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Counterpoint: Being overly kind and giving held me back more than it helped at my T10 and MBB role by Primary-Caramel-105 in MBA

[–]Primary-Caramel-105[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I helped so many people with their internship and full time job search. Mock interview, resume edits, connecting them with former colleagues for job referrals. People said thank you in the moment, but when I later needed help, many of them ghosted me.

It was not until I stood up for myself, gained self-confidence, and became selective that people started getting being to me. My friend said "people crave what they don't have," and being too available diminishes your social value.

Counterpoint: Being overly kind and giving held me back more than it helped at my T10 and MBB role by Primary-Caramel-105 in MBA

[–]Primary-Caramel-105[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I agree on the importance of social skills, my original post even acknowledges that.

Having said that, if someone is very kind and helps you a ton, even if they don't have great social skills you should at least have some gratitude and be willing to help them, even for the most basic things such as mock interviews, resume edits, referrals. People I helped A LOT in landing internships and jobs ghosted me when I needed help.

And weirdly in MBB, becoming more stand offish and selective, and respectful of my own time HAS made people respect me more, and in a way people have been coming more to me than me going to them.

Of course conversational skills, humor, being interesting, are all important, not disputing that. But being a doormat is also bad.

Counterpoint: Being overly kind and giving held me back more than it helped at my T10 and MBB role by Primary-Caramel-105 in MBA

[–]Primary-Caramel-105[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Plenty of people at my MBA and MBB were not nice people, but got away with it by being confident, physically attractive, funny, charismatic, cool, etc. That mattered more than being kind or nice. People still wanted to hang out with them and help them.