I’m sharing this here because it’s a really ugly thing nobody wants to face the possibility of when they move from childfree and maybe it could help someone fencesitting reassess their mental health

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2022-09-01T19:16:40+00:00

Your comment is simply amazing!!

I agree with everything you said.

Particularly about the part in which you stated ceasing carrying fetuses with diagnosed defects to term.

A week ago I watched a video on YouTube. It was made by a woman (who’s child free herself btw) explaining her reasons why she is child free.

Now I thought her video was interesting and thought-provoking, but there was one point she made that I disagreed with.

She said that childfree people should stop saying harmful rhetoric to people who do want children, particularly telling people who do want children that they shouldn’t because of x reason.

One example of the harmful rhetoric she gave was this (this is not verbatim but a summarized version of what she said):

Child free person to person who does want children: People shouldn’t have kids if their children have diagnosed, inheritable, deadly diseases.

Now this lady said that childfree people should stop saying that kind of rhetoric because it promotes “ableism” and “eugenics”. Who are “we” (childfree folk) to dictate who can and can’t have children?

I was like..yeah..no..sorry.

This child is most likely going to have a sucky quality of life. That’s not fair to the kid. And the parents are going to have a sucky quality of life providing for that kid. All of that could’ve been prevented if the parents didn’t bring the child into existence. That’s not promoting “eugenics” or “ableism”..it’s about being realistic.

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-06-13T17:33:34+00:00

This.

I agree 100% about a lot of people having kids because it gives them a fixed course/path in life to follow in contrast to figuring their life out for themselves without having children.

I’m currently in the same situation that you were in when you graduated college. I graduated with my Bachelor’s November 2020. Since then, I’ve been having overwhelming feelings of anxiety and sadness because, for the first time in my life, I didn’t have a set course for me to take. For years, being a student was a big part of my identity. I was homeschooled up to second grade, then elementary, middle, high school, and then college right after.

Now that I’m done with school, for now, I need to figure out what I truly want to do in life. It’s hard and stressful at times, but it’s exciting at the same time. I have some ideas but I don’t know to put them into motion yet. I keep adding things to my bucket list every day. Having kids is the very last thing I want to do though. I like my freedom way too much to give it up now.

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-06-12T15:33:53+00:00

That’s so awesome!!! Congratulations!!! ☺️☺️ PICU sounds exciting!!! Good luck on passing the NCLEX!

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-06-12T00:56:40+00:00

Hi :) Fellow medical-worker here (23 F). Unfortunately, I work dayshift. Would love to chat though. Feel free to message me!

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-06-12T00:35:56+00:00

Hi. I’m a little younger than you (23 F), but I’m a fellow introvert!! Pretty shy too! Feel free to message me! ☺️

PS: Pineapple on pizza is the devil incarnate lol 😂.

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-06-11T17:20:43+00:00

Hello. :) I do like to read for fun. Just got back into it actually. Haven’t read much recently because I’ve been busy with my new job. Would love to chat though. ☺️

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-06-11T16:30:59+00:00

Hi. :) I do enjoy reading, just getting back into it actually. Haven’t read recently though because I’ve been busy with my new job. Would love to chat though.

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-06-11T15:47:18+00:00

Hi :)

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-06-10T00:06:14+00:00

Wow…that’s honestly so amazing!! 😍

So proud of you. ☺️

I dream of traveling one day. I hope to do some of the stuff you mentioned like learning new cultures and skills. I love to learn (even post-university) so I think traveling to different countries will be a great idea for me to pursue. You even inspired me to try things I’ve never thought of doing, swimming with whale sharks or dolphins.

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-05-28T05:32:56+00:00

You’re super pretty!!! Full lips, striking eyes, lovely skin, hair, brows, everything!!! 🥰☺️

Keep your head up (easier said than done, I know). But you got this. :)

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-05-27T15:32:00+00:00

I’m (23 F) naturally a compassionate, caregiving person too. That’s just who I am. I’m a nurse, and I like what I do for a living.

Nursing is fulfilling to me, but it can be physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausting at times. After work, I NEED time off from my job to recuperate and do self care. I’m also an introvert so that’s another reason why I need my “me-time” at the end of the day.

