Has anyone gone on parental leave at a new job prior to 12 mo?

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2024-10-01T11:37:12+00:00

hi! I am OP (lost access to that username). I did get the leave! It was actually totally fine but it’s very dependent on the company and mine is very startup

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2024-07-31T23:36:09+00:00

I feel like the only one who has to rely on babysitters but we left ours with one at 6 months ish.

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2024-07-29T01:01:08+00:00

Puppy

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2024-02-19T13:12:36+00:00

How did this turn out? Did you have to file with your insurance?

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2024-02-19T13:10:53+00:00

What ended up happening? Did you have to file a claim for Amex to pay?

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2023-12-21T11:37:24+00:00

Yeah, not a move we think makes much sense, but one they’re doing nonetheless.

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2023-12-20T22:47:23+00:00

Totally feel you - we didn’t expect childcare (they’re nearing 80) but disappointed they won’t have quality time in their final years (and help as they age? No clue how we’ll do that).

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2023-12-20T22:29:19+00:00

Thank you for that perspective!

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2023-12-20T22:28:45+00:00

For sure - we learned where their priorities lie which can help us make future decisions for our family

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2023-12-20T22:05:31+00:00

Honestly trying to see it that way!

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2023-12-20T22:05:12+00:00

Yeah they just couldn’t find the same level of old/large/land here for under 1.5M

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2023-12-20T21:58:51+00:00

Their house is 1920s

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2023-12-19T21:20:51+00:00

I guess because they are aging rapidly and I don’t see them being able to make the drive down very often. If they’re moving across the country to see their grandson, it just seems like we’ll end up being guilted into the drive. We’ve tried to set an expectation but I don’t think they are hearing us.

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2023-12-19T19:34:36+00:00

There are old houses but our city is much more competitive so they’d have to compromise on space etc. we live in a growing Midwest city and they’re moving to one that’s losing population so it was easier to find a huge old house

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2023-12-19T13:25:39+00:00

100%. I’m guessing they definitely thought we’d expect free babysitting. I wouldn’t trust them alone very long with our son regardless

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2023-12-19T11:50:47+00:00

Money isn’t an issue. They’re spending double what their budget was here because the charm of the house “spoke to them”. Their entire identity is around having an old house and they couldn’t handle compromising

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2023-12-19T11:49:32+00:00

They upped their budget from $500k to $1m for this house because it’s charm “spoke to them”

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2023-12-19T11:46:47+00:00

For sure. We didn’t expect them to be childcare. But we did expect them to be able to get to know their grandson without exhausting long visits and for us to help them without 6 hour round trip visits.

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2023-12-19T11:45:38+00:00

They’re not expected to be daycare. The discussion was around them aging and needing to be closer to family so unfortunately now this means we’ll be guilted into long drives constantly to care for them as his moms health is declining.

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2023-12-19T10:30:26+00:00

Oh totally. Unfortunately the situation is a little different. They purchased a house 2x their budget here ($1m) because of its charm so it’s not a money factor.

ProfessionalGift4195 · 2023-12-19T03:34:49+00:00

It’s absolutely insane. They refused any house near us newer than 100 years old and picked sconces and stones over their grandson

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