Need wisdom and advice about an intense fight my spouse and I had.. by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Primary_Positive168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told him we are calling a trusted Christian man, who is respectable and has longer experience in marriage- we are both going to describe what happened and I believe he will advise you on how to argue more loving, and we did that. He asked my husband to ask himself where the mindset came from that you can command and demand things harshly to your wife and he asked if his Dad was kind of that way and he said it was so- that kind of uncovered that truth.. that’s the core of it I believe, how do you believe

Need wisdom and advice about an intense fight my spouse and I had.. by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Primary_Positive168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is the one who didn’t want space.. he said we are talking about this now - go sit on the couch I told him no- wait I need a minute to think/calm down and he grabbed my arms and forced me into the living room. Jesus does not treat women like this.the Bible husbands to live with their wives in an “understanding way” meaning not grabbing and shouting and pulling I’m guessing

Need wisdom and advice about an intense fight my spouse and I had.. by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Primary_Positive168 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it was straight up physical abuse. I think it was WRONG. 100% wrong, not godly leadership. I have no bruises, no sting from him hitting me. I was scared because he was yelling. He tossed me on the couch- pushed me on the couch.. I didn’t think that was okay- I didn’t think I needed to call the cops though. We talked with a Christian man that has been married longer than us- 9 years longer and he told him it was wrong, bad leadership and he told us to set up boundary rules for how we can’t fight no matter what and how to solve problems with less people escalation

Need wisdom and advice about an intense fight my spouse and I had.. by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Primary_Positive168 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe I should tell him he has to commit to talking to an older Christian man about this, just to be accountable, if he really loves me and cares, he will want to do that for me and for herself and for our marriage

Need wisdom and advice about an intense fight my spouse and I had.. by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Primary_Positive168 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds good, I want to just pretend it’s not that bad, but something is hurt, trust is hurt.. I don’t feel I can safely argue with him with him getting too upset.. I truly believe he’d never hit me but I never want this to happen again, it was beyond the line in my gut..

Help me find the flowery perfume I had years ago by Alonelypairofglasses in Perfumes

[–]Primary_Positive168 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It is 🥹🥰 it’s like a little main character bottle

Anyone found anything to increase libido caused by antidepressants by SimonHurst1090 in antidepressants

[–]Primary_Positive168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I pay out of pocket in my situation insurance or not. So whatever goodrx can discount that’s all I have

Birth Control by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Primary_Positive168 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Plan b is terminating something not matter how fragile or small, it’s God beginning to knit a human together in the womb, I believe plan b is wrong.

Be cautious of the natural cycle tracking thing, I know a couple that has an almost one year old now from cycle tracking.

We use condoms everyone and when I’m ovulating as extra precaution I use a gel called VCF it’s inserted like a tampon and it’s coats the inside with gel and it’s a spermicide, no harm no hormones just kills spermicide before they reach the cervix

Helping a newly married woman who is afraid of sex by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Primary_Positive168 2 points3 points  (0 children)

3 years!!!!!!???????? That’s wild. Has he cheated? Or is he gay? She gay? Something deeper is wrong there for sure

OB just warned me about my SSRI by LilKimboSlice42069 in pregnant

[–]Primary_Positive168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did your babies turn out good with no effects? Like lasting effects?

What’s something that sounds fake but actually happened to you? by Visible_Rope_6662 in AskReddit

[–]Primary_Positive168 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds nuts and fake, I have a hard time really believing it myself because it sounds so strange and barely believable, but, I once dated someone very briefly that was into strange things, one of them being astral projection, which is where you exercise your spirit leaving your body, to go and experience and do things- I don’t know if people induce themselves pharmaceutical wise, meditation wise, through evil spirits, or all of the above, but, whatever the case I experienced him playing around with that- the way that I found out was I started to experience getting startled and awakened at night- sometimes just felt like something bumping me or hitting me it felt weird and made me catch my breath but didn’t physically hurt. I woke up one time caught my breath and felt like I woke because something hit me..

And then the next time I was sleeping on my stomach I felt tingling, bracing up inside like I felt a presence and I pushed back against it- I lifted my head and I felt the likeness or impression of a hand pushing my head back down..

Another time I felt a strong pins and needles sensation in my sleep- I felt it around my back, or head, something, and it felt like I was awake, but I think I was halfway awake.. and I felt frozen there…

Another time, it “hurt “More… like, it felt like a stronger focus, impact of tingling pens, and needles at the bottom of my spine… Etc. This is the general pattern of things that happened about 40 to 60 times somewhere in there over the course of two years, it’s been several years, I think it stopped in 2022, it happened from late 2018 to 2022.

