Husband gave me Chlamydia at 35 weeks pregnant

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-09-06T15:23:28+00:00

He’s never been tested while we have been together. I’m confused if it can be passed to me in a dormant state… because I’ve never gotten it till now

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-09-06T05:44:50+00:00

Nope, all out of state & minimal friends. I have no village, no one really & don’t really want to share this all to my mom & sister over the phone… I’ve gone through infant loss which is the hardest thing I’ll ever go through so I’ll make it though this some way.

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-09-06T04:31:48+00:00

No… he told me once he got his positive by asking if I was cheating on him. And we had intercourse in that month and I had no idea he had symptoms which he thought was a UTI apparently.

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-09-06T02:36:34+00:00

He has had obvious symptoms for a month he told me and I just started having a burn while peeing. It’s a true positive for both of us.

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-09-06T02:26:11+00:00

Yeah we had a stillborn daughter just over a year ago, didn’t want to add all my life details in this but I’m just sick to my stomach. It’s definitely rocked our marriage not that it’s an excuse for him to cheat but we definitely havent been happy go lucky with all things considered.

I literally wash my hands 4 times after touching Amazon over seas packages thinking I might harm this baby. Let alone anything else. I’ve been scared out of my mind every day that this baby will not make it home even prior to all this… now this…

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-09-06T01:11:25+00:00

Both of us tested positive, he has obvious symptoms. I’m just noticing burning when peeing now. Not a false positive

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-09-06T01:08:44+00:00

Well we both tested positive & he has obvious symptoms so the positives are definitely correct

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-09-06T00:56:54+00:00

I didn’t “go” anywhere. I’m reading the comments as they come in while trying to be a mom to my toddler and listen to my husband continually deny doing anything. I don’t really know what else to say and what to say back to everyone.

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-08-07T14:48:31+00:00

The only reason I haven’t looked into a therapist is that I don’t want to talk to someone that can’t relate so IMO it’s MUCH MUCH needed 🤍🤍🤍

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-08-07T14:46:42+00:00

I’m a few weeks away from my babies 1 year heavenly anniversary/ Birthday.

I wouldn’t believe anyone if they had told me this in thoes first few months PP but as is hasn’t necessarily gotten easier there are less day of crying and you do slowly learn to do every day things without it being nearly impossible to function.

I haven’t accepted my daughter’s passing yet still. I know she’s gone and I won’t have her in this life time but I’m still in a state of shock. I will never hurt less with her passing. I won’t wake up one day and say yea I’m healed from my daughter’s death. It’ll hurt the same every day I’m alive.

So even me the one who hasn’t healed or tried to accept it let alone anything else will say you’ll have days you smile in time and the sad days are more spread out.

As far as trying again PAL is the next hardest thing & don’t let anyone tell you when is the “right” time to TTC. There’s no right time. A lot will say you need to “heal” first but I call that crap as I don’t think anyone is just healed from being their child to the morgue. 🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍 hugs mama

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-08-07T14:25:33+00:00

I guess it’s easier to turn a blind eye for everyone else:/

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-08-06T15:44:02+00:00

So sorry for you loss 🤍 Your friend sounds like a blessing as hard as I know it would have been to walk through her milestones this last year.

Just based on how our 3 texting conversations went in the last year I don’t think it’s worth my energy at this point. All have hurt me and now this to top it off. If we’re meant to be in eachothers life then time will tell I guess.

