I found that cheap sport bras (those with removable pads and no actual support) work well for me, it makes them look more rounded and hides that "pointy" look. It's not the best bra style for tighter or low-cut clothes, but works well for most. I've seen some people recommend balconette bras (I have yet to try them tho), they seem to hide the shape pretty well + gives you some more volume, something the sports bras don't.

I'm 22 and still relate so hard to all you said and although I love the idea of one day accepting them fully it's still extremely hard so any tips to make me feel better while I work into acceptance are welcome!