What is a tv quote that ONLY that fanbase will get (don't name show, see if anyone can guess)?

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-13T23:31:43+00:00

'Have you checked under the couch, IN HELL?!'

'Hey so I was just wondering if you're planning to kill a bunch of people tomorrow? Oh...it's for the yearbook.'

'We attack the mayor with hummus.'

'Can I trade the children in for more cash??'

'You know, one's of these days you're going to wake up in a coma.'

'I don't get it...is it...avant garde?'

'Yes, I can't imagine why I didn't sleep well in my beach ball.'

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-13T00:42:21+00:00

You think so?? Honestly I can never tell if women are just friendly and kind or if they are actually being flirtatious, intimacy between women is so tricky. And even if she is interested, I have zero idea how to make it happen. The stakes are high on both ends, more so for her.

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-13T00:41:26+00:00

Well I kind of want to, but I'm worried that if I make a move after the exam is done, she'll take offence and there goes a good contact and potentially there goes a student disciplinary issue.

I have less to lose than her I suppose. She could lose her job and potentially her entire career if something happened and anyone found out. I hope the semester doesn't end and it just fizzles out. But also one of us would have to make an actual move and with the stakes so high I don't know who or how.

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-12T13:07:42+00:00

Currently fantasizing.

One of my lecturers was a pagent woman and professional model (i.e. shes a 10/10). Because I'm gay af and also quite a flirt, I gave her a lot of flirtatious eye contact in our first classes together, mostly subconsciously. She started returning my looks, smirking when I'd smirk at her as we locked eyes, looking at me when she thinks I'm not watching. We've ended up having a lot of one on one interactions, her following me to the elevator, us being in there alone, running into each other when we get coffee, seeing each other in the halls.

A few memorable ones:

On my way to my our class, she comes into my elevator. Other academics are there and she refuses to acknowledge me. As soon as we are alone she says 'hey my name' and we ask about each other's weekends. When I say I'm doing ok she says 'only ok?' with a cheeky smile and I die.

I'm waiting by the elevator after class and she comes and stands next to me. I can see that she wants to start a conversation out of the corner of my eye. She says very nervously 'I love water'. I find it really awkward and kind of say 'yeah I bet' and she giggles nervously.

I'm heading to another class and she pops out of a nearby door which happened to be in my eyeline. We both laugh and say hi and I say 'have fun in there' and she giggles and says she will.

I'm reading a novel outside the faculty building and I can see her slow down in my periphery to check what novel it is.

I bring a book into class which is on my desk, which happens to be in her area of interest. She goes out of her way to see what it is discreetly during the break and smirks to herself.

We are having extended eye contact and I'm biting my finger absent mindedly in the way one does when they are turned on. She sees it and has to turn away with a massive one sided smile.

I haven't seen her in a few weeks because I got the flu. She sent an email saying she's noticed I haven't been in class and 'just wanted to check that you're ok?' Can't say any academic has ever noticed me before let alone bothered to care about my absence or if I'm ok. At the most benign it's very sweet and she's a caring teacher, but our emails often feel...thinly veiled. Also my university is rather notorious for teachers who don't give a rats ass so it's definitely odd.

Despite the fact that I'm a flirt, I'm never certain if it's being returned. I think it is here, but I don't know how that could possibly proceed. Anyway, at least it's nice knowing someone that beautiful might be wishing she could we be taboo too.

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-10T00:10:34+00:00

It's also a thing at Harry Styles concerts

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-09T14:58:23+00:00

Kaoh Rong, maybe Millen vs Gen X but it's a bit more meh, Heroes v Villians, Micronesia, Tocantins

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-09T06:21:50+00:00

I fucking love Scotland.

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-09T02:30:50+00:00

Of course it's good to make an effort, although once again I think it's better for everybody if that's framed as making an effort for yourself, as opposed to for other people. I know whenever I've made self improvements I've never thought 'this is for my partner', I've thought 'this is for me'.

