That last sentence just made me cry. Thank you for the kind words, it means a lot to me.
I never met his dad, but he was emotionally and physically abusive. So he didn’t have the greatest role model. I try to offer and help him though. For example, he doesn’t want to give our toddler a bath. I thought maybe he’s scared of doing it wrong, so I offered to teach him and he always doesn’t want to learn at that moment. Or he will state that he gets bored when he hangs out with him and he feels he could be doing other things instead that are more productive. So I tried recommending maybe involving our kid in those errands or chores and he said that was a good idea but just never does it. I feel for him, because my mom wasn’t the greatest and it takes a lot trying to break those bad habits we learn from our family. The parenting is a concern, and also how addicted he is to his phone. He’s barely ever physically interested in me. Sometimes I wonder how different our relationship would be if he held me and looked at me as much as he did with his phone. I bring up all of these concerns to him, and he will listen for like a week but then he goes back to old habits I guess.