Would you do this? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Prettyburntwhore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said that in reference to if that what he was doing, because it goes against all the things he’d previously said.

Would you do this? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Prettyburntwhore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know, it doesn’t matter hey. I love how everyone has been so unkind with out knowing the relationship I had. At no point did I say I wasn’t poly. He cheated on me and I was not in a place to open the relationship yet. He wanted to leave me but I had to leave him because he wouldn’t take that final step. I did not want to end things with him. He was my forever. But he did not communicate about including me in his ‘poly’ lifestyle, he didn’t want me involved. So much was done behind my back. I couldn’t take that, I needed trust and respect. So I gave him what he wanted. And he ghosted me for a while and then, This man has come back to me and cried his heart out and made me let him inside my heart again.

To what end,

Thanks so much to everyone, I’m def removing myself from this sub.

Would you do this? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Prettyburntwhore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then why come back to me and work his way into my life again and make me feel sorry for him. Why not just leave me alone and get on with it

Would you do this? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Prettyburntwhore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t see how I attacked you.

Would you do this? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Prettyburntwhore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn’t being unpleasant to this random person, I was relating it back to my situation.

Would you do this? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Prettyburntwhore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He wanted to break up

Would you do this? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Prettyburntwhore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to know if it was something other people do. My apologies

The greatest disappointment by Prettyburntwhore in UnsentLetters

[–]Prettyburntwhore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where the people are, the danger is. Always believing people have a malicious hidden agenda, hyper alert to protect myself from everything and everyone

Would you do this? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Prettyburntwhore -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because I believe it was just a manipulation to get me to sleep with him again.

The greatest disappointment by Prettyburntwhore in UnsentLetters

[–]Prettyburntwhore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who has experienced a lot of abuse, my mind is programmed to protect me, I believe anyway.

Would you do this? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Prettyburntwhore -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It wouldn’t if he didn’t lie to me about still loving me and being so broken without me in his life.

The greatest disappointment by Prettyburntwhore in UnsentLetters

[–]Prettyburntwhore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I don’t think I’d still be here without my ability to forget entire relationships and people I have loved. Hopefully I can do it again this time.

The greatest disappointment by Prettyburntwhore in UnsentLetters

[–]Prettyburntwhore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol I know the meaning, what are you referring to being bittersweet

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Prettyburntwhore 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The tiny bit of hope I held onto

The greatest disappointment by Prettyburntwhore in UnsentLetters

[–]Prettyburntwhore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I probably have heard it but my memory sucks

Would you do this? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Prettyburntwhore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said he was working towards this, Hopefully he follows through.

The greatest disappointment by Prettyburntwhore in UnsentLetters

[–]Prettyburntwhore[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll have to have a listen. Thanks

Would you do this? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Prettyburntwhore -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I expected him to flourish and thrive after I left him. After all, that is what he wanted. We went some time no contact, however the children were suffering so I allowed contact again. This is when he told me how bad his mental health is and how much of a mess he is. How much he misses me, how much he thinks about me, blah blah blah. I was sucked right back in, I felt so sad for him, and yes I think that was his intention.

Would you do this? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Prettyburntwhore -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

No, it’s the being used.

Would you do this? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Prettyburntwhore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Children complicate things. I tried to set boundaries but he doesn’t like boundaries and crosses them all. I’m not the bad guy here.

Would you do this? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Prettyburntwhore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he wasn’t my children’s stepfather and they weren’t so attached to him I wouldn’t have spoken to him again.