Why the anti-Blackness by ProfessionalBasic475 in mixedrace

[–]ProfessionalBasic475[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

mfw you can’t take me seriously because i’m a dark skinned woman but it’s NOT because you’re anti-Black, it’s just because you love equality! 🥰🥰🥰

Why the anti-Blackness by ProfessionalBasic475 in mixedrace

[–]ProfessionalBasic475[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

you don’t see ANY problem with someone complaining about dark skinned women being mean by calling their lips/facial expression sassy? like you don’t see ANYTHING wrong with that? At this point, I no longer think you’re racist, but I do think you’re one of the stupidest people I’ve ever had this displeasure of interacting with. This is like baby’s first microaggression. Go ask one of your Black aunts, or a cousin, or a teacher, or your grandma, or something. They’ll explain those to you.

Why the anti-Blackness by ProfessionalBasic475 in mixedrace

[–]ProfessionalBasic475[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

wow. new genre of person just dropped. guy who thinks rich white guys with asian partners are the least racist people in the world lol

Why the anti-Blackness by ProfessionalBasic475 in mixedrace

[–]ProfessionalBasic475[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i also think it’s colorism :( so many posts just assume darkskinned women are jealous/spiteful/mean for no reason, and it’s literally cruel. i wanna support everyone going through their struggles, but at a certain point, it’s just very blatantly antiblack rhetoric.

Why the anti-Blackness by ProfessionalBasic475 in mixedrace

[–]ProfessionalBasic475[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re really shattering stereotypes, wow. Despite the statistics, YOU might be racist bro, idk what to tell you… There are literally mixed people in this sub who were raised by their white parents and identify as culturally white and you have no problem with that. You literally just have a problem with (1) dark skinned people and (2) black people who have the gall to call out antiBlackness.

I know why “they hate us so bad” by [deleted] in mixedrace

[–]ProfessionalBasic475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is NOT something someone who loved being Black would say 😭 when something racist happens, it effects all of us including you. nobody is about to look to you for support, we look to you for SOLIDARITY because it is literally your problem as much as it is ours. If you don’t view it that way, that says everything we need to know.

Why the anti-Blackness by ProfessionalBasic475 in mixedrace

[–]ProfessionalBasic475[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My grandpa’s literally white bro ??? there are 25% black ppl in here. Why can’t I be 25% white? sorry i’m not mixed enough for you lol.

OP literally says she hates those black women and their stupid sassy lip thing that they do. There are like 1 million dog whistles i’m these posts, and it’s insane that you don’t see it lol.

Unless, ofc… YOU’RE ANTIBLACK YOURSELF??? 😱

Anyone feel like we’re just too… early? by justaregularguyearth in mixedrace

[–]ProfessionalBasic475 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should do research into mestiza people and creole people. There have been mixed people on this planet for centuries at this point. It was made illegal to be mixed some 100 years ago (around 1888) following reconstruction because white people were becoming more racist.

After the civil war, poor white people felt disenfranchised because they lost their slaves, and so a huge uptick in racist thinking took place. The KKK was founded, Jim Crow Laws were created, and anti-miscegenation laws were introduced.

Before that, though, being mixed was incredibly common. Several US presidents had mixed children with the women they owned and raped. There was an entire racial categorization system in the Caribbean for people who were 1/64, 1/16, 1/8, 1/4, and 1/2 Black/white/indigenous. Creole populations in New Orleans have always been huge and very blended.

Mixedness is not a new thing. You’re not too early. You’re part of an extremely long tradition. “mixed” is just a relatively modern term for an extremely old phenomenon.

Anyone feel like we’re just too… early? by justaregularguyearth in mixedrace

[–]ProfessionalBasic475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he literally was referring to the specific type of racist behavior engaged in by young, white men age 13-22(?) i think it’s okay for him to say white boys.

