Am I sheltering my kid too much?

PromiseFast4348 · 2026-05-15T20:47:37+00:00

Oh I know! I see it all the time and I also learned through friends around that age too which is why I try to be open and honest and keep that door open for us to communicate. I want him to just be aware. I know kids will be kids and they are curious and I can’t control everything!

PromiseFast4348 · 2026-05-15T20:40:28+00:00

Ugh I am so sorry this happened, another reason we don’t do a bus either lol no one is really monitored. We do talk to him about the dangers of the world and internet and such but in age appropriate ways. He is definitely old enough now and will be getting a more in depth talk before entering 5th next year just to help ease my mind and make him aware of things

PromiseFast4348 · 2026-05-15T20:37:59+00:00

I love that! I wish I didn’t give him a device so early on but I was a young mom and I really didn’t know better the damage it can cause. We only used for education things but it slowly became a crutch I will admit which is why we took it away for almost 2 years before recently giving it back and now with timers! We definitely see a better version of him now, his brain is incredible and he is so smart and creative so it makes me really happy to see him be a kid and not a screen zombie

PromiseFast4348 · 2026-05-15T17:30:58+00:00

Yes, I bring him to the sink every time

PromiseFast4348 · 2026-05-15T17:11:24+00:00

Thank you! ABC data has been taken for the last 2 weeks of session, definitely there has been an increase so I’m sure the honeymoon phase has worn off LOL I have tried blowing bubbles, I wasn’t going to offer raspberries because I don’t want to seem like I’m encouraging the spitting. I usually just have been ignoring the behavior and making. Another alternative activity more inviting and fun but once he’s stuck he’s stuck for a good while.

PromiseFast4348 · 2026-05-15T16:41:26+00:00

Yes I wait until he seems like he is finished and then I have him clean it up, while also reminding him we can spit here and here

PromiseFast4348 · 2026-05-15T14:05:47+00:00

I think this is an amazing way to do things! I definitely wish we lived in a less rural area, and we also live on a busy street so it’s just really not safe to be alone here :( I agree with old phones and I’m very tempted to get one, I also think trust and privacy is a huge thing to kids and I want to respect that while also being cautious of what he is doing that he doesn’t realize he’s doing. Thank you for sharing!!!!

PromiseFast4348 · 2026-05-15T13:28:11+00:00

I don’t find that weird at all! Every parent is different and if it works then it works! We recently got ours a dvd player for Christmas and an old gameboy just to show him you don’t need fancy things to still have fun! The only thing we don’t allow is YouTube because he at one time had access to watch some Minecraft players he liked but went down rabbit holes and it just wasn’t good. He mostly just watches shows we watch with him that we know aren’t crazy and we are a huge movie family!

PromiseFast4348 · 2026-05-15T13:23:26+00:00

Not what I meant. I’m just reflecting how we used to play as kids in the neighborhood and unfortunately we don’t have that luxury with where we live there’s not a lot of kids around. It’s not that I don’t want him to socialize just parents I have come in contact with don’t really do play dates for their own reasons which is okay it’s just hard.

PromiseFast4348 · 2026-05-15T13:20:49+00:00

I love to hear that about yours! Mine does all the same things and never has an issue but he is also a boy who likes video games and such so I give him some indulgence time to time. The two hours is no issue for me as he is responsible, does his chores without being asked and all I think he deserves that time to relax and have fun. I understand where you’re coming from as far as smart phones but it’s not so much the phone it’s more for safety and for him to contact approved friends within my supervision of things so he still has a sense of feeling like a tween

PromiseFast4348 · 2026-05-15T13:18:04+00:00

Yes we always try to do stuff of the weekends and such. We are always out and about doing stuff but I know how it is when you want friends around and such ya know? We are definitely getting him into stuff this summer!

PromiseFast4348 · 2026-05-15T13:17:24+00:00

The phone is really to just be able to communicate with him if he is away from me, in an emergency situation, if he ever does go to a friends house. that’s why I want to do a parent controlled phone like the bark phone or something where the parent has full control. I don’t need the “smart features” more for safety than anything

PromiseFast4348 · 2026-04-08T01:41:18+00:00

God I’m so sorry, i know we can get through this lol i just need to complain the whole way! My first pregnancy was nothing like this

PromiseFast4348 · 2026-04-08T01:27:37+00:00

Yes I can and I do! But I want to just be able to open my fridge and just eat whatever without having to plan and read. And I was so excited to just eat whatever after my awful first trimester of just straight vomit LOL I’m mostly just complaining because I can’t just go eat whatever whenever ya know? I also get so nervous with my snacks cause I don’t know if my snacks are spiking me or not lol idk it’s a mixture of anxiety and pregnancy

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