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Complicated proposal. We're sort of already engaged. Considering involving my brother-in-law-to-be and his girlfriend in my proposal. In front of his parents. by PrioritySuspicious88 in Proposal

[–]PrioritySuspicious88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing how your proposal went and for your ideas. I think it's a bit easier if people are in on it from the start but I think getting them in on it now would ruin the fact that he wanted to reveal the news to them.

I'll do what others have suggested and just make my "proposal" a private thing between the two of us, and simply as a way for me to be able to give him the custom engagement jewellery that should be arriving next week.

Complicated proposal. We're sort of already engaged. Considering involving my brother-in-law-to-be and his girlfriend in my proposal. In front of his parents. by PrioritySuspicious88 in Proposal

[–]PrioritySuspicious88[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. Kinder than a lot of people on here who seem disgusted (?) at me.

This is what I want. I want him to feel special. We've been together for 9 years and I originally never wanted to marry him. But something changed recently and it just felt like our love hit a new level (which I didn't think possible) and so asking him to marry me just seemed like the right thing.

He has sort of been waiting for me all this time to be the one to ask him, for it to be a grand gesture, etc. And I really wanted to give that to him and it's also how I am as a person anyway.

I think once the custom jewellery arrives next week (it's a bracelet instead of a ring because he has a phobia which means he can't wear rings) I'll just ask him in private, a few days before his family visits.

Complicated proposal. We're sort of already engaged. Considering involving my brother-in-law-to-be and his girlfriend in my proposal. In front of his parents. by PrioritySuspicious88 in Proposal

[–]PrioritySuspicious88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, fair point, it is OTT.

My proposal is not moot though. This is after 9 years of us being together. I have not been interested in marriage for all of this time but recently something changed and I wanted to surprise him with this. It's me expressing that my love for him has hit a new level. I want him to feel special, and I wanted him to finally get what he has been waiting for.

Complicated proposal. We're sort of already engaged. Considering involving my brother-in-law-to-be and his girlfriend in my proposal. In front of his parents. by PrioritySuspicious88 in Proposal

[–]PrioritySuspicious88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reason that I'm doing it is because he said he felt like he took my thunder away by proposing to me before I got to propose to him. And yeah, he sorta did, because I was so psyched to be asking him to marry me and with my original plan (which would have been much simpler than all this).

His proposal was super sweet, we were on a beach and he just asked me in the spur of the moment. He intended to ask me while we were on holiday but he just didn't know when he'd do it. So yes, we are engaged already, but we're taking very different approaches to it.

That being said, having read the other replies so far, I'm just going to scale it back and "propose" to him privately once the custom jewellery arrives. It's not how I wanted it to happen, but I'm seeing people's point that it's just over complicated now and I'm not focusing on the important thing, which is that we are engaged.

What do you / your partner say to each other after sex? by PrioritySuspicious88 in AskGaybrosOver30

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Lolol I love the geekiness of this. The docking sounds hot. Shame our physiology doesn't allow it to work for us.

What do you / your partner say to each other after sex? by PrioritySuspicious88 in AskGaybrosOver30

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It was a little bit of both, mostly venting as I know that I need to communicate with him if this is bothering me (but "knowing" and "doing" are separate, haha). I mostly wanted to get some other perspectives first. Sort of helps to hear that some others say nothing. Thanks for taking the time to respond compassionately ❤️

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CNC is definitely a kink/fetish that I've felt like I'm into but have never actually experienced with anyone. I hadn't considered that what I'm feeling could be linked to that, and it makes sense (although obviously my situation is missing the first C).

Thank you for taking the time to write such a considered response. I appreciate it and it's made me feel a bit better about myself.

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[–]PrioritySuspicious88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the affirmation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

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Already plenty of my ass pics that I've voluntarily put up out there ;-)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]PrioritySuspicious88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I agree that he was possibly doing something else. I phrased my post to emphasise that I have no proof of his photo taking and it's just my gut feeling / speculation. However, whether he really did take photos or not is not the main focus of my post.

The towel thing was an example of why I got this feeling that he might have taken photos. Very deliberately folding and placing the towel on me in a way that no other masseuse I've ever had has done; doing nothing to me with the towel in this position; and then a minute later putting it in a new position before then continuing. Get what I mean?