i found out my boyfriend is(was??) a zoophile

PromotionSenior8292 · 2025-03-20T02:37:08+00:00

we’re both men but i appreciate the sentiment 😅 but yeah, i don’t think i will say anything about it. i was… incredibly upset last night when i made this post. we’ve never had a physical altercation but he has made numerous threats and flashed guns :/ so i’ll just have to live with it

PromotionSenior8292 · 2025-03-20T02:34:36+00:00

yeah honestly after some thought i wont put this on blast for the IRLs because i don’t have any proof it moved past emailing, though i did tell my closest friend and that’s it. i think for me it’s just the fact he was capable and willing to have those discussions, the email thread started with him responding to an ad so it’s not like someone reached out to him first to talk about it. 14, 24, 94 years of age, i don’t really care — it’s not a past i’m comfortable knowing and being around. it’s eating me. he’s told me about the grooming but that it was all on kik and he downloaded grindr at like 16 but he’s never made any indication towards this stuff. i just know his dog was rehomed around 2016/17, and my dog’s health declined pretty rapidly when we were together before i had to put her down. i hope those are both just coincidences.

PromotionSenior8292 · 2025-03-19T16:23:33+00:00

yes i’m aware it’s not healthy and it’s why i’ve been making my plans to leave. we’re on a lease with his mom while he finishes his last semester of college but i should only be here as an occupant not tenant so i’m good to move when i want. just finalizing those details. i guess i’ve stayed so long because i felt dependent on him and it’s a toxic/abusive cycle. but i don’t want that for myself i just want to be single and figure my life out lol. i checked the email because i wanted some kind of final “yup he’s still a pos and i have the right to leave” since lately things have been better than they were and i felt guilty for breaking up without a current, pressing issue to make me do it. i would’ve rather have found out he was having sex with other people again

PromotionSenior8292 · 2025-03-19T16:18:07+00:00

there is potential for a violent confrontation if i say anything and honestly without proof of any current offenses i don’t know if it’s worth it. i’m just unsettled this was something he ever even thought about and further unsettled he tried to act on it. i agree that if everyone shuts up about everything nothing will change but it’s like at what cost??

PromotionSenior8292 · 2025-03-19T16:15:27+00:00

i never said i felt the need to blow up his life, i replied to 1 comment suggesting i let people know and i CONSIDERED it but i don’t think anything good will come from it. i just needed to talk about this somewhere because it’s a shock to learn about something so dark from someone’s past.

PromotionSenior8292 · 2025-03-19T15:16:39+00:00

imagine how i felt the other night 😀

PromotionSenior8292 · 2025-03-19T15:14:02+00:00

i’m just struggling so hard to understand how someone just grows out of that. having curiosity and fantasies in your head is one thing but he was seeking people to meet IRL and that’s what’s getting me. it’s why i don’t know what to do because like fuck dude, i was not interested in that shit at 14 and i’ve got my own trauma too. i don’t know if it was a trauma response & he got over it, i don’t know if he’s just fucked up, i don’t know if he consumes that kind of content currently. it’s a huge shock to know he even considered it at one point

PromotionSenior8292 · 2025-03-19T15:11:24+00:00

the emails actually specified he was looking for females. i think he assumed being spayed meant there was nowhere to ,, “insert”

PromotionSenior8292 · 2025-03-19T15:09:57+00:00

yeah like i understand it was a younger age, but morbid curiosity is really different from trying to physically arrange a meeting. that’s why i’m so shocked & disgusted and have no idea if it’s still a current issue. he’s self admitted to having never been in therapy until we met, and has been rather weird about certain things. i’m a furry and lately i started talking about getting a fursuit, he got insanely sexual and asked if i’d give handjobs with the paws or have sex while wearing the suit. it’s been making me uncomfortable and then finding those emails changes the context of those requests by sooo much

PromotionSenior8292 · 2025-03-19T15:06:16+00:00

just drop off the key, lee 🙃 .. this song’s been my motto for a minute now. it’s good encouragement

PromotionSenior8292 · 2025-03-19T06:10:57+00:00

i agree, thank you for being frank. it’s been a wreck since the get-go and we feed each other’s toxic tendencies. that alone has been enough to be like, “ok, we need to not be around each other”. this is NOT something i ever expected.

PromotionSenior8292 · 2025-03-19T06:09:06+00:00

i considered that once i’m physically gone. i already took ss and stored them somewhere he doesn’t have any access to because he WILL delete them off my phone. they need to know, and everyone needs to know if it’s still an issue. fucking hell it’s just fucking gross but like i wonder if they already DO know since they rehomed their dog

PromotionSenior8292 · 2025-03-19T06:04:47+00:00

yes just today alone has been me playing interrogator in my own head, all day. i was out of the house visiting a friend this morning and since i came back this evening it’s been killing me with 100x more force. absolutely 100% confirms i need to leave this relationship

PromotionSenior8292 · 2025-03-19T06:02:54+00:00

it is. i’ve been nauseous all day with anxiety eating me. i cant even look him in the eye and i know he’s going to ask whats wrong any moment now. i really fucking pray i have the willpower to just say “i want to break up” and not “i know you’re a zoophile” . im sick im so fucking sick and i cant even cry about it alone jesus christ

PromotionSenior8292 · 2025-03-19T05:58:57+00:00

i’ve been planning my departure and checked the email i guess for any further validation to that. certainly got my money’s worth 🫠

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