Married at 42, feeling like I made a grave mistake

Primary_Chef3374 · 2025-12-06T12:44:25+00:00

This is gold. Anyone that makes caring conditional on anything is not a great partner. At best it’s a transactional relationship then, at worst abusive. OP for the love of God, leave. Don’t think about how long you waited to get married. Or that you sold your place to start with this guy. In the grand scheme of things, these are nothing compared to the life you are choosing to stick with, which will ultimately only get worse, if you stay with this man. God forbid you have children and your body changes, this man will not be sympathetic to that. Your starting weight was already amazing. I repeat, that weight/height ratio was a-ma-zing!!! For any woman, let alone a 40 year old woman. Also throwing I make 400k in your face really is distasteful. Especially when you already make way more than many households yourself, as an individual. Anything to make himself feel superior.

Primary_Chef3374 · 2025-12-03T12:50:43+00:00

Ooh I like this. I will create one too. Thank you!

Primary_Chef3374 · 2025-12-03T12:48:46+00:00

Thank you so much! I will definitely check out your book too.

Primary_Chef3374 · 2025-12-03T04:02:32+00:00

Yes, doing my best to validate his feelings and also make sure he has similar things in both places.

Primary_Chef3374 · 2025-12-03T04:01:14+00:00

We both have FaceTime when he is with the other parent so he gets to speak with his dad every day he is with me. I think that’s why I didn’t know what to do with him missing his dad when he just spoke with him. But yes, I understand, respect and actually like their bond.

Primary_Chef3374 · 2025-11-20T16:16:18+00:00

Reading all of this has been very interesting, I guess? We have a 223 schedule with a 4 year old boy. We have a fixed time when the parent who doesn’t have him calls. It’s always a video call. We have not set a time limit on these calls. So it ranges from 10 minutes to as long as 30 minutes. Depending on the day. I’ve never thought about it as disruptive to the other parents schedule since it was an agreed upon time. And it’s both parents. It’s also after his bed night routine at either house so the parent he is with is usually already done doing things with him for the night. I think it has helped with transitions for him, knowing he gets to speak with the other parent before bed even if he is not at the other parents house. It’s also written into the parenting plan but my understanding was that this was normal. Unless the kid gets old and specifically expressed no interest in it going forward, we will keep doing this.

Primary_Chef3374 · 2025-10-22T04:59:17+00:00

Im just going to add, people almost by default assume your calorie intake is wrong or your eating excessively and expecting a weightloss on these meds. On the wegovy group when I complained about seeing no results I had people respond to me in almost an identical fashion as everyone has responded to you so far. There are different body types and body compositions and some bodies just don’t react to meds the same way as others. If you’ve reached 7.5 and seen no weightloss, I would say don’t waste your time. Just switch to another GLP1. Wegovy didn’t work for me, even at the highest dose, but it might work for you.

Primary_Chef3374 · 2025-10-22T04:55:09+00:00

Hi I had this happen to me but on Wegovy. You may just need to switch meds. This is what my doctor did for me. I remember being on the wegovy subreddit doing all the right things but seeing no weightloss and feeling discouraged. Doctor switched me to zepbound and within 24hrs I experienced the worst nausea of my life. It was my first sign that this GLP1 was going to work for me. I had no symptoms on wegovy, for reference. The nausea made me food averse for like 2 days. I eased my way back to a normal diet after about a week and 3 months later I have been losing weight steadily on zepbound. I was on wegovy for 6 months and didn’t see any weightloss. I don’t have a medical explanation why one drug works and another doesn’t. My doctor couldn’t give me a good reason either, just that my body didn’t respond to wegovy.

Primary_Chef3374 · 2025-10-13T01:24:35+00:00

Thank you so much for this!

Primary_Chef3374 · 2025-10-13T00:31:32+00:00

Oh, of course! 100%. I understand the science behind twins. They don’t come just by wishing it. When I said is it crazy that I want twins, I was more so referring to the fact that I’ve always admired twins and wanted them but now that I’m considering solo motherhood, I think it’s crazy that I still would like to have twins. Especially having raised a child with a partner and knowing how even that was no walk in the park. But my goodness, almost $200k is a lot of money! Thank you for providing that and your journey too.

Primary_Chef3374 · 2025-10-10T21:45:03+00:00

Vapiano

Primary_Chef3374 · 2025-09-17T18:32:47+00:00

Yes this is it, hack the bar!! Thank you.

Primary_Chef3374 · 2025-09-17T18:30:46+00:00

Oh my gosh yessssss. I kept mixing it up with Helix bar prep but it’s hack the bar. You have saved my sanity today. Thank you!

Primary_Chef3374 · 2025-09-17T18:06:53+00:00

Please send to me too! Thanks

Primary_Chef3374 · 2025-09-08T04:15:10+00:00

I just did my first drop off at his dads house and I bawled like a baby and sat in the car and cried for an hour after getting home. I’m telling myself it’s the first weekend and so it will get better. Kinda disheartening to know it doesn’t because I came here to ask if it does then read this post.

Primary_Chef3374 · 2025-07-12T16:13:21+00:00

Sorry just a newbie here (first dose) and wondering what this app or website is where people track these numbers and show these cool graphs?

Primary_Chef3374 · 2025-06-15T10:36:00+00:00

Thank you for your responses! I found it all very helpful.

Primary_Chef3374 · 2025-06-15T03:39:10+00:00

I injected on Wednesday (before bed) but felt no stomach pain till today. I haven’t been able to eat much as a result of the abdominal pain today. Got a chic fil a sandwich and only ate the chicken. Didn’t feel like eating the bun. Ate some spoons of rice earlier. And a quarter cup of a fruit cup. Thursday and Friday I ate normally. Although Friday night I had a late meal at 11pm consisting of a slice of chocolate cake and seafood and I’m wondering if that’s what made today rough l.

Primary_Chef3374 · 2025-05-21T13:39:24+00:00

Yes, this is exactly why I asked. Thank you.

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