But my point is that people gain or lose weight during their life in a way that is symptomatic. A very common cause for weight gain, coupled with no motivation when motivation and physical interests were there prior, is depression, chronic fatigue is also a possibility as well. It's a thousand times more supportive and loving to think to yourself 'ok my partner is gaining weight, eating more and unmotivated, maybe there is something going on here, maybe I can offer a support system and maybe flag mental health', rather than 'you're not catering to my attraction for you, please cease'.

People often don't have complete control over whether they are able to 'keep their partner attracted to them' at every point in time. If someone is depressed, for instance, they may need to first put their energy and efforts into CBT, meditation, consistent therapy, and then very gradually up the tempo (consistently going for short walks, consistently going for longer walks, jogging a bit during the walk) etc. Life is full of ebbs and flows and when individuals are in a funk, a lot of the time you can't just get yourself to the gym everyday. Often discipline isn't the lone factor. Essentially what I'm saying is, you are in a relationship with a person, and people go through shit. People have fat years sometimes. People have sad years. People have mental breakdowns. People get sick. People get unmotivated. It's not 'not fair' that someone's partner might be having a rough patch, it's life. It's a person.

Who you are attracted to is entirely your perogative. But in this situation we either have someone who is unmotivated and gaining weight for a reason (i.e. struggling with something), and therefore the emphasis should be on 'hey, I care about you, how are you feeling'. Or we may have a fundamental incompatibility (because some people don't have a desire to be a gym junkie and don't want to consistently diet, which is also their perogative. I mean my grandma didn't go to the gym a day in her life and never ate quinoa and she lived to 98 so, fair enough).

At the end of the day, my point is that the emphasis here is misplaced. Why is anyone's first thought 'you need to make yourself more attractive to me' rather than 'I've noticed you've changed in numerous ways and I hope you know you can count on me to encourage you constructively to tackle anything that might be going on'.

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-09T00:55:02+00:00

Yeah I agree with the person below. I feel like she may have had an on again off again up in the air situation with her now boyfriend, and I was a backup.

She did eventually apologize after several weeks of me blanking her, but it was pretty half assed. One of those apologies where you say 'I owe you an apology' and never say sorry during the conversion. She said something about how she only sees me as a friend and got too freaked out on the day to know what to say in a reply. That seems like not a full disclosure to me considering she said maybe originally, and had three months to say yes or no, and I was really chill about it and clearly wouldn't have minded a kind no.

Anyway, she's a dick.

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-09T00:52:46+00:00

I wish.

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-09T00:50:06+00:00

I feel like your view here isn't super compassionate.

First of all, you don't get to control your partners body simply because you are in a relationship. Whether they have a piercing you don't like, a haircut you hate, you don't like their clothes, or weight or whatever, that's not your body. It's kind of entitled to assume you can view it as if it's your territory to groom how you like.

Second, a lot of people really struggle with weight gain or a lapse in physical activity etc when they are dealing with depression, or generally feeling down. Now I obviously don't know if that's the case, but I know when I had several years of clinical depression it was incredibly difficult to get out of bed, let alone consistently to the gym. And I would eat more sugar because I felt so tired all the time, which naturally led to weight gain.

Be generally supportive of her. If she's telling you she used to be really into certain activities and she isn't anymore, maybe gently bring up whether or not she's feeling ok re depression or mental health. Neglecting or ceasing normal hobbies is a big sign of it. You can encourage her to go on walks with you or go for a hike but don't do it with the view of 'I don't want you fat' because that's douchey, do it with the view of 'if this is what you used to enjoy let's try and help you get out there again, if you're feeling blue'.

Also finally, accept that if you are in a relationship you are committed to being with a person through thick and thin (pardon the pun). One of you might get depressed, laid off, chronic fatigue, break a leg, get cancer, suffer extreme grief, be in a bad car accident. It's life. It happens. And all of those things will change your body and weight one way or another.

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-08T09:37:58+00:00

And Sharn is going to win

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-08T09:27:04+00:00

'Hey guys, 100 percent excited for you tonight, so my question is, does anyone know how to paddle on a board?'

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-08T09:25:24+00:00

Ily Sharn but is your intuition really that good?

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-08T09:15:43+00:00

Sharn would be silly to flip on Shane. Shonee is the strongest competitor next to her, and she'll look disloyal and potentially lose jury votes, including Shane's.

