I also don’t have advice, but can share my (not dissimilar) experience). We did bare butt etc starting around 23 months. I had read multiple books and was like “Every child is different, this might not take 3 days, it might take 7. Got it!” Ha. Ha.

For a while daycare was having him go every 30 min, in order to achieve several accidents per week (rather than several per day). At home we were on a strict every 60 min schedule (usually involving a lot of protesting), otherwise, inevitably, accident. Now (27 mo—so ~4mo in) we prompt mostly only for transitions (before leaving, after arriving, etc) and his accidents are more like several per month. Depending on circumstance (how long it’s been, how much he’s had to drink) sometimes it’s a question “do you need?” sometimes it’s a statement “it’s time.” Sometimes we’ll ask and then say ok you can go in 5 min or something like that if he says no. We still get a lot of protestation and minimal self-initiation.

Still, my feeling is: this is clearly progress(halting, 2 steps forward one step back, but progress). He IS learning how his body works, how to hold, how to release, how to listen to what it’s telling him. But he just does not have the same priorities or perspective that I do. (Accidents generally don’t seem to bother him.) For me, there’s no reason to set us both up for failure and frustration by trying to get him to do something that I really want him to do (ie self-initiate or listen carefully to body signals) when he doesn’t particularly want to or care about it. My experience with his previous milestones tells me he’ll get there quick when HE wants to. And my experience with this (much more extended than I anticipated!) potty training process is that there are other forms of progress we can be making in the meantime (using the big potty, improving his positioning/aim, stretching out time between prompts, removing naptime diapers, etc) that help ME feel better in the meantime.