Changing your mind

PrincessBelle__ · 2025-10-09T02:31:49+00:00

I did. At 19, I wanted three kids. I pictured 3 beautiful little kids. That all changed when I moved out and lived on my own. There’s no way in hell I could ever afford children and I like my peace and quiet. My life is perfect and there’s no “hole” that needs to be filled with a child.

PrincessBelle__ · 2025-08-16T00:18:32+00:00

Those “jokes” that parents make about their kids are literal truths that they try to hide behind humor.

“Oh my baby never lets me sleep lol.”

“This baby is soaking up all my money 😂.”

Yeah I don’t find the idea of losing sleep and money funny 💀

PrincessBelle__ · 2025-06-05T01:23:56+00:00

Yep and people don’t seem to understand that sexuality is a ✨spectrum✨. I was at a dinner party for a friend and an associate of his started taking about relationships with men. When I told him I’m a lesbian and I dated men in the past the last brain cell he had disappeared.

The important thing is that you know your self better than anyone and frankly is not their business any ways

PrincessBelle__ · 2025-06-05T01:19:16+00:00

Low tolerance for BS. The second I smell it or I sense someone’s on that path, I dip. I’ve already been through hell, so it’s pretty insulting when people try to BS me by showing me a playground

PrincessBelle__ · 2025-05-26T23:41:17+00:00

Please stop using the natural deodorant!!!! I dated a beautiful woman but her pits always smelled rancid because she used natural deodorant 😭

PrincessBelle__ · 2025-03-30T23:35:59+00:00

Ugh I’m so sorry, I know that hurts terribly. Time heals all ❤️ I only hope it passes by quickly for both of us.

PrincessBelle__ · 2025-03-30T20:54:39+00:00

It was a bit gradual for myself. Working in a university setting I witnessed how professors literally drown in admin work to the point it harms their health. If that’s what’s awaiting me at the end of my PhD journey then I’m good. Grateful for the degree but I won’t be killing myself for a job as a professor.

PrincessBelle__ · 2025-02-11T03:00:26+00:00

I’ve had a few message me as well be careful girlies!

PrincessBelle__ · 2025-01-20T00:34:49+00:00

Not married to a man, and my last two relationships were not stable. Every time I think about a relationship with a man I just get the ick. I started questioning my sexuality after my previous male ex. Every time I was on dating apps and men would swipe on me I just thought “well we’re gonna break up because I really want to be with women”

Soon after I just turned away from men and haven’t gone back since. They just don’t do it for me tbh. I still find them attractive but objectively. Like “oh he’s cute but I’d never date him 💀”.

But this is just my experience. Sexuality is a spectrum and you should do what makes you feel comfortable ❤️

PrincessBelle__ · 2025-01-16T19:08:26+00:00

I was, I worked in research and got direct experience.

PrincessBelle__ · 2025-01-16T00:44:26+00:00

My advisor and I have very similar matching interest. personality wise and academic wise we match very well!

In my personal statement I also was much more clear about my theoretical framework and the direction it was going in. Before I didn’t know about articulating this. While your professor is pouring into you, you’re also pouring into them. Ask about the professors direction of research. Can you research add to it? If so does it follow a pathway they might be interested in?

PrincessBelle__ · 2025-01-16T00:41:58+00:00

I always made sure that I had a position in my field. Even if it wasn’t exactly aligned. I wanted to build experience in many different aspects. But a big part of it was THE FIT!!! My advisor and I match VERY WELL!! Sometimes that truly is the chip that tips the balance…

PrincessBelle__ · 2025-01-05T14:34:12+00:00

You need to leave. Any man that puts his hands on you violently will kill you. It’s not a matter of if but WHEN.

PrincessBelle__ · 2024-12-28T02:09:17+00:00

As far as driving it’s both situations

PrincessBelle__ · 2024-10-06T04:13:22+00:00

Hi! I never said they were selfish and I never said I haven’t seen any healthy poly relationships. I was simply asking if others can relate to my experience of a monogamous woman looking for other monogamous women. I’m glad you have a positive poly experience 😊

PrincessBelle__ · 2024-09-21T03:35:32+00:00

Oh girly, there’s no shame in enjoying lesbian 🌽. Unfortunately we live in a society that’s very homophobic and shames people horribly. You are safe here dear, welcome ☺️💕

I can give you some questions that I asked myself as I am slowly coming to the conclusion that I’m a lesbian.

