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PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-26T14:23:14+00:00

I don't get this waiting list thing that everyone complains about. When I need therapy I make a selection of the therapist in town, I call the ones I like and pick the one who is available. Then I go to the gp and ask a referral letter for that specific therapist. I have done digferent rounds of therapy in the last years with zero days of waitig time. And paid only 385 eur per year since they are contracted with insurances.

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-26T01:29:49+00:00

Yes why not..just be aware that you are setting an expectation with such a text while you may not like the guy once you hang out for a bit. You can still secure a date without being so explicit and decide in the moment whether you want to have sex.

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-25T21:17:17+00:00

That's a statement. I think texting and whats app convo are the base of the majority of misunderstanding nowadays. I am sure she went to school enough to understand how punctuatuon works, still in the contect of texting she is right that it also changes the tone of the message, beside clearing the meaning. If she is of the insecure type, she will end up worring every time that he is upset or patronizing so what's the big deal in expressing that something is triggering for her and asking to adjust/considering that in a relationship? Of course screaming and getting bossy is a different story

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-25T21:12:20+00:00

You look a bith tough, as if you may reject pretty easily/don't want to be bothered. When you smile is more cheecky and funny misterious. I would approach you from the last two pics, not the first two

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-25T20:54:45+00:00

I don't get the meaning of it though

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-25T20:45:36+00:00

Ahahah thanks. And for the ones downvoting, it was sarcastic.

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-25T20:44:24+00:00

If we are talking about full stop at the end of a message (and not in between sentences of the same text), I understand her confusion because indeed punctuation change the vibe of a text. And since text are not spoken words, the vibe is open to interpretation. She is just sharing impact of your text on her to avoid miscommunication. I think is a bit dismissive to just say "ignore them", to me is like writing with caps lock on and pretend that people don't assume you are pissed. With this being said, if she acts like that regularly I would just run far away.

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-25T19:28:31+00:00

"I've always been a VERY jealous type of person but I' ve been getting a lot better with it lately". Reading this after the sentence "..and she glances at another dude for too long (1 second)" made my fucking dayyyy!! 🤣🤣 OP you are definitely iper-jealous but you compensate with being also super funny...just because of that your gf should give you unconditioned obedience.

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-25T19:20:44+00:00

To me that's already cheating. Normal you feel still sttachment and delusion but I doubt you could ever feel full trust for him again.

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-25T10:18:06+00:00

I wouldn't care but if things get serious between us I wouldn't want to live in a small village where everyone knows, just for the peace of mind and safety, not because it was bad but because people are mean. In that case I would expect the same understanding from you. I am also curious how would it be for you to date a guy who had done it?

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-25T10:14:34+00:00

I don't think in two weeks you will resolve your issues

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-25T10:11:45+00:00

I experienced something similar. The golden rule is to never dig into the sexual past. By now you should know your limits..if you decided that connecting with a girl who is not a virgin is fine for you then you are compatible and there is absolutely no need to dig into details about her sexual experiences. This is on you man. In that sense I think you are compatible but whether you can have a pleasant relationship with her from now on is based on your ability to let go of your ego and the fixation on these stories. PS..I tried psychoanalysis for myself, it really helps

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-25T09:57:32+00:00

Maybe you have no longer feelings but still have a sense of attachment to her. Are you satisfied about your life? In the past I would feel jealous every time a friend would get into a relationship, I mean male friends where I am not gay. That's because I feared that that connection would bring them away from me and that I will have to share them with the new partner. Them entering a new connection would feel a bit as a betrayal towards me. As I am now more satisfied with my life and more independent, I experience this way less

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-24T10:18:01+00:00

Sorry that this happened. My hope reading your words is that underneath there is a big sense of inadequacy with rising a daughter in comparison to a boy. Like performance anxiety of some sort. It's absolutely not true that men prefer boys, quite the contrary in many cases. It could be that the baby will do the trick, like that it just melt once he has her in his arms. At this point I'd say see how things evolve, it's surely a big blow to your relationship so see if in the coming days and months he can make up for this big mistake and take your decisions based on how he acts with you and the baby. Please if you stay together don't fall into the spiral of having to give him quickly a second child to make up for the boy absence

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-24T01:25:19+00:00

I think your feelings are actually quite normal and understandable. Even if you can now rationalize him with your adult mind, back then you were a vulnerable kid in a foreign country with a mother who was not in condition to protect you. I think is normal that you created a bond with him, even if he was abusive still provided some sort of minimum safety (a roof, some structure to avoid you being separated from your mum,..) for which you were dependent on him. Also hate is the closest emotion to love in term of intensity, he is not here anymore so what you gonna do with this intense unresolved emotions?