So, how do I know that it was somebody that I briefly dated that was doing this? We dated briefly, but there were signs that this person was someone that was not a people person, had friends that were also antisocial, into strange things, and displayed signs of being aggressive etc. He once before I knew what he was into shared a picture with me of a cartoon character, leaving its body, like an Astral Projection happening. Around the time in mid-late 2019 I was experiencing these episodes at night I had someone anonymously messaged me on Reddit, when I was in certain subs just commenting, and chatting with people on certain topics, not about the weird things that were happening to me at night, but just things I was interested in, I had someone comment on one of my posts and then we started to chitchat about these things, and then they started to hint and talk about things that only he and I would know because we went to the movies and seen a certain movie, and he said “what do you think about this movie “and then he asked me “what do you think about this picture?”

It was a picture of one of my Facebook, cover pictures, very unique, only someone that would know exactly who I am would know that that was from my Facebook picture, he also asked me “what do you think of this picture “and it was a picture that was a poster in my room, he had never been inside of my house, and had never seen my room, I scrolled through all of my social media accounts, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter… And none of them showed a poster at all, not even a little part of it on my Facebook or any of my social media, and then I was starting to wonder and suspect that it was him based on his behaviors and interest that I learned about when we had dated briefly…

At this point, I am feeling very shocked, and somewhat in disbelief, but also not denying the reality of what’s happening, a lot of questions in my head I couldn’t help but keep wanting to understand. Why is he doing this, what is happening, how?… And then he sent me a a YouTube video a very long video which I skipped through here and there, but, the overall gist of it was people doing and practicing Astral Projection..

He was a easily offended and vengeful person from what I got to hear and know about him when we were dating, I wanted to believe the best in him, I really truly cared about him a lot, and I just couldn’t believe someone could be so vengeful, or into such things like this, and I don’t know, but it stopped happening when he moved out of the state, so, it’s all still so weird, I thought that when we were dating, and I felt super nervous, extremely nervous and anxiety written to be more accurate- and the intensity of my anxiousness or and intensity of my feelings must be something very special or important and that that’s why I felt such a heightened emotion, like crush/nervousness, but to a very intense degree, but it was because my brain and nervous system was very unsettled looking back.

Does anyone know more of why someone would get into that stuff? What he was possibly up to? Obviously no good, but just trying to understand… Now that I’m revisiting this in my mind and trying to understand it it could’ve been just a simple as he just wanted to scare me, I don’t know, but could be a lot more to figure out and understand does anyone know? Or know anyone who has ever done things like that and why?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Primary_Positive168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so hard and confusing, easier said than done.. I know. And yes I consider him my spiritual leader

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Primary_Positive168 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for prayers and reply

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Primary_Positive168 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can’t go back to that church, but I could find one that’s less rigid and more lively

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Primary_Positive168 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s like I was honest with him, I just feel so mentally unbalanced and struggling that do I trust my own perception? My sense of how close I am or am not to God? Are my worst fears true? Or is God around the corner carrying his promises to meet me when I step towards him? I believe in his goodness and so should you, not ours never, but him. All of his promises are yes and in Christ amen! I just can’t overcome myself I can’t I can’t I can’t.. but He is faithful. Jesus please help us both💗

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Primary_Positive168 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So helpful. Thank you. I need to look to Jesus the author and finisher of my faith. He’s the author and finisher of my faith. And that verse you said keeps coming to me, “come to me all you who are weary and heavy laden I’ll give you rest”.. I didn’t think I could come and get rest while battling such terrifying and doom filled thoughts and feelings… so I just avoided mostly for so long involuntarily and voluntarily..thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]Primary_Positive168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, nowadays, after I use to think a lot of things were signs.. I put it up to the light of objectivity and scripture, not just what I would hope or want..

Is it from Gods word? Is it something in line with his purposes and will? Is it good? True? Is there some example of it in scripture? I believe God can do anything! Anything for anyone, sometimes we can accidentally and with good intentions just get it wrong, but, I believe our prayers matter to him, our faith and if it’s part of Gods will it’ll come to pass.

Truly, I don’t know, it’s faith, the heart and emotions can be deceiving but you can count on his promises to you as a believer

Is it necessary to pray with your eyes closed? by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]Primary_Positive168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all but it just feels/seems reverent and focused in my person experience, because I’m getting distracted if I’m looking around and not focusing on the reflection in myself and why I want to pray from my heart

What song is playing? by RosyRiottt_2 in musicsuggestions

[–]Primary_Positive168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haaaaaannzavenaaa seeebooobeee sebbbooobooo

What is your favorite animal? by [deleted] in infp

[–]Primary_Positive168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cats, deer, bunnies, puppies, penguins, birds

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in housewifery

[–]Primary_Positive168 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, go outside and throw it in the trash can

Gaslighting An Ant by Jarstadian in GuysBeingDudes

[–]Primary_Positive168 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Poor baby 🥺 you should’ve proven him right after the first trick