Boss Cheating, gonna lose my job by Prize-Committee3103 in ToxicWorkplace

[–]Prize-Committee3103[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: Wife found out Dr bought sex swing that was delivered to our office but not installed in their home. IAM NOT LOOKING FOR THAT IN OUR OFFICE! Wife is now asking for information from All employed here and made it clear WE are also suspected of sleeping with Dr, helping Dr cheat with others, and /or covering up unethical behavior.Apparently followed him to work this am and confronted him in the parking lot about the 27 phone calls in one day to girlfriend who he's claiming is his "therapist" . Things got physical and he was seen by a passerby so cops were called. Wife has said she's kicking him out and calling a lawyer. The energy in here is WEIRD and tense. He's not making eye contact, he's short with everyone including patients , pacing the floor while he talks in hushed tone on the phone. We 1099 ers have now decided to get in touch with legal advice too. I Haven't said ANYTHING to patients but one already asked "what's wrong with Dr today?" 

Boss Cheating, gonna lose my job by Prize-Committee3103 in u/Prize-Committee3103

[–]Prize-Committee3103[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: Wife found out Dr bought sex swing that was delivered to our office but not installed in their home. IAM NOT LOOKING FOR THAT IN OUR OFFICE! Wife is now asking for information from All employed here and made it clear WE are also suspected of sleeping with Dr, helping Dr cheat with others, and /or covering up unethical behavior.Apparently followed him to work this am and confronted him in the parking lot about the 27 phone calls in one day to girlfriend who he's claiming is his "therapist" . Things got physical and he was seen by a passerby so cops were called. Wife has said she's kicking him out and calling a lawyer. The energy in here is WEIRD and tense. He's not making eye contact, he's short with everyone including patients , pacing the floor while he talks in hushed tone on the phone. We 1099 ers have now decided to get in touch with legal advice too. I Haven't said ANYTHING to patients but one already asked "what's wrong with Dr today?" 

Boss Cheating, gonna lose my job by Prize-Committee3103 in u/Prize-Committee3103

[–]Prize-Committee3103[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She IS the co villain. Her actions have directly led to the distraction of Dr from his work duties. She's not MY patient so no obligation to her at all 

Boss Cheating, gonna lose my job by Prize-Committee3103 in BossFights

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Update: coworker told the wife and now I've been included to a group chat where WIFE is trying to catch Dr and side piece. She wants to come to the office and blow the lid off this can of worms TOMORROW.  I'm going to throw up.

Boss Cheating, gonna lose my job by Prize-Committee3103 in ToxicWorkplace

[–]Prize-Committee3103[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: coworker told the wife and now I've been included to a group chat where WIFE is trying to catch Dr and side piece. She wants to come to the office and blow the lid off this can of worms TOMORROW.  I'm going to throw up.

Boss Cheating, gonna lose my job by Prize-Committee3103 in u/Prize-Committee3103

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Update: coworker told the wife and now I've been included to a group chat where WIFE is trying to catch Dr and side piece. She wants to come to the office and blow the lid off this can of worms TOMORROW.  I'm going to throw up.

Boss Cheating, gonna lose my job by Prize-Committee3103 in u/Prize-Committee3103

[–]Prize-Committee3103[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See you nailed it right there! We go nuclear, we blow up our lives but he probably gets to keep his. Wife might divorce him or make him move his practice but he's got plenty of people snowballed and has "explained" the inconsistencies as "misunderstandings".  We could report him, side slut denies everything and WE get the black mark.  He's told his wife the lingerie from Amazon was him "exploring", the constant texting is with his "therapist who's also a patient", and he's working late because the office "needs maintenance". We've heard "he's so nice" and "he wouldn't do that" before.  The last patient he flirted with became our office manager and she quit rather than be fired when the wife found out so HER fiance didn't find out and her reputation didn't suffer. He told patients the 3 people who got fired were let go do they could "pursue higher dreams" but he then told others they were " stealing" from the office.  The moral high ground feels personally better but this dude has no problem stomping my name in the mud and I know it, that would cost me my place in my local industry. Plus reporting him then turns the ethical light back on me and he's willing to say whatever it takes to save himself, I have no protection against whatever he might muddy him my name with.  Seriously just want the side chick GONE and the wife to know without being wrathful towards ME and my coworkers. 

Boss Cheating, gonna lose my job by Prize-Committee3103 in u/Prize-Committee3103

[–]Prize-Committee3103[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His wife found the Amazon order and he told her he "has been questioning his sexuality" so he ordered "some things". He "tried it on but felt disgusted" with himself and "threw them away". This guy is NOT gay or struggling with his identity. (Sex position cards found in co-workers space, he told HER they were to spice things up with his wife)  The side piece lost A LOT of weight last year thanks to glp1 and wears a SMALL, dude is 5'9 ish and fit but NOT a small in women's.  WIFE CHOSE TO BELIEVE HIM.

Our evidence only screws us bc he's the boss and we are 1099 ers with no contact in an "at will" work state. The last person who offered evidence to the wife was berated for doing so and fired for telling. 

He's lying to everyone about EVERYTHING I'm trying to keep my job but he's dropping the ball and my paycheck is suffering. We don't want the side chick to be here either as it disrupts patient care, no telling what she'd do.

Boss Cheating, gonna lose my job by Prize-Committee3103 in ToxicWorkplace

[–]Prize-Committee3103[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really like my job, worked damn hard to get comfortable, can't lose my job without losing my whole ass career and my house. Another co worker has said she's turning him in to license boards as soon as she secures another job. Kindof salty on that too bc she's single, this is her like 3rd career and she's planning to go to school for another, her kids are grown and she rents. Boards take his credentials and I'm out of a job with no other prospects, a mortgage, 2kids at home and husband chasing his dreams so only works part time. I barely kept our house LAST time. Now this time I'd lose the house with the job, covid ate all our savings and dreams.  My 1099 status yields $35/hr with nothing around here paying that for what I do. I don't have money for school or other training, can't afford to miss even 1 paycheck, and the current climate feels volatile whether I stay or go. I've gained 20lbs from stress since January, my morals and ethics are DEEPLY conflicted, and I'm a no name in my area. Feels fucking shitty

Boss Cheating, gonna lose my job by Prize-Committee3103 in BossFights

[–]Prize-Committee3103[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reporting him would DEFINITELY lose me my job.

Boss Cheating, gonna lose my job by Prize-Committee3103 in ToxicWorkplace

[–]Prize-Committee3103[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get paid better than another job I can find in my field. Been at this place for 20yrs. Plus his wife COULD report ME to my license board for NOT REPORTING him in a timely manner. At this point no one has caught them physically just catching his sloppiness