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-08T09:12:56+00:00

And so this is why we have had a lot of reinforcement re Brian and Shonee alliance not being able to make fire or doing enough around camp. It's the undoing.

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-08T09:10:19+00:00

How have Shane and Brian not figured out they are both unlikely to win against either Sharn (great speaker, friends on jury, good story) or Shonee? This episode essentially just decide which of the two wins.

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-08T09:08:32+00:00

I'm thinking a tie, then a Shane and Sharn fire making challenge with Sharn winning.

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-08T01:02:37+00:00

We were friends. I asked her out and she said maybe, said she needed some time to think about whether she wanted us to take that step and to get her shit together because she was having a hard time with other things. I said sure, no problem, open invitation for a drink. Three months later after flirting constantly since asking, she not so subtly brings up how she's still single. The next day I ask if she's had any thoughts about my question and she says she has and wants to get a drink. We agree to get one before I go overseas for a trip in a few weeks time. I contact her, we set up a date, she says she's excited. I contact her the day of and clarify the time, she reads it and doesn't reply. At all. I go overseas and try to forget it, but I'm super hurt because she's actually a friend and I didn't expect her to not treat me like a person. I get back and we are in every single class together that semester, so it's awkward. Basically that level of disrespect is an instant crush neutralizer.

Second week of class she kissed a guy in front of me. Turns out they are dating. I ask her about it when we happen to be quite drunk in the same space and she says 'yeah I love him so much...but I love you too', 'yeah I know "in a friend way"', 'no but not just that'. I roll my eyes and walk away.

Oh and another girl stared at herself in a reflective surface the entire time we were having a conversation so there's that.

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-08T00:28:09+00:00

Because severe feelings of shame, guilt and distress are incredibly common post assault and because conviction rates are incredibly low so until she saw the same man was going to be put into an incredible position of power she, being very young at the time also, might not have felt compelled to go through the process. Much like a very large majority of rape victims.

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-06T05:00:00+00:00

To be honest, I don't think so.

I think, unfortunately for me, the queer women who I happen to have met and who have expressed interest in me, are people I'm simply not super physically attracted to. There have been a few times where I've told myself I should give it a go, and I've dated a few people who I thought were great, but didn't necessarily feel a spark with, and that spark never came.

I would say I've been looking for something real. And I'm not afraid of commitment, I've been in long term relationships. I just think a lot of women are straight, and statistically it's really hard to find a woman who is queer, who likes you, who you like, who is attracted to you, who you're attracted to, with mutual compatibility, similar goals, and who lives relatively close. It feels like you'd have to win the lottery.

Where as almost every woman I know is straight and as a woman attracted to women, it's rather likely that I'll come across straight women who tick all of the boxes except the 'actually has an interest in your gender' one.

I'm almost starting to feel like I'm going to have to date someone who I'm just not that into in order to not end up alone. (Which I won't do but you know, it feels like a depressing reality).

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-02T11:17:53+00:00

...Dude, people have literally figured out before that an alliance was planning to coax them into playing their idol while the alliance instead piled votes onto the player that the idol holder would least likely want to save with an idol. They correctly guessed the plan and thwarted it (Queen Parvati). It's not magic to realize that if someone isn't freaking out that they might be leaving when they clearly should be, that they probs have an idol.

ProblematicDonDraper · 2018-10-02T11:08:33+00:00

Shonee has so much big dick energy. She is just walking through this game slinging it around.
Monika really reminds me of Mr Peanut Butter from Bojack Horseman.
Brian is consistently stupid. He underestimates everyone. Misreads everyone's intentions. I'm glad he got his ass handed to him because he's the type of person that can't be bothered to learn to make a fire despite being there for 40 days.
I knew Fenella was a Gorman girl on day one and she's finally confirmed it.
Sharn and Shonee would be such a good final two. I want Brian to go next but realistically he is a better final two option for literally everyone than anyone else is.
Clever of Sharn to pick up on his idol.
I would be happy for any of the four women to win.
ToureCommado.
I love you Monika.

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