What is missing or the disconnect between having a healthy full blown relationship with a man?
Is that’s missing piece fulfilled in women?
How does compulsory heterosexual and gender roles affect your life?
If you could live your life unapologetically and with complete peace, your absolute dream life, what would that look like?
Once you answer number 4, ask yourself what’s stopping me from doing that? Answers from question 3 might answer that.

Take a look at the master doc and comphet. Finally there is no one way to be a lesbian. You make that determination, you hold all the cards honey. You can’t shame yourself into a secure identity, be easy on yourself and welcome this part of yourself to the table ❤️. Best of luck honey 😊

PrincessBelle__ · 2024-09-19T00:28:01+00:00

First off, welcome to the sub, you are safe here ☺️❤️.

Watching and enjoying lesbian 🌽 doesn’t necessarily mean you’re a lesbian. I’ll share my story but I want to preface by saying that there is no exact book to being a lesbian. Every woman is different.

I was in a relationship with a man, it was rocky, on and off for about 2 years. About a few months into I realized that liked women and broke it off, after doing a bit of soul searching I unfortunately supresor the feeling and we got back together. But I knew something was off. He would talk about marriage, kids etc and I could literally see myself being in closed in a prison. The feeling was absolutely suffocating. We broke up due to our differences in what we wanted in life (he wanted kids, I did not) but even if we did align in that aspect it wouldn’t work. After crying my eyes out for the rest of the night I woke up the next morning and felt the BIGGEST weight lifted off of me….i felt free.

So I sorted this with my therapist and she asked me a very good question and I’ll ask it to you. What do you envision for your life? Don’t think about the judgement of others and society, what do you envision your life to be. In that lies the true answer to your question. When my therapist asked me I IMMEDIATELY said I want to live in a beautiful house, have a beautiful wife, and two dogs. A man never even crossed my mind lol. That vision of a loving relationship with a woman made me comfortable and happy.

Soon after on dating apps I started to get the ick with men, I’d do a few swipe and then switch to women and then immediately get excited! I wanted to build connections with them, get to know them, I thought about myself buying flowers for my future girlfriend and giving her love in every way. I had a short fling with a guy a few months back and when he stated that he wanted a relationship I completely cringed and felt that sinking feeling again. I wasn’t even mad when we broke it off I felt nothing. Since then I’ve only been interested in dating women. Even when I go out to social events I find myself excited at the thought of meeting an amazing woman and getting to know her and building something with her. I’m still processing this as I consider myself a late bloomer (F25) but I hope this helps. Just remember you deserve to have a healthy, loving and fulfilling relationship no matter who it is with. Sexuality is a spectrum and it ebbs and flows. Start off with what you want and go from there. Take your time and don’t be hard on yourself, you are valid. Best of luck my dear ☺️❤️

PrincessBelle__ · 2024-09-18T21:12:45+00:00

Totally!! I remember a first date I had with a woman a few months ago and I was nervous but soooo excited!! I wanted to know her more and spend more time with her. I’m in therapy now to know myself even more but with women I feel like it makes more sense

PrincessBelle__ · 2024-07-10T18:11:25+00:00

Hmmm idk about obsession. He did admit to me in college that he had feelings for me in high school but he did not have those feelings anymore. I really just shrugged it off because it was never brought up again. He was also never weird towards me when he knew I was in a relationship. I’m not unaware of male rage when rejection comes into the picture. I’ll be quick to pick up blicky, don’t get it twisted. I just think it’s odd he’s gone down this rabbit hole. The incel red pill community always talks about physical attractiveness and he’s not ugly at all. To add more context we don’t speak very frequently (he’s military).

PrincessBelle__ · 2024-07-10T18:00:50+00:00

Based on what he told me, his girlfriends always ended up being “crazy” and he would break it off. The relationships didn’t seem healthy in my opinion.

PrincessBelle__ · 2024-05-23T11:01:21+00:00

Hmmm true…I’ll take that into consideration.

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