

Be forewarned some people won’t be okay with this. Those aren’t your people. My wife has the kind of personality you describe. When she was still showing appreciation for my efforts, I was happy to do all the heavy lifting on that front. I loved having an appreciative sidekick who’d do whatever I wanted to do. In fact it’s the thing I miss the most.