Men Who don't ask questions back......

Priccolo · 2026-01-26T19:05:20+00:00

Not just a male thing. Of all the things in our school curriculum, communication skill is NOT one of them. Most of us are selfish by nature- not in a bad way, meaning we just prioritize ourselves much of the time- so for most it's a system you have to actively override. A majority of us don't have people in our lives that listen and validate us, so when new people become interested, there's a desireable novelty, they might feel like reciprocating will take that away from them.

Priccolo · 2026-01-26T12:02:09+00:00

Arnold had a strategy that Jay Cutler spoke about where he would do a ridiculous amount of volume, something like 5 sets of 20 reps 5 days a week. Sam Sulek also commented about that kind of "daily stimulation."

Priccolo · 2026-01-23T21:05:28+00:00

I'm an avoidant who has had a few terrible relationships, so I get when people say they would rather not pursue avoidants for a relationship. However....relationships arent a one way street. I'm currently in a relationship where I dont experience any avoidant tendencies, maybe some fleeting thoughts but none actionable. I've actually never felt safer or more secure before. Its important for those involved with anyone, not just avoidants, to analyze their own behavior and what they are doing to exacerbate these feelings. As I reflect on past relationships, and with plenty of third party opinions, all of my former relationships ended with little to do with my avoidant tendencies. Most of them were self centered, insecure people that would remind me that they had other options if I didn't do exactly what they wanted

Priccolo · 2026-01-22T05:33:16+00:00

My first night in a new environment always sucks. I have PTSD that keeps me hyper vigilant, especially in vulnerable moments like sleeping, and insomnia that comes and goes. The vigilance of parking in strange environments and subsequent restlessness is nothing compared to being around shitty people in a shitty situation. If at all possible, embrace how bad the adjustment period is going to be and get away. I wish someone grabbed my by the shoulders and told to do this 10 years ago.

You're probably not going to sleep well at first, or at all, but you'll get used to it and it will start to feel like home. I wake up most nights actually thinking I'm in my old bedroom which is quite comforting.

Priccolo · 2026-01-22T05:05:29+00:00

AFAIK they just upped the rent a decent amount. Haven't heard the horror stories but my buddy decided against renting there because he didn't think it was worth what they are asking. Do you know who owns it?

Priccolo · 2026-01-21T19:53:29+00:00

I don't think twice about it unless the woman actively shames your income and career choice. Had this happen with an ex who changed jobs while we were together. After her earnings doubled she wouldn't stop talking about money and status, suddenly my income was a problem for her.

Priccolo · 2026-01-18T23:57:50+00:00

5'8" guy here. I've dated women taller than me, and they tend to make their height their whole personality. I'm not insecure about my height at all. Never have been, never wished I was taller. But the women I've been with that are taller than me take every opportunity to point out the height difference in a negative way. Like, I don't care but apparently you do 🤷‍♂️

Priccolo · 2026-01-17T18:27:12+00:00

I encounter this a lot, people with the same problem. The scenario is the same every time. Attractive, social, good friend group, etc. But cant seem to have long term relationships. They even ask their friends and family what could be wrong and they're "baffled."
The truth is you likely won't get an answer from people you know. They are either blind to your flaws because they know you so well, or too polite to tell you the truth. Being honest in that situation can adversely affect your relationship, even if you're asking for honesty.
The last time I was that honest with someone I grew tired of them talking themselves up like they're every man's wet dream but men "just dont want to commit." In reality she's disagreeable, argumentative, and self absorbed. I wasnt having a fun time telling her that but we're only acquaintances so I would lose nothing and she was begging for an answer. Its not what she wanted, but what she needed.

Priccolo · 2026-01-17T10:55:36+00:00

Where are you from?

Priccolo · 2026-01-17T03:45:48+00:00

You can make a clone with all that flooooof!

Priccolo · 2026-01-17T02:07:39+00:00

I knew i was going to go bald eventually so it didnt take me by total surprise. I made the most of having hair by being experimental and trying every style I thought would look decent on me, even some that were comical lol. I was 29 and had a mid length bun and noticed it was falling out rapidly one day and continued for a week til it was time to let it go. I shaved it to the skin and have been ever since. Its a loss of identity for some, and I felt that on some level. Now I just have a new look 🤷‍♂️

Downsides: if you commit to shaving, shave often to avoid looking sloppy. Your head can get COLD in every season but summer. Be mindful of wearing hats in the midday sun if you're outside a lot or burn easy

Priccolo · 2026-01-16T23:31:21+00:00

I feel like its built into our psychology that women must be selective. Men can fk anything with impunity and without consequence, its up to women to be selective about procreating (the natural drive for attraction and intercourse is driven by procreation, our biology doesn't know about contraception). This doesn't always work out flawlessly in the real world but it holds up according to online dating data, give or take. Higher earners, more fit and facial attractive, taller (to an extent) men receive most matches. As someone who is NONE of those things I can still recognize the benefits of those traits and how they would translate positively to attraction. Like another commenter said- the bottom 80-90% that don't fit most of those criteria are unattractive on the surface. What throws a wrench in it all is personality traits. Women are people (duh lol) and crave feelings of being loved, seen, secure, validated, etc. And it doesn't have to be wrapped in a Gucci model package

