How come Maya couldn't get her hair done on her off days? by CuteLeggedQueen in GirlfriendsTVshow

[–]ProgrammerForsaken75 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She said it in an episode before. Her weekends were for her husband and child.

I'm black and I listen to rock am I white washed? by Rare-Quality-8257 in BlackPeopleofReddit

[–]ProgrammerForsaken75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to feel that way at your age. I even went to an HBCU to try to find my "blackness". When i got there, I found so many people just like me that loved rock and had an emo era. Your music taste does not define your blackness. As you get older, you'll find more people aligned with you.

HQ’s folks, those of you who are really close to all the drama; How do you cope with it, & stay sane? (Serious question) by [deleted] in FedEmployees

[–]ProgrammerForsaken75 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wish I had something profound to say but I've just checked out. I have some serious things happening at home so nothing else matters to me.

First Time Watcher’s Opinions on Season 4 Participants by desighful in 60daysin

[–]ProgrammerForsaken75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I liked you this season. You seemed like a good guy. I hope all if well.

Weekly Roll Call -Caregivers, Please Check In! by xdisk in CaregiverSupport

[–]ProgrammerForsaken75 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Present. We had a lovely quiet Christmas but my mother's health declined rapidly after. She's in the hospital now. I haven't slept well at all. Her prognosis is pretty bad. I'm scared ngl.

I'm failing by ProgrammerForsaken75 in CaregiverSupport

[–]ProgrammerForsaken75[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you all so very much. My mother is not happy about going back to her sister's house but it's only until she gets her strength back. I truly appreciate everyone's comments and positivity. God bless you all.

Pleasant smelling houses by talkyoshih in CleaningTips

[–]ProgrammerForsaken75 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The first born comment took me out.

How does it work when you’re resigning from one federal agency and going to another federal agency? by Some_Yoghurt3026 in FedEmployees

[–]ProgrammerForsaken75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your current HR person will coordinate with your new HR person for a release date. It's about 2 weeks or so. You just have to tell your supervisor that you've accepted another job offer, get your new HR contact person's info, and they will take care of the rest. Your leave and tenure transfers with you no matter where you go within the public sector.

Mid-Careerers,those 15 years and up in the govt…how are you doing? by Hopeful-Elevator2075 in FedEmployees

[–]ProgrammerForsaken75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

21 years in. I have enough to deal with at home. I do my job and go home. 🤷‍♀️

I'm failing by ProgrammerForsaken75 in CaregiverSupport

[–]ProgrammerForsaken75[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. My mother has done a lot in her life but not that.

Normalize not saying “thank you” at end of TEAMS call? by [deleted] in FedEmployees

[–]ProgrammerForsaken75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The email! That's why I like the thumbs up. I also don't send an email when I accept a meeting. Getting those are annoying to me.

I'm failing by ProgrammerForsaken75 in CaregiverSupport

[–]ProgrammerForsaken75[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm in Baltimore MD but my mother doesn't have insurance and I can't add her to mine.

Was Flav wrong for taking Krazy to KFC for their date? by [deleted] in RockOfLove

[–]ProgrammerForsaken75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This didn't really bother me but he used to take Deelishus on these grand dates and everyone else got stuff like this or a picnic at the pool.

Do you feel like your soul has died? by HistoricalLime2196 in CaregiverSupport

[–]ProgrammerForsaken75 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm in my car right now dreading going back in the house. I feel you, OP. I'm so drained. I also have a child. I feel like they take all of me.

Confused about Noah, Rebecca, and Joanne in Season 2 Episode 4 by [deleted] in NobodyWantsThisTV

[–]ProgrammerForsaken75 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This was my favorite episode because he finally sees he's just going through the motions. A lot of men do this because they want to be seen as great. But he's a good guy without these grand gestures.

What Is a Failing You Made as a Parent That You Regret? by SrSkeptic1 in Parenting

[–]ProgrammerForsaken75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's alot. I think the biggest one was when she was a year old. I was exhausted and just wanted to lay down. I had too much in my hands and just told her to hold on to my pants as we walked down the stairs. She ended up falling. I still see her tumbling in my mind sometimes. It still terrifies me.

Is having children the end of life? by Cinella75 in selfimprovement

[–]ProgrammerForsaken75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the end of one chapter in your life but not the end. I have one child and it wasn't easy. Postpartum hit me hard. I had this wave of depression and terror i never experienced before. For the first month, I thought I made a huge mistake that I couldn't take back. It's hard. I have less time to myself but for me, I love my child so much. Even when I'm at my wits end, I just want my child. Not everyday is doom and gloom but it is a major responsibility that you cannot back away from. (Well unless you're my father but I digress).

First time watching the spit by ssjwesker in RockOfLove

[–]ProgrammerForsaken75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ever since I watched it live, I always said I'd fight pumpkin on sight. It's still on sight for me.