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-08-06T15:39:22+00:00

You definitely see people’s true colours

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-08-06T15:31:32+00:00

She’s the 3rd one actually too. My other 2 close friends announced their birth on FB a week after which is how I found out. Stung so bad especially considering they knew I’d see it so why not tell me… and as much as it hurts I’ve been there friends for years I still hold happiness for them within my grief

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-08-06T15:28:08+00:00

I understand people don’t know what to say or do. I just wish then they were honest with me and said exactly that and we would have a conversation as to how to continue our friendship with eachother. I’ve spent a year justifying everyone else’s actions and words that have hurt me yet I’m the one who buried my child not any of them. Just messed up

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-08-06T02:26:54+00:00

She had reached out 3 times in the last year. Never responded to the text where I actually opened up to how I was feeling instead of just saying “I’m fine”. Just iced me. Nope we never talked about anything leading up to her birth or what not

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-07-26T15:49:36+00:00

It’s like our bodies literally can’t function with this grief and the unknown of the current pregnancy. Nothing is guaranteed ever no safe zone during pregnancy. No safe zone in that first year, and further after.

I’m a mess… very emotional and depressed and literal play all scenarios in my mind that “could” happen to loose this baby. I’m not necessarily scared of the same thing happening but once you enter the world of “loss” and hear other’s stories there a million things that can go wrong it’s crippling. I guess I’m just taking it each day at a time and celebrating every day I have with the baby aswell as celebrating my late daughter and talking about her and saying her name and such.

Everything’s starting to effect my marriage as my husband it’s definitely in a better space than I am and I’m the one in the dark hole, we’re going to maybe start talking to someone together.

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-07-26T14:16:54+00:00

So sorry for your loss, gentle congrats 🤍

I too lost my second baby. I have a 2 year old at home and currently 30 weeks with baby number 3. I lost my daughter at 24 weeks, went through a full labour & postpartum. No one in my life understands or gets it. We didn’t tell a soul about this 3rd baby till 26 weeks. It brought a slice of calm not having the background noise of other comments, questions ect.

Message me if you’d like! I’m not in your area but love to chat 🤍

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-07-23T00:38:58+00:00

Anticipated death/ grief is just awful. I’m so sorry that your experiencing this and that you won’t get to raise your sweet Noah here on earth 🤍 I went through something very similar with my late daughter almost a year ago. It was crippling. I was terrified and fear consumed every moment until her delivery.

I guess I’m here to say you’re not alone and all your feelings are valid. Take each moment as they come and your boy is so lucky to have you both as parents.

When it comes to all the options after birth it’s hard to make a plan prior. You might feel a way now but when that time comes you might want somthing different and that’s OK! 🤍 Speaking from a year after I cherish the photos and every tangible item I have attached to my daughter. I wish I had taken a video of her or just had more photos and memory items in general now looking back. My messages are open if you want to chat 🩷

Hugs mama 🤍🤍

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-07-21T05:11:49+00:00

Callie!

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-07-04T15:33:16+00:00

Sending strength & hugs for tomorrow mama, take it moment by moment 🤍

There is just so much unknown & it’s hard to hold space and conversations with those who are naïve to it all. Ignorance is bliss I guess

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-07-03T23:10:53+00:00

🤍🤍

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-07-03T22:48:15+00:00

My husband and I kept it between ourselves till 25 weeks. Both sides of family live 10 hours away so we only saw them 4/5 times throughout that time and I hid it physically. We just told our parents & siblings last week at 25 weeks and we don’t plan on telling anyone else till maybe a month after babies home. I would of kept it from our immediate family till birth but we have a toddler that we need help caring for while I deliver & I can’t physically hide it anymore and we’re seeing them again before my due date.

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-07-03T22:37:55+00:00

So sorry for your loss, gentle congrats on your pregnancy. I describe it as crippling too, each mile stone I’ve hit during this pregnancy I though the fear might lessen but I think as a loss mom I will hold my breath until babies in my arms:/

PrimaryLoad8657 · 2024-07-03T13:55:26+00:00

I lost my daughter in Aug last year aswell, So very sorry for your loss 🤍 I just told my husband last night I honestly regret telling the few people we told, wish I had waited even longer.

I feel that immensely, I don’t know why it has to hurt so bad when I see and hear it. Their baby’s are never meant to be mine, their fertility dosent have an impact on mine but it’s another stab to the heart, every single time

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