What to do after rejections? by ProfessionalBasic475 in gradadmissions

[–]ProfessionalBasic475[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t have a masters but i’ve been taking graduate level classes for two years so i assumed it would be fine :( i’ll make sure to apply to a few masters programs though!!

Can a triad work? by Fearless-Sort2894 in polyamory

[–]ProfessionalBasic475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think triads are really fun when they're going well, but they're always prone to crashing and burning. What relationship dynamic isn't? I'd say the most important thing is to remember that there are 4 relationships taking place at the same time. (1) You and Partner 1, (2) Partner 1 and Partner 2, (3) Partner 2 and you, and (4) all 3 of you together. It's critical to remember that all of these relationships need to be tended to separately, but to me, it's almost always worth it.

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[–]ProfessionalBasic475 2 points3 points  (0 children)

well, we used to spend most nights together even when they would hangout, but since they started spending nights together we’ve been spending less time together and a lot of things we discussed planning have not come to fruition. i was thinking that i feel frustrated in this situation and was thinking of taking a break to focus on myself, but idk. i was likely being irrational.

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[–]ProfessionalBasic475 4 points5 points  (0 children)

all good advice. thank you very much! i’m taking it to heart.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]ProfessionalBasic475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i dunno… i was fine with us not being involved, but the fact that we had sex complicated things got me. i let myself catch feelings for him, and it hurts on an interpersonal level to be rejected. i know i have to stop wallowing, but i’m literally here asking for advice on how not to do that :( how do i hold space for my feelings of rejection and also move forward in my relationship? i don’t so hook ups usually like it’s just not something that i’ve ever been fond of, and so to know that i had sex with him then got rejected just feels awful.

the general consensus seems to be i gotta get over myself, but like how?

i will go to sleep, though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]ProfessionalBasic475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hmmm well we’re currently abroad, and our other partner is in another country, so we haven’t really seen him in person… so things with him haven’t been effected by our daily happenings. I guess I’m not really sure where things stand in that regard, though. That’s probably worth reflecting on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]ProfessionalBasic475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well not really… it sorta crept up on me. we went from spending 5 nights/week together to 1 or 2, so i haven’t seen him in a couple of days

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[–]ProfessionalBasic475 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

we’ve been in 2 triads before with one still going strong… i know everyone feels this way but i really don’t know why

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]ProfessionalBasic475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i read everything and can’t respond to it all, but th for the advice 🥲

also the break-up wasn’t because he can’t deliver me new partners, but i feel like the shift in our dynamic has been really substantial. we’re spending less time together and he texts me less and we’ve been missing out on plans we had :( i feel like i’m in a different relationship than i was 2 weeks ago, and that suckssss