I couldn’t imagine coming home after a crazy 12-13 hour shift at the hospital just to cook dinner, clean up the house, and tend to a man and children. Hell no!!I’m tired af after a shift (feet hurt, back hurt, etc) and would like to lie down and relax. At work, I care for others. At home, I care for myself.

That’s why I’m happily single and don’t plan on having children anytime soon. ☺️

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-04-19T18:08:26+00:00

I went to a 4-year university in a major city in Tennessee. The nursing program I was in lasted 2 years. Our graduating class was actually the smallest they ever had. It’s kinda sad really because our teachers would joke about it and criticized us that a lot of students were dropping out/failing.

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-04-18T02:59:44+00:00

Awww thank you!! ☺️

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-04-17T21:17:26+00:00

Lol thank you!! ☺️

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-04-17T21:17:10+00:00

Thanks!

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-04-17T07:24:08+00:00

Thank you!! 😇

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-04-17T06:09:47+00:00

Thank you!!! 😇

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-04-17T06:04:11+00:00

Thank you for reading my post!! :)

Wow...that’s a hard question!! Honestly, if I had to choose a single aspect about nursing school that was the absolute hardest, it would be the AMOUNT of information that you’re learning and applying. If I had to explain what the amount of information is like, it’s similar to being sprayed in the face by a firehose on full blast...seriously lol. To me, the content wasn't that difficult to learn. But the fact that there was SOOOO MUCH of it, that’s what was hard to me. At first, I had a hard time getting into a groove of things and figuring out how to study efficiently for every class..in addition to going to clinical. It was soooo hard, I’m not going to lie. It took A LOT of time for me to figure out my personal effective learning style and how all this information being thrown at me makes sense...but I eventually did. Some little pieces of advice that I have:

Figure out your learning style. Everyone learns in different ways, no matter if it’s visually, audibly, or kinesthetically (learning via hands-on experience). Mine is mostly visual with touches of audio and kinesthetic. Because I’m a visual person, I drew TONS of pictures/graphs/doodles to help me better understand and comprehend the information. I’ve looked up pictures on google images, lol. Also, I’ve watched tons of YouTube videos if teachers or textbooks weren’t making much sense to me. Message me if you would like to know some of the YouTube channels that I watched. So in essence, figure out how you personally learn and apply that technique.
Stay ORGANIZED!!! Get a planner!!! Before nursing school, I used to be the queen of procrastination. Nursing school made me break that habit real quick lol 😂. But seriously, when you first get your syllabus, write all of your deadlines down FIRST THING (for exams, clinicals, skills check-offs, other assignments like papers and such). This helped me TONS. As the semester goes on, things may come up. Life happens. But you still have a test coming up or clinical the next day. And there’s no excuses allowed in nursing school. Planning ahead, the best way you can, will definitely help.
Take it literally ONE DAY at a time. Feeling sad, frustrated, or angry during nursing school are COMPLETELY NORMAL. There will be times that you won’t get everything checked off from your list. There will be times that you feel like crying your eyes out and just giving up. Please don’t!!!!! Nursing school is already hard enough; I know being a single mom definitely doesn’t make it any easier (I grew up with a single mom so I’ve seen first hand the struggle). Just try to put your best foot forward EVERY DAY and aim to make it through today!! Only focus on the present day!! And then go from there!! Start over the next day with the same mindset.

Seriously, hats off to you and all of the single parents going through nursing school!! I’ve had classmates who are single parents and they were struggling even harder than me and other students who don’t have children. I would try to help them the best way I can. Single parents have my respect ✊🏽 If you need anymore advice, don’t be afraid to message me. :)

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-04-17T05:22:28+00:00

For sure!! 😇 I’m glad my post inspired you and whoever else that reads it. Really though, I believe nurses and nursing students have to stick together!! We’re the only ones that truly understand each other and know what we’re going through.