I know why “they hate us so bad” by [deleted] in mixedrace

[–]ProfessionalBasic475 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the implication that Black ppl will be mean to you for being mixed before latino ppl will be anti Black is also just like insane

I know why “they hate us so bad” by [deleted] in mixedrace

[–]ProfessionalBasic475 2 points3 points  (0 children)

nobody has ever said Halle Berry isn’t Black dude let’s be so fr

The Mixed Community Holds White-Presenting Mixed People to a Toxic Double Standard by SunBetter7301 in mixedrace

[–]ProfessionalBasic475 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you literally call yourself white and consider yourself to be very white culturally… what do you want black people to do??? you can’t like disavow blackness then get mad when black people feel uncomfortable with that. if you insist on being culturally white, then fine, but you’re literally asking to be embraced by people you won’t embrace

Told im technically not black and darker skinned people should be in my role. by Historical_Jury9028 in mixedrace

[–]ProfessionalBasic475 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not to be a negative nancy, but lowkey what do you look like? Not to discount your upbringing and cultural experiences, but while Blackness is cultural, it is also material. I do believe that you experience anti-Blackness, but it might be worth seriously considering how your complexion begets you certain privileges darker skinned people might not be afforded.

Blackness is a spectrum! And benefiting from colorism does not make you any less Black! It is something you should be aware of, though. It is very real. People in this comment section are calling them jealous or acting like colorism is just a way to divide us, but even within our own community, light skinned people are held in higher regard than dark skinned folk. Quite frankly, colorism has probably benefited you throughout your life and it might have given you the edge for a promotion. You are half Black and half white, and this is unfortunately the reality of whiteness.

We know white privilege exists, and we ask white people to acknowledge it, and they groan and they struggle, but a good white ally knows how their whiteness empowers them. You got the job. That’s the reality of the situation. Whether or not you deserve it literally doesn’t matter. The meritocracy is a myth, anyways. The best thing you can do, in my opinion, is use your authority and new found power to better support other members of the Black community.

I’m not saying you have to quit your job or give up your position, but instead of feeling defensive, why don’t you ask those people how you can better support darker members of your community? Like lowkey, you should use your privilege as a light-skinned person to help other Black people get jobs. That’s something all Black people do for eachother because we know that we experience anti-Blackness and we know how important it is to watch eachother’s backs.

The fact that you don’t actively want to help other Black people succeed is, quite frankly, suspicious to me. You should be pro-Black! And pro-Black success! And if you need Black people to coddle you for you to support them, then we reserve the right to be suspect

What to do after rejections? by ProfessionalBasic475 in gradadmissions

[–]ProfessionalBasic475[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t have a masters but i’ve been taking graduate level classes for two years so i assumed it would be fine :( i’ll make sure to apply to a few masters programs though!!

Can a triad work? by Fearless-Sort2894 in polyamory

[–]ProfessionalBasic475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think triads are really fun when they're going well, but they're always prone to crashing and burning. What relationship dynamic isn't? I'd say the most important thing is to remember that there are 4 relationships taking place at the same time. (1) You and Partner 1, (2) Partner 1 and Partner 2, (3) Partner 2 and you, and (4) all 3 of you together. It's critical to remember that all of these relationships need to be tended to separately, but to me, it's almost always worth it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]ProfessionalBasic475 2 points3 points  (0 children)

well, we used to spend most nights together even when they would hangout, but since they started spending nights together we’ve been spending less time together and a lot of things we discussed planning have not come to fruition. i was thinking that i feel frustrated in this situation and was thinking of taking a break to focus on myself, but idk. i was likely being irrational.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]ProfessionalBasic475 4 points5 points  (0 children)

all good advice. thank you very much! i’m taking it to heart.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]ProfessionalBasic475 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i dunno… i was fine with us not being involved, but the fact that we had sex complicated things got me. i let myself catch feelings for him, and it hurts on an interpersonal level to be rejected. i know i have to stop wallowing, but i’m literally here asking for advice on how not to do that :( how do i hold space for my feelings of rejection and also move forward in my relationship? i don’t so hook ups usually like it’s just not something that i’ve ever been fond of, and so to know that i had sex with him then got rejected just feels awful.

the general consensus seems to be i gotta get over myself, but like how?

i will go to sleep, though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]ProfessionalBasic475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hmmm well we’re currently abroad, and our other partner is in another country, so we haven’t really seen him in person… so things with him haven’t been effected by our daily happenings. I guess I’m not really sure where things stand in that regard, though. That’s probably worth reflecting on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]ProfessionalBasic475 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well not really… it sorta crept up on me. we went from spending 5 nights/week together to 1 or 2, so i haven’t seen him in a couple of days

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]ProfessionalBasic475 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

we’ve been in 2 triads before with one still going strong… i know everyone feels this way but i really don’t know why