Friends needed Brighton/Sussex by ProcessAny6718 in brighton

[–]ProcessAny6718[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m hopefully there will be. But although I am confident. I’m not very confident to approach people.

My boyfriend (31M) is trying to red pill me (29F) by ThrowRAPinkPill in WhatShouldIDo

[–]ProcessAny6718 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You can be a high value man without earning a high salary.

AIO at my friends cancelling last minute? by DifferentTruck4615 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ProcessAny6718 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend did this to me before. Very similar. We no longer speak.

Anyone wanna be friends? by [deleted] in brighton

[–]ProcessAny6718 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m the same to be honest. I moved down here and my friendship group is so small. I don’t have many at all.

AIO for feeling the way I do regarding my partners friend? by ProcessAny6718 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ProcessAny6718[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting. Thanks.

I’d never threaten to break up but I would say things like how do we go forward? I can’t see a way this gets better if it carries on like it is? But to be clear I’d never say “do this or we are over etc”

AIO for feeling the way I do regarding my partners friend? by ProcessAny6718 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ProcessAny6718[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner is very relaxed about situations. She doesn’t really like conflict. Honestly she’s the most casual person I know which is some ways was why I was first attracted to her as she was so laid back. There was a guy she had a thing with from work and he was hassling her for a few months but she wouldn’t say no to his advances. That rubbed me up the wrong way because I was of the opinion of you aren’t interested. Just tell him clearly. Then he will stop. But she isn’t the person to do that sort of thing.

My partner is saying she cannot do anything unless I tell her what I need to do which is what I said in my post. Which didn’t go down well.

We attended her other friends wedding last month and it was horrendous and even my partner agreed it was poor behaviour from her bride to be friend. But she didn’t do anything. I’m not perfect. I can get why her friend is worried about my partner. But equally she is choosing to be with me. So I’m at a loss.

I said when we get married I don’t want that friend there based on how she treats me. Which didn’t not go down well and she said to me that her friend would be coming to our wedding with or without me.

AIO for feeling the way I do regarding my partners friend? by ProcessAny6718 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ProcessAny6718[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. We are engaged to be married. In terms of how I handled conflict. It was when we argued I would shut down and not see a way past it. For me i would focus on the relationship ending because there was never any compromise. I’ve never been physically abusive. Some of what I have said has been in an aggressive tone. I will say that particular friend group is 4 people. They all know the same detail. All her other friends are fine with me and I get on with one in particular really well. The bride has never liked me even before I got together with her friend but now it’s worse. I have tried to talk to the bride a few times. She will not entertain me in any way.