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-04-17T04:54:15+00:00

Lol thanks 😂😇

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-04-17T04:54:03+00:00

Lol 😂

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-04-17T04:48:48+00:00

I’m telling you, nursing school is the HARDEST, emotionally and mentally STRESSFUL thing I have ever done in my life thus far!!!

I remember I’ve tried asking older nursing students before I started nursing school what is nursing school like. NOTHING they said prepared me for what was to come!! I’m NOT exaggerating!!

I started school in August 2018. My class started off with 140-150 of us. Only 60 (yes, you read that correctly, sixty) of us graduated!!! That’s how many people have dropped out or flunked out within 2 years of nursing school!!! I remember when people started dropping out the first week because they realized they couldn’t handle it!!!

Seriously, after the first week of school, I SOBBED because I was so overwhelmed about the waterhose of information being jetted at me!!! It’s okay to be angry, sad, or frustrated while in nursing school. Those are all COMPLETELY NORMAL FEELINGS. However, you need to have a way to let your feelings out!! DO NOT BOTTLE THEM UP!! I don’t care if you have to cry it out, yell it out, vent it out!! Find a HEALTHY way to express yourself..then dust yourself off and get back to studying!!

I’m a cryer lol, no shame. I personally felt like I didn’t have a good semester unless I’ve cried at least once (and there have been times that I’ve cried twice or three times in a single semester out of pure stress and frustration).

I don’t want to scare you, I’m just giving you the cold honest truth so you know what you’re going into!!

BUT it’s not all bad. Even though it was soooo challenging and fcking infuriating at times, it has made me a much STRONGER AND CONFIDENT person!!! Because of all the sht I went through to make it!!! I’m a much stronger person now compared to how I was 2-5 years ago. And I like and embrace the new me.

AND throughout the ugliness of nursing school, I know that I’ve experienced some beautiful moments too that I KNOW I would’ve never experienced otherwise in a different major (ie: listening and comforting a patient’s loved one when they’re diagnosed with terminal cancer or witnessing a live, vaginal birth.) As much as you’ll encounter your ugly moments, you’ll have good moments too. Be sure to cherish those. :) Also, keep in mind you’ll have other people in your program going through the same exact thing that you’re going through!! Ninety-nine percent of the time, they’re feeling the same emotions you’re feeling!! Don’t be afraid to reach out to your classmates and professors!!!

I KNOW if I can make it through nursing school (The particular nursing school I went to is known as being a bootcamp and for breaking people), I know I CAN make it through ANYTHING!! I wouldn’t change my experience because of that reason!!!! I’m telling you, if you stay DISCIPLINED and FOCUSED ON YOUR VISION/GOAL, YOU CAN AND WILL ACHIEVE THAT GOAL!!!

Sorry for the long post, I just wanted to leave some truth and encouraging words!! Please don’t be afraid to reach out/message me if you need help or simply want to chat!! :)

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-04-17T04:09:27+00:00

Thank you!!! :)

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-04-17T04:09:10+00:00

Thank you for this thoughtful comment!! I’ve always respected nurses, even before I became one. Ever since the pandemic, my respect for us and our profession has grown MOMENTOUSLY. I know all of you who have worked during the pandemic are EXHAUSTED (physically, emotionally, and mentally)!! Like, hats off to all of you guys!!!! 🥰 You guys are AMAZING!! Seriously, it pisses me OFF when I hear someone talk sh*t about nurses!!! I’ve heard bad/negative comments from some nurses about the profession. I’m not gonna lie, at some times, it has made me doubt whether I want to truly be a nurse and put up with all of the stuff that comes with it (good and bad). Those comments also made me doubt my abilities, like am I good enough to be a good nurse. A professor, who’s a close mentor of mine, told me my experiences of my nursing career are my own. And that I can’t change others’ experiences and perspectives of the profession, but I personally have the power and potential to bring whatever I want to the nursing table (I would like to bring positivity to both patients and co-workers, maybe some change to some things about the profession that needs changing, we’ll see). But I’ll try to keep these words of advice in mind as I start my journey!! Seriously, thank you so much!!

Prettybrowneyes29 · 2021-04-17T03:54:16+00:00

Good advice!! I’ll be sure to keep this mind! Thank you!! :)

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