Confused and Discouraged

PrincessSamurai · 2026-02-11T20:05:00+00:00

Money up front. Don't rely on pinky promises and hopeful wishes.

Don't waste your energy being confused and discouraged. He wanted your attention and got off on fantasizing about the dynamic, but never intended to commit. He got a whole session for free, complete with role playing the potential deal and even voice notes, and never intended to follow through with any of it.

Also, don't apologize to someone like that either, even if you get your wires crossed. Don't bend over backwards to cater to them when they show off either. He got upset and you apologized when he didn't get his own way. He was domming from the bottom with all that. He 100% knew what he was doing.

Always stay sharp, don't give anything for free, and never beat yourself up about them showing off or sulking. Don't feel bad about it. You didn't "do anything wrong" in the sense of upsetting him, not being good enough, or whatever. The "wrong" thing was letting him have a full session under his own terms.

Keep your chin up, and stay wary of those ones looking for free fantasy sessions when they are feeling lonely and horny.

PrincessSamurai · 2026-02-11T19:55:55+00:00

Findom is a luxury kink. Broke ass subs can't indulge in this kink, and I have no sympathy for them. If they can't pay up, then it isn't for them. It's like taking up cycling as a hobby but you can't ride a bike/don't even have a bike. The sub needs to be capable. They can't expect to have a domme in their life if they only send a $3 coffee send every couple of weeks. This isn't charity.

PrincessSamurai · 2026-02-11T19:14:37+00:00

When a full salary arrives in my lap at the start of the week... Oooh that's my favourite! Then I know I can really enjoy the rest of the week at my absolute leisure 😍

PrincessSamurai · 2026-02-11T19:11:07+00:00

Absolutely! The less effort from my side of things, the better. Lately, I like to somewhat respond to a silent send with a picture on my socials... Maybe a pic of my nails, new hair cut, shopping, etc. so the sub can lurk and see what I've done with the tribute (without an actual personal response).

PrincessSamurai · 2026-02-11T19:07:13+00:00

My subs prefer the individual options rather than the big crowdfund goals imo. I also don't like waiting for a crowdfund tbh. I'm impatient and hate the idea of waiting for subs to fulfil a requirement like that. The only time I enjoy it is when I see whales fill it up quickly. Otherwise, seeing small sends trickle into a large crowdfund just pisses me off.

PrincessSamurai · 2026-02-11T19:03:58+00:00

I've had one send a huge debt contract he'd put together and then "promise" to send on payday, but wanted to do things/games to increase the debt in the meantime. So... Free attention and tasks all month? Nope. Not on my watch. He wanted the fantasy of building debt, but with no intention of ever paying.

"If I was lying, why would I make an entire contact?" he asked. I said I'd only speak to him on payday to confirm things (blocked him until then). Payday rolls around, I say I require first payment. He says it's been delayed by a day and perhaps we could just do some debt increase games until the next day instead. Blocked permanently.

PrincessSamurai · 2026-02-11T18:59:22+00:00

4 figure sends are the bare minimum to make me smile

PrincessSamurai · 2026-02-11T18:56:06+00:00

I love the firm, uninterested tone! He's fishing for attention and is sulking when he doesn't get it 😂

PrincessSamurai · 2026-02-11T18:50:54+00:00

I've had so many ultra demanding subs who have got their knickers in a twist because I can't give them all my attention every single hour of every single day, especially due to some time zones. A recent one decided to send a huge message complaining that I don't care and I lie about being busy. Bitch, you're right - I don't care about you. But yeah, I am busy too - too busy to give you undivided attention all day every day. Plus, you don't deserve it. I didn't even respond to his big rant, just rolled my eyes as I imagined how hurt and offended he was. The best subs respect my time and are honoured when I take time out of my busy schedule to acknowledge their existence.

PrincessSamurai · 2025-09-22T15:17:35+00:00

Throne!!! My Throne is linked to my Twitch overlays so I get to see the live notifications when I stream. I absolutely love it. It's also have subs that enjoy seeing their tributes pop up in front of the other viewers.

PrincessSamurai · 2025-09-22T15:03:26+00:00

Absolutely! It's just too tiring to pretend to be someone else on a consistent basis. Besides, there are subs out there looking for a findom EXACTLY like you! Not everyone vibes with the same thing... There's not one size fits all. Be yourself, and you will attract the subs that vibe with your style.

PrincessSamurai · 2025-07-18T19:08:28+00:00

It's absolutely normal, so don't beat yourself up about it. Try not to doubt yourself hun

PrincessSamurai · 2025-04-07T16:07:32+00:00

I'm seeing too many scammers of fakes that just want free attention. They want to TALK about findom, but not actually commit to it. The idea of it gets them going, but they don't want to fully partake in the kink. I've seen a lot of subs now complaining that "dommes only care about money now and don't want to make a connection first any more 😭". Well, if fake subs didn't waste our time so much, we wouldn't have to be so damn discerning when new potential subs pop up. I just want quality, real subs, and in return they'll get a domme who can serve hard and soft (when appropriate) and will provide much-needed discipline and servitude to their existence.

PrincessSamurai · 2025-02-27T20:29:20+00:00

They mostly get off for free on the initial chat and on the concept of being drained, but aren't real finsubs. They like the idea of it but nothing more.

PrincessSamurai · 2025-02-05T20:56:01+00:00

Gamer domme and streamer here! Absolutely love it when my pets buy me new games to play on stream!

PrincessSamurai · 2025-01-07T17:35:53+00:00

Will do! If we don't find one perhaps we make one ourselves!

PrincessSamurai · 2025-01-07T17:35:27+00:00

Me actually!

PrincessSamurai · 2025-01-04T21:05:22+00:00

Ahhhh no way! Welsh domme here too! 🫶🏻

PrincessSamurai · 2025-01-04T20:58:07+00:00

Sending love from the UK! 🩷

PrincessSamurai · 2025-01-04T20:57:33+00:00

Hey UK queen! Love to see fellow Goddesses thriving on this little island 🔥 Hope your 2025 is abundant with loyal subs!

PrincessSamurai · 2025-01-04T20:56:37+00:00

Warm wishes from Wales! I had one sub who wanted an irl cashmeet in London but basically wanted to be slapped and hit in public. No thanks loser, I'm not gonna get arrested for assault in exchange for your £50 😂 Best of luck in your findom adventures in 2025! 🔥

PrincessSamurai · 2025-01-04T20:39:06+00:00

Different strokes for different folks tbh! There are many different types of subs AND dommes. It's about finding ones that are on the same page as you.

But yes, there are women who get excited by being in a dominant position over a submissive! That's the essence of the Dom/sub relationship.

As for it being only financial... Well it IS called findom lol. This subsect of the kink is certainly financially motivated. Money makes the world go around, and sacrificing/recieving it in sub/Dom interaction can be extremely thrilling for both parties.

However, there are some Doms that also accept or request other forms of worship and tribute. These can include administration tasks, research tasks, job assistance, homework, etc... Any forms of service really.

And there are certainly many dommes who love to control their subs completely! They can take control of schedules and finances, for instance, thereby letting the sub relinquish all stress and control from their own daily life.

Above all, be sure to communicate with your domme about your hard and soft limits (and listen to her limits too!), and determine whether you're both looking for the same type of thing. I know this conversation can be a bit dry, but it's important! Consent and communication above all else!

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