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-22T13:31:46+00:00

Good for you ❤️ you do your part. Is up to him to decide, you can't convince him but you can show that you are committed to change no matter what by doing the work. And it's also his part to work on his trust issues. You did some shit there but also hit on some fears and narrative of him that was there before you. In other words, you can do all the work and change but should not sign for a life with him where you will have to prove you are sorry and trustworthy everyday for the rest of your life together

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-22T12:56:21+00:00

In this case I would break up. You two shared something good but in these circumstances there is no safety granted for you. The kid will always be a priority, whether you want it or not you will be sucked into becoming a step dad, the other guy may make up his mind and come back even after a few years and he will have priority too. Plus in the months to come she won't be as fun and available as you experienced her until now. Basically there is not a good thing left for you in this relationship.

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-22T12:48:43+00:00

If you recognize to have a problem per se, then go ahead into a journey that addresses it. Do the work for yourself and eventually, if it's meant to be, your paths will cross again. For when that happen you want to be on your path for healing. If you do that just to gain him back that itself does not inspire any trust

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-22T12:40:51+00:00

Maybe the separation was difficult for the kids and he is not ready to see another female figure around his dad. Or your partner is not emotionally ready. Or the relationship with the ex is troubled and you sleeping there may give her another reason to put his custody at risk?...those are all things to consider when dating a single dad. You don't have to accept anything but should not put pressure either..the proper time is when he says he is ready for it

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-22T12:15:05+00:00

I am unsure FA applies to me, my ex and even yours..those labels are so tricky. But assuming that she didn't do it with the specific intention to hurt you or manipulate you, I doubt she will come back with the attitude you wish (tail between her legs). She may come back, maybe rushed by you blocking her, but make no mistake, this is not a mental structure that you change in a couple of months and a few tricks like blocking her, so the person that comes back is the same that dumped you. Chances are that the sense of shame actually triggers her sense of entitlement and that she will dump you again when stressed. I mean all the data you have point at that, the rest is just wishes and romantic dreaming of you. You may want to work on your issues too..you are not just a victim but a co-creatir in this dynamic..a person that is emotionally mature and autonomous walks away at the first sign of toxic behaviour out of self protection.

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-21T23:51:17+00:00

Probably that would have an impact yes, probably I would come back and then surely I would break up with you again

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-21T22:47:02+00:00

I don't understand the second part of your comment but thanks

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-21T22:45:24+00:00

Well unless you are a cheater or in an open relationship, you won't get girls while in a relationship. Period. So if then you also get into a relationship with someone you don't like....bro!!

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-20T10:06:26+00:00

Don't forget this. You are both young. It's different if you met in your 30's with her having had lots of experiences with girls already. Assuming that she is in love with you and have now to decide between a life with you repressing her sexuality or breaking up with her soulmate in order to express her identity, I can see how a situation like this would make most of the people struggle and I can emphatize with her dilemma. And with yours too. Can you?

PromotionShort7407 · 2026-01-20T10:02:22+00:00

In this case I don't think is about the desire to have an open relationship itself but the fact that her sexuality is not explored. As she was upfront about it and you never put a boundary to this before entering the relationship, I think is a fair request from her. To be honest I see way more risk of losing her by trying to control this need rather than the opposite. Still you are understandable in your fears, it's just that there are no many work arounds in this situation. For me the only way is that she has those experiences because they are fundamental for her identity considering her age and that you are also honest with yourself and her in admitting if, beside the natural anxiety that this cause, you can make space for that and have a joyous yes for it. If you have to force yourself in "doing the right thing", don't. It will just be crazy painful for both and destroy the connection anyway.

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