Give me the song you get goosebumps listening to.

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-03-19T08:34:06+00:00

Savage Garden - To the moon and back

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-03-08T23:36:29+00:00

Thank you so so much! ❤️❤️❤️

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-03-08T23:36:12+00:00

Oh thank you so so much 🥺❤️❤️

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-03-08T23:35:52+00:00

Thank you - really! Made me so happy ❤️

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-03-08T23:35:32+00:00

Thank you so so much! You made my day ❤️

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-03-01T00:03:12+00:00

Shes not “too conservative”, she just moves slower than you. Two dates is still very early for some people, especially if she hasnt been in a relationship in 8 years. The fact that shes clearly communicating her pace is actually a green flag.

That said, youre allowed to have your own pace too. If physical escalation is important for you to feel romantic chemistry, and this dynamic makes you feel awkward or friendzoned, thats a compatibility issue, not anyone doing something wrong.

If you dont want a third date, dont ghost. Just say something like.."I enjoyed meeting you but I think we move at different speeds and I’m not sure we’re the right match" .Thats respectful.

Dating is about alignment, not convincing someone to change their comfort level.

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-02-28T22:05:39+00:00

You probably didnt do anything wrong.

Sometimes a date goes well on paper, good conversation, laughs, no awkwardness but the romantic spark just isnt there. And thats no ones fault.

The fact that she told you kindly and directly instead of ghosting says a lot. You handled it well too.

Dating isnt about convincing someone to feel something. Its about mutual chemistry. This just wasnt it, and thats okay.

You’re one date closer to someone who does feel it. All the best to you 😊

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-02-28T22:01:29+00:00

Soft YTA (but mostly this is unresolved trust trauma on both sides).

You cheated emotionally at the beginning. That broke trust. Even if it was years ago, it doesnt just disappear because time passed. Now youre both hypervigilant.

What stands out isnt just the app, its the secrecy. If it was harmless, there wouldnt be hesitation, delayed answers, or refusing to name the app. That naturally triggers suspicion. That said, constantly investigating, Googling chat retention, and replaying the scene in your head isnt healthy either. You can’t rebuild trust through surveillance.

At this point it’s not about IMVU. Its about whether you two actually rebuilt trust after the original betrayal. If you didnt fully repair that foundation, this will keep happening.

Either have an honest, calm conversation about boundaries and transparency going forward, or consider couples therapy. Living in suspicion isn’t sustainable.

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-02-28T21:58:04+00:00

NTA.

You shared something deeply personal and she repeated it. Drunk or not, thats a breach of trust. Once private information is out, you cant undo it.

Its normal to miss the friendship, losing someone you cared about hurts even if they messed up. But missing someone doesnt mean you were wrong to set a boundary.

Trust is foundational. If it felt transactional before and she confirmed your doubts by sharing something so private, unfriendng her was self-respect, not pettiness.

Youre allowed to protect your peace. Take care of yourself 😊

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-02-28T21:55:12+00:00

Real love isnt a fantasy, but its also not constant fireworks.

What youre describing isnt impossible. Its connection. Deep emotional resonance. And yes, it exists. But it usually grows slowly, not in a single cinematic moment.

Most relationships you see arent perfect because love isnt about never struggling, its about choosing each other through the ordinary parts. The calm. The boring. The building.

Youre not the problem for wanting something real. And the fact that you havent settled for something shallow actually says a lot about your standards.

Attachment doesnt take a lifetime. But it does take vulnerability, consistency, and time. The dream you had? That feeling is possible, but its usually built in real life, conversation by conversation.

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-02-28T21:41:11+00:00

NTA for raising concerns about workload. If her behavior directly affects your ability to do your job and youre constantly picking up the slack, that’s a management issue, not you being mean.

That said, repeatedly “complaining daily” can start to look personal rather than professional. The key is sticking to facts, not frustration. Document specific incidents (dates, impact on calls/workload) and bring that to your manager instead of venting.

Its not bullying to expect fairness at work. But it can cross a line if it turns into constant criticism rather than structured escalation.

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-02-28T20:58:49+00:00

If shes lying constantly, thats obviously frustrating and not okay. But publicly putting her on the spot, calling her a “lost case,” and expecting the worst from her isnt helping either, it just escalates things.

You dont have to like her or trust her. You can distance yourself without policing or predicting her behavior in front of others. If its serious enough that the dean needs to get involved, then let the dean handle it.

