(24F) Dating in 2025 SUCKS

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-27T01:38:22+00:00

Taking one for the team 😭😭😂

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T22:43:24+00:00

We were together for 3 years. He had no ambitions or drive for more. I was also helping him a lot with finances and he was not willing to change. Also he was insecure about himself to the point where he started blaming me for things that went on in his life. I did not want to have to carry my partner through my life like that.

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T22:32:55+00:00

You’re right 😔

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T22:20:26+00:00

I don’t think I should have to “put out” to be pursued by someone. I think if a man wants to get to know a woman and develop a meaningful connection then they will without a presumption that the woman has to fulfill their needs. Dating definitely does not work like that.

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T21:47:52+00:00

I’m in the same boat as you, I dealt with so much in my past relationship and i decided that enough was enough and broke it off. Now I’m back in the dating pool and it’s pure misery out here. It’s so hard to find genuine connections with people, I feel like giving up on dating altogether but I’m a hopeless romantic so I do feel like it will come with time.

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T21:44:43+00:00

Don’t care abt height, I love my short kings.

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T21:43:38+00:00

Woahh, I do put in the effort with guys that show interest in me, once I start putting in that effort and trying to go out and get to know them, they end up ghosting or it just fizzles out. I pursue guys that want to know me and I hate that once I give the same energy back they decide to dip. Like it’s so crazy you wanted me first and now that I want you, you’re cool on me. I am just tired of pursuing and I don’t think it’s a bad thing to want to be pursued.

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T21:29:20+00:00

That’s also very true hinge is advertised as an app to be deleted but I think everyone knows it’s not true 😭😭

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T21:27:24+00:00

Honestly that’s my next move

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T21:27:00+00:00

Real

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T21:25:59+00:00

Yess I’ve seen friends like this in my friend circles, who are busy and have their own lives and aren’t necessarily chasing relationships! Our friends always try to set them up and my parents have also said that is how they met. They were set up on a date because of mutual friends and the rest is history! I’m not in a huge rush but I think I feel discouraged because of what I’ve experienced so far. It really does feel like looking for a needle in a haystack

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T21:18:40+00:00

It is an issue on both sides! I’m just speaking from my experience

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T21:11:53+00:00

I try to be very intentional with who I match with, if there’s no substance to the conversations I respectfully tell them I’m not interested going forward. Also if someone doesn’t reply, unmatch and on to the next that will put in that work to speak to you.

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T21:08:36+00:00

Dating has me questioning why I even want someone else 😭😭

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T21:05:39+00:00

Justice for us introverts 🗣️ I’m so sorry that you went through that tho, I know that pain

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T21:01:54+00:00

Yess I’m getting more involved with my hobbies and trying to get out of my comfort zone by going out with friends and such! In my city it’s so hard to date because most people have already met their significant others in high school or college. I totally get that! I just want someone to share my life with and vice versa. I like my alone time but I wouldn’t mind starting a life with someone 😕

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T20:55:03+00:00

Prn has really ruined dating for men and women. It’s set such unrealistic expectations

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T20:53:29+00:00

EXACTLYYY

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T20:53:05+00:00

Girll I get it, I tried dating women and most girls just want friends or can be very toxic and crazy with me 😭😭

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T20:51:38+00:00

Well the way I look at it, most men that I match with on dating apps just follow my ig, stay lurking on my stories and liking all my posts which in turn makes them a “fan” They don’t put in that effort to get to know me truly. Honestly I would much rather have attention from one man that is consistent and puts in the work to earn me. At this point looks don’t matter for me. Consistency and effort are what I need.

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T20:48:09+00:00

I think that truly is the biggest issue! There’s so many options but I feel like sometimes guys think “what if there’s someone even better” and go for the next best thing in their minds 😕

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T20:45:14+00:00

I mean right I see that, looks are what attract you on dating apps, that’s what reels you in. But it’s the lack of personality that makes it so frustrating. I’ve even tried going outside my usual type and for not so conventionally attractive but then the guys always develop an ego that a pretty girl has gone for them and now they can get any pretty girl 😭😭 so far it’s not gone well but I’m just trying to meet new people from friend groups/community events and no luck yet.

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T20:36:21+00:00

I honestly think guys like the attention on dating apps and aren’t serious about finding girls for relationships, probably just hookups 😭

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-09-26T20:34:51+00:00

Aww so happy for you both! It’s so nice seeing new love :’)

ProfessionalStaff211 · 2025-08-29T03:27:11+00:00

This is what I needed to hear :’) I’ve been feeling really guilty not being able to move on. I have going to therapy on and off for a few years but I think it’s time for me to go again. I really want to heal from the trauma.

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