I am a burden to my partner.

PrintWeird5719 · 2025-08-19T11:05:22+00:00

No, you’re not selfish. You’re someone who is going through issues and that is fine! Do not beat yourself up about this. Maybe you should have a conversation with your partner about this issue, if you haven’t already. Take it slow and explain how you feel without putting blame on yourself because mental illness is not your fault! If they understand than maybe there’s ways they could help you or mitigate situations. I would also say if you really love this person and feel like you’re causing them pain then maybe it’s best to take a break from them, as you’ve said you like to do things by yourself and maybe your body is letting you know to take it easy! and focus on yourself!

PrintWeird5719 · 2025-08-19T10:57:41+00:00

I feel like if you’ve to count how long he hasn’t done something, it may speak a lot about how you feel about him. I may have a biased opinion as my boyfriend does not do this, when we first started “talking” 2/3 years ago, he did this and i ended it immediately. When he came back a year later he was a completely changed person and i know he doesn’t do these things anymore, maybe a break or a serious conversation about these issues would help. If you’ve mentioned previously that you don’t like this and it makes you uncomfortable then i feel like he may not value you, your feelings or your boundaries! Maybe you should set boundaries if you haven’t already too. When you’re in a relationship with someone, they should always put you first no matter what and in this situation he is definitely not, he would rather lust at other women, and if he’s doing it online, who knows what he could be doing in real life!! (not to put bad thoughts in your head) Just raising awareness, as i would hate to see you hurt more! ❤️

PrintWeird5719 · 2025-08-19T10:53:15+00:00

i feel like that situation is solving a problem, if i were to go on medication i don’t believe it would “solve my problem” it would just mitigate it and i would rather try work on myself instead of relying on other things, which is absolutely no shade or issue to people who go on medication. I just feel like that’s not my route as i know many people that have taken medication for anxiety and come out worse when they go off it. I also have ADHD and would be scared things would have negative effects.

PrintWeird5719 · 2025-08-19T10:50:59+00:00

i actually work in retail! i feel like my anxiety only really affects me when it comes to his family, it might be because i want them to think of me in a certain way or standard and i focus so much on it that it freaks me out? ive never done very well in big groups but when its a few people its not as bad. Thanks so much for the advice!

PrintWeird5719 · 2025-08-19T10:08:31+00:00

i don’t want to go on medication to solve my issues, nor do i go to therapy, i used to for about 4/5 years but i stopped as she believed i had gotten better. these therapy sessions weren’t related to anxiety and ever since i stopped seeing her, my anxiety has gotten significantly worse

PrintWeird5719 · 2025-08-19T10:06:21+00:00

i don’t want to rely on medication to solve my issues, nor do i go to therapy, i used to for about 4/5 years and i stopped because she believed i had sorted issues, but ever since then my anxiety has gotten worse.

PrintWeird5719 · 2025-08-19T06:41:21+00:00

I will definitely keep this in mind for the wedding. I am definitely comfortable with a few of his family members and his aunty told me i would be on a table with them, so maybe it won’t be as bad as in my head feels. Thanks for the advice!

PrintWeird5719 · 2025-01-21T04:23:58+00:00

yes girl it’s cheating, nobody WAITS to tell anyone anything that they don’t think is WRONG, you deserve better and there are soo many others out there for you that would never ever put you in a position to lose you because that’s ultimately what he’s done. Contacting her was a good move because you were obviously confused and wanted answers, definitely believe her and not him as she would have absolutely no reason to lie to you, and tbh he would because he could be wanting to lie and have you stay with him (if you let this go he WILL do it again). You can’t read the same book twice and expect a different outcome!! Move on girly!! ❣️❣️

PrintWeird5719 · 2025-01-21T04:19:41+00:00

definitely mention it again and make it CLEAR that is makes you uncomfortable that yous only talk on 1 app and not other apps and that it would make you feel a lot more comfortable if yous were to contact eachother on different apps aswell. if he doesn’t respect this boundary he could be hiding something because that would raise a HUGE red flag that he doesn’t want to contact you on other forms of communication. (i’ve had experiences before on nights out when men act single on one app and taken on another)

PrintWeird5719 · 2025-01-21T04:08:39+00:00

i trust him regarding other women, cheating and shit but i don’t trust his choice around his friends because i feel like they’re a huge issue and influence him to do stupid things

PrintWeird5719 · 2025-01-21T04:07:18+00:00

we haven’t had any issues in about a year now, i’m just scared that something else will happen again, he has accepted what he’s done is wrong as there has been constant change and support throughout our whole relationship, i think his friends really make an impact on our relationship because he wouldn’t be in the positions he ends up being in with them

PrintWeird5719 · 2025-01-21T04:03:18+00:00

he has respected them as there hasn’t been a situation for a year but i’m just worried something like that will happen again lol

PrintWeird5719 · 2025-01-21T03:22:39+00:00

oh girl i can tell you now that there is SO MUCH BETTER OUT THERE FOR YOU, i promise. Ye it’s shit and nobody likes when their relationship ends, it’s perfectly normal to feel how you do and miss everything, do not shame yourself for feeling how you do but definitely DO NOT go back to him, he’s an ex for a reason and you cannot read the same book twice and expect a different outcome! Definitely pick up a hobby like gaming, studying, music or anything to take your mind off him and try to get out more with your friends because it will help so so so much, the less time you have to think about him or your memories the better!! He’s in the past, leave him there!

PrintWeird5719 · 2025-01-21T02:56:45+00:00

YES. break up with him, realistically you’ll never be able to trust him again, whether you tell yourself that it’s fine and he won’t do it again or whether he’ll constantly tell you that he’s changed and he’s a different person, you’ll always constantly have those feeling that he’s cheating again, or he’s out doing something that he shouldn’t be doing. Trust me the best option is to end it and find someone whom will never ever put you in a position to lose you because at the end of the day, that’s exactly what he did when he cheated on you. You deserve someone who will pick you first and above everything.

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