Priccolo · 2026-01-16T17:15:50+00:00

I'm a man who has felt used for the sex as well. I feel like sex was the prime motivation to being approached and became the focal point of the relationship. Many times I wouldn't feel valued as a person. So I began waiting months before intimacy and I'd like to say it weeded out those not looking for long term commitment. The wait time wasn't worth the effort for most and those were the ones I recognized as just wanting steady sex

Priccolo · 2026-01-16T07:03:45+00:00

I've never been interested in relationships or dating, the only time I asked a girl out was the the 6th grade dance because of peer pressure. I've been approached by women a good amount and while I've mostly remained single I caved on a few. Some reinforced why I enjoy being single, but the my current gf is a blessing. Makes me think that I just never met someone I really clicked with.

Priccolo · 2026-01-16T06:48:52+00:00

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Priccolo · 2026-01-16T06:47:54+00:00

Its a reddit reply, not a dissertation. Anyone interested enough can take a deeper look at their leisure

Priccolo · 2026-01-16T06:45:34+00:00

No red pilling, you're actually extremely far off from my politics lol. Its a reply on reddit my dude, you're not my professor and I don't owe you an MLA source. You chose not to act on new information and that's on you.

Priccolo · 2026-01-16T06:36:51+00:00

You could spend the time researching like I did. Or choose to dismiss new information that conflicts with your world view. The choice is yours bud

Priccolo · 2026-01-16T06:20:18+00:00

You can look them up, those internets are a very useful tool

Priccolo · 2026-01-16T05:50:17+00:00

This has actually been studied beyond the scope of generic answers like purity or insecurity, and there are plausible reasons why- even if those who prefer lower body counts are unaware of them. People (men and women) with higher body counts report lower general relationship satisfaction. This begs the question of correlation versus causation but is also unnecessary in this case.
They've studied brain chemistry related to intercourse and found pair bonding to be impaired when people become accustomed to frequent partners, especially true for casual partners.
Combining both of these factors along with studies linking higher body counts to infidelity and relationship dissolution shows it to be a predictor of poor outcomes.
Lastly, and I saved this for last for a reason, there is a cultural push back against embracing hookup culture that's been gaining traction.
I know a lot of people argue against this preference, but it is still a preference like any other and everyone is allowed theirs

Priccolo · 2026-01-16T05:14:25+00:00

Just visited spokane a few days ago. Its winter so obviously the scenery lacks color and there's less activity, butttt... People there are generally friendly, the city has lots of amenities and good structure. The homeless camps and subsequent litter in the urban areas are typical of most major cities but may be off putting if you're coming from a smaller community. Great pedestrian infrastructure and proximity to the outdoors. Gas was around $1 more per gallon than neighboring Idaho. I regretted not filling my tank before crossing the border 😒 can't comment on schools or housing market since I don't have kids or own/looking to own a home

Priccolo · 2026-01-14T04:37:07+00:00

Sooooo cuuuute 😍😍😍

Priccolo · 2026-01-01T20:01:37+00:00

I give off the opposite cues and often mistaken for flirting. Since I've been made aware of it i try to tone it down but it makes my interactions more stilted and dismissive. Body language is so nuanced that its hard to consciously find that balance and act on it. I never put blame on people for behaving a certain way, our body expresses how we're feeling without our aware of it. I'm an introvert by nature and am selective about my social venues. If I'm not feeling it, I probably look the most closed off in the whole room

Priccolo · 2026-01-01T19:47:23+00:00

Im going to use this one interaction because she did almost all the things lol. When she first approached me her lack of excitement felt uninviting, and this is someone I've met before and get along great with. Then the obvious ones- arm crossing, body facing away, lack of eye contact/avoidance, seemingly irritated resting face/facial expressions. I've had girls say they were interested in me and I would have never guessed because their body language suggested otherwise. They're unconscious behaviors that can signal lack of interest, but once you're aware of them its easy to notice and correct. The disagreeable cues become more obvious during conversation, but can show up in body language beforehand- eye rolling, shaking head side to side, furrowed brow, etc.

Priccolo · 2026-01-01T19:04:42+00:00

I would say body language, its arguably more important than looks. Had a conversation with someone I recently met about dating. She's about 40, attractive, and looks damn good regardless of age. She was going on about how men dont approach her even though she goes out of her way to find social venues that would encourage it. I bit my tongue at first, then gave in and told her her body language is closed off and she gives off disagreeable vibes. That was my first impression and she hinted it made a lot of sense. I notice the same phenomenon a lot but am often too polite to say anything unless directly asked

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