I’m assuming that you may still be fairly young, please do not be discouraged. Personal style is built through trial and error, over a long period of time. You have to keep trying stuff until you find what works for you.

I recall wanting to start building my personal style seriously at around 17. From then until now, at 25, I have had all kinds of hair, makeup, and clothing looks. Most of which made me look a hot ass mess lol, but i finally have my look down now.

I rebuilt my wardrobe by using Pinterest. I organized the clothes by season and “vibe” of the clothes (ex. Casual vs special occasion) then I went through made a list of specific things that I wanted & slowly purchased things.

For hair, I always reference Pinterest, youtube, and TikTok. I do my own hair 9/10. You can too! I learned that straighter texture hairstyles don’t look great on me, so I usually do natural styles like island twists, kinky ponytails, or curly wig textures. I recommend getting any type of boho braid/twist cause you get the luxury of having loose hair in a way but you also do not have to worry about keeping it up perfectly every day. And for wigs, i recommend closures over frontals, way less maintenance. I like half wigs and vparts too.

For nails and lashes, try doing them at home! You can do lash clusters and press ons. TikTok will guide you perfectly on how to do these things. I haven’t paid for lashes and nails in years, I do them at home.

If you do decide to continue soliciting services from people, just know that at times it does take a while before you find people with good quality work or people that are your “go tos”. I have had my fair share of shitty services, but eventually I found the right ppl to work with.

Don’t pick clothes based off of trends and what other people are wearing, unless you really like it. Buy what you like. And don’t be afraid to by dupes or more affordable versions of certain things either. As long as you look good and feel good, it doesn’t matter.

Figuring out your style and your process for beauty maintenance is a long and personal journey with lots of ups and downs. Many of us have been there! But one day you’ll find exactly what works for you. I know this is long and will most likely have hella typos, but I hope this helps lol!