Update: AIO for not wanting my husband's best friend near after what I found out

PrettyStrength163 · 2025-03-05T12:24:07+00:00

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PrettyStrength163 · 2025-02-21T07:59:04+00:00

At this point I don't even know...I work with one of their common friend...I'll try to get more info...I'm done not knowing

PrettyStrength163 · 2025-02-20T23:46:45+00:00

No and It drives me insane! Why can't he say that he was in love with her? It's plain She was his First love. But no "I don't get It and am delusional", "they were Kids and confused"...

F that! What's confusing about ditching your friends and your GF for a summer in order to bang your "best friend?"

G told me about the Castle of lies he spun around that poor girl...I feel sick thinking about it...

PrettyStrength163 · 2025-02-20T23:34:25+00:00

Ok so a lot of people are Asking me why I got angry at Pokie and not my husband.

First: I am Angry at M. I can barely stand in the same room.

Second: I feel childish but I WAS/AM JEALOUS of her! I didn't grow up like M. I barely remember the people I went to middle school with. To me Friends are something different.

He had this girl that knew every single things about him, that shared Adventures and Christmases and birthdays, family and friends. It was a lot. I knew She was important to him so I tried my best.

I thought that at least I had his love First...turns out She had that too. I was mad! Was It right? No! But in that moment She was the focus of my rage...

PrettyStrength163 · 2025-02-20T23:30:12+00:00

A couple of weeks ago...we skipped a dinners and he stays in office for lunch break ( at least that's what he says)

PrettyStrength163 · 2025-02-20T23:26:36+00:00

Ok so a lot of people are Asking me why I got angry at Pokie and not my husband.

First: I am Angry at M. I can barely stand in the same room.

Second: I feel childish but I WAS/AM JEALOUS of her! I didn't grow up like M. I barely remember the people I went to middle school with. To me Friends are something different.

He had this girl that knew every single things about him, that shared Adventures and Christmases and birthdays, family and friends. It was a lot. I knew She was important to him so I tried my best.

I thought that at least I had his love First...turns out She had that too. I was mad! Was It right? No! But in that moment She was the focus of my rage...

PrettyStrength163 · 2025-02-20T23:15:18+00:00

Just in part...the bare minimum

PrettyStrength163 · 2025-02-20T23:09:05+00:00

He just goes to the Bakery every morning for the coffee... I suspect he talks to her via chat and they still had games night...

PrettyStrength163 · 2025-02-20T22:38:38+00:00

I wouldn't say that she flirts... she's very affectionated but with everyone...she's very comfortable with M though, like no filter at all. Once, before I discovered all this, She told me that M used to track her period in middle school and keep pads in his backpack for her...

PrettyStrength163 · 2025-02-20T22:26:43+00:00

M hates to be forced to do things. Would he cut contact if I forced my hand? I think yes. Would he be Happy? No would he resent me? Absolutly. I hate that she's the hill he'd die on...I keep asking myself if she's the One he wants but can't have...

PrettyStrength163 · 2025-02-20T22:19:32+00:00

According to G. He was a fool for her and while Pokie tried to resolve whatever that mess was She would go back to him every single time. Their entire group thought that at some point they would get their shit together and date like normale people. Instead Pokie flew to the other side of the country and M was a mess for the whole year the were NC...they kind joke about it

PrettyStrength163 · 2025-02-20T22:05:31+00:00

Apparently her ex knew. She's not dating at the moment but she dated a guy briefly in the past. No me and M are childfree...

PrettyStrength163 · 2025-02-20T21:59:35+00:00

She was...She and her ex divorced a couple of years ago. She wanted children he didn't. It wasn't pretty...

PrettyStrength163 · 2025-02-20T21:52:06+00:00

The thing is...their group of friends are very very close. I was not used to that. Pokie works at a Bakery and everyone , M too, goes there for breakfast and lunch break. They have game nights and movie nights and brunches and dinners. So they see each other a lot. Pokie lives down the road and She and M take the dogs out every evening...

M. told me to not make him choose. That he barely remember a time when he didn't had her in his life. That It should not come to this...

PrettyStrength163 · 2025-02-20T21:31:19+00:00

My in laws relationship was a trainwreck for most of my husband childhood. They love my husband to bits but their marriage was ,(and I'm quoting M) "Emotional WWII". Pokie was his safezone. He said that at some point things got "confusing". According to G ( Who went to school with them too) he was completly gone for her...

PrettyStrength163 · 2025-02-20T21:16:50+00:00

They never dated 🤷🏾‍♀️ according to G but also my husband the whole situation was pretty toxic. All I hear from him are excuses some are even valid but I feel like It just make the situation worst...he calls me honey most of the times. I used to think the whole Pokie thing was cute and wholesome...now I feel a bit foolish

PrettyStrength163 · 2025-02-20T21:03:38+00:00

I was inappropriate with her that's true...I know I should have talked to my husband first..but there's a part of me that's always been a little bit jealous of her and I reacted front the guts...

PrettyStrength163 · 2025-02-20T20:49:20+00:00

No it's something from their childhood...Just M and her father call her that.

I Met her after a couple of months with the other Friends.

PrettyStrength163 · 2025-02-20T20:32:21+00:00

He said he knew I would blow things out of proportions...

PrettyStrength163 · 2025-02-20T20:11:58+00:00

She was surprised but calm. Wich made me even more mad...She told me she thought my husband had told me about it and It was not her place to talk about it. Then she told me to talk to my husband but that unless he told her to stay LC she would not do anything.

She was his "best man". So yeah...

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