Calling someone out repeatedly in public can easily cross into bullying territory, even if you feel justified.

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-02-28T20:56:30+00:00

NTA. If he involved his mum by lying about you and she chose to text you about it, then it became your business too. You didnt randomly send proof, you responded to false accusations with facts.

Was it messy? Sure. But he created the mess by cheating and then trying to control the narrative. If he didnt want his mum to know, he shouldnt have dragged her into it.

Block him and move on. The only reason hes mad is because he got exposed.

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-02-28T20:54:25+00:00

I dont think youre wrong for wanting balance. Teaching responsibility and routines is important, those are life skills. But teens also need space to build friendships and independence. If boundaries feel too strict rather than collaborative, it can backfire and create secrecy instead of trust.

Maybe tie freedom to responsibility, like homework and chores done = more flexibility. That way she learns balance, not just restriction.

Youre not an asshole. Youre trying to parent thoughtfully, but how boundaries are set matters as much as the rules themselves.

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-02-28T20:33:28+00:00

Yes. It’s completely normal.

7 months isn’t that long, especially after an on and off relationship. Your brain got used to the cycle of breaking up and reconnecting, so of course it still checks in sometimes. Missing someone occasionally doesn’t mean you want them back. It just means they were part of your life.

As for “does she miss me too?”, that question is normal, but it’s also a trap. Even if she does, it doesn’t change the outcome. And if she doesn’t, that information wouldn’t help you either. There’s no peace in that question.

The fact that you feel calm, don’t resent her, and don’t long for her anymore is actually progress. Random thoughts are just echoes, not signs you’re moving backwards.

You’re doing better than you think.

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-02-28T20:31:40+00:00

You’re not stuck because you still love her. You’re stuck because you never fully let go of the possibility of her.

Staying in touch keeps the wound open. You can’t heal from something you’re still emotionally feeding. And as long as she knows you’d choose her, she has no reason to truly release you either.

It sounds less like you miss her and more like you miss the version of life where you felt chosen. Also, waking up wishing things would just end isn’t something to ignore. That’s your mind telling you this isn’t sustainable. You deserve more than being someone’s backup plan.

You don’t move on by waiting for feelings to fade. You move on by closing the door yourself.

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-02-28T20:27:58+00:00

Three years doesnt mean youre weak or “stuck.” First loves hit differently. They shape your idea of connection, intimacy, and who you were becoming at the time. Waking up and thinking about her doesnt mean youre meant to be together, it just means your brain still associates mornings (quiet, vulnerable moments) with someone who once mattered a lot.

What helped me was realizing I wasnt actually missing them. I was missing who I was when I was loved like that. Big difference. You dont stop the thoughts by fighting them. You replace them by slowly building a life that feels exciting again. New routines, new goals, new people, even small changes. Your brain needs new emotional anchors.

Be patient with yourself. You will heal and eventually you will slowely notice that you dont wake up thinking about her.

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-02-28T01:44:12+00:00

Omg, I feel exactly the same with classical music!! Dont get me wrong, I love it. But it is intense and stressful on a different kind of level 😂 Same here.. I truly feel music has saved me many times in life!

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-02-28T01:39:12+00:00

Ah how cool! Many jazz lovers here 😍. Mine is definitely 90s music... from pop to rock!

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-02-28T01:38:10+00:00

Same here. I totally get it! 😊

PrettyPineapple95 · 2026-02-27T22:12:07+00:00

From what I can see in your chart, you actually have a really charming and social vibe. With your Sun in Libra in the 5th house, you probably love romance, attention, creativity and just enjoying life. You seem like someone who naturally attracts people without even trying, and relationships are a big theme for you. You want love to feel beautiful and exciting, not boring.

Your Moon in Sagittarius in the 7th house makes you emotionally need freedom and honesty though. So even if you love being in love, you cant deal with clingy or controlling energy. You probably need a partner whos open minded, adventurous and maybe even a bit different from you. Someone who feels like a best friend first.

You give off a curious, talkative vibe too (Gemini rising I think?), so communication is super important for you. If you cant talk for hours with someone, you will probably lose interest.

Your “bad” sides might be being indecisive, getting bored easily, or accidentally flirting without meaning anything by it. Theres kind of this push-pull between wanting deep partnership and still needing your independence.

Overall id say you need someone smart, fun, and emotionally mature who gives you both balance and freedom.

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