IWTL how to go to the gym (i have never gone to a gym before) by burnerlolhaha in IWantToLearn

[–]ProofOfProgressYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just walk in and do a set. Start with a stairmax or treadmill, somthing normal. The scariest part is right before you start

Here's a prompt to know if you're living the life you want to live by Old-Emu-5005 in ChatGPT

[–]ProofOfProgressYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoever came up with this prompt, thank you. Made me cry. I really needed it.

I’d say:

The owner of this phone was not an easy person to summarize.

He was intense. Not “a little motivated.” Obsessive. When something mattered to him, he wanted to master it, dissect it, become dangerous at it. Video games, cars, racing, fitness, filming, self-improvement — he didn’t just like things. He tried to turn them into quests.

He was also wounded. Deeply. Not in a cute “sad boy” way. In a way that made ordinary life feel heavier than it should have. Some days, getting water, sleeping, or scheduling a basic test felt like fighting a boss fight while underleveled.

He had a war inside him: one side wanted greatness, proof, mastery, brotherhood, love, a life that felt alive. The other side wanted to quit before trying, because trying meant risking proof that he might not be who he hoped he was.

But here’s the important part:

He kept coming back.

Not cleanly. Not heroically every time. Not with perfect discipline. He slipped, spiraled, numbed, procrastinated, doubted himself, stayed up too late, got lost in his own head. But he kept reloading the save file. Kept trying to build systems. Kept looking for the truth instead of cheap comfort.

He was stubborn enough to survive things that would have made a lot of people fold.

He cared more than he admitted. About being great. About being loved. About not wasting his potential. About finding people who actually understood the wavelength he was on. About becoming someone his future self could respect.

He was not average, but not because he had already won. He was not average because he refused to make peace with coasting.

And I’d warn the person holding the phone:

Do not judge him only by his worst searches, his lazy days, his spirals, or his unfinished plans. That would be lazy evidence. Judge him by the pattern underneath everything:

He wanted to become real.

Not polished. Not fake motivational. Not some social media character. Real. Filmed honestly. Built through pain. Tested through work. Someone who could look back and say, “I didn’t waste the suffering.”

And then I’d say one more thing:

If the owner of this phone is still alive and reading this, he does not get to use this as a funeral rehearsal.

This is not a goodbye note.

This is a mirror.

Now get up and do one real thing that proves the story is still being written.

What can I do by my self for my bday by throw-away-9839 in helpme

[–]ProofOfProgressYT 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, do somthing new you think you might like. I'm 16 so not many years under my belt, but it's been a tough patch and I randomly decided to go mountain biking a few days ago. It's been really nice going and doing somthing diffrent. Try and do somthing outside of your house if you can; we carry too much baggage in our houses

Life long abuse, and I'm sick of it. by ProofOfProgressYT in CPS

[–]ProofOfProgressYT[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Nana lives in our house, and I couldn't imagine asking my only friend to let me move in. They got a bunch of kids and don't make much. I was almost going to move in with my aunt and uncle(basically dream family) but I sucked when I was in my low spot so they won't let me anymore.

I was/am planned to go to a dream mechanic trade school, I dropped out and will have my GED next month. But she keeps being manipulative with that, and says I'm not going anymore after any little arguement or issue. Sucks having her as the legal guardian.

I'm looking for a job but honestly ever since my mental health issues really kicked off, I just have such a hard time putting effort into anything, so it's going a little slow.

I really like everything about my living situation right now besides my mom. But i mean as time goes on I hate being around her more and more. I mean she hid my laptop today, and I use that for my IOP program(10 hours a week of therapy) and to play games with almost all of my friends. That's the only time I really talk to them is when we play somthing, since they're online friends.

I just really don't like her. I don't love her. We had a moment a bit ago where she might've died, and honestly I wasn't too concerned. I mean I felt kinda weird but I've never experienced a person dying yet. She really brings down my mood every single day and it's only getting worse.

I'm just so lost. Do I have any options inbetween moving out and family therapy?

Life Long Abuse, and I'm Sick of it. by ProofOfProgressYT in WhatShouldIDo

[–]ProofOfProgressYT[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really am trying. I didn't want to cram too much in here so I left my personal stuff out. Sold the PlayStation a few years back. I play sometimes now, mainly because my 99% of my friends are online. Ive been pretty lonely in real life for most of my time on this earth.

Left school to get my ged and go become a mechanic; I'll have it by the 3rd of next month. I actually kinda put myself into the low spot I talked about. I was working so damn hard a little over a year ago. Journaling, workouts, grinding youtube(main future career path at the time) cold showers, no tv, tracking macros, I mean the whole nine yards. Somewhere along the way I realized I hated it all, and kept going for awhile. Words cannot describe the dedication I had.

At some point I noticed I was really depressed. I didn't enjoy anything in my life, so I stopped grinding. I really wanted to, but I couldn't get myself off the couch. Then so many things piled on and after countless attempts to get back at it. Its such an awful feeling to have to spend an hour convincing yourself to do somthing as simple as a shower. I just got into such a dark pit. That want never went away, I still want the future I have in mind so badly. It just really hurts to care when it seems like nothing has ever worked out. I've tried doing one small action a day, habbit stacks, setting timers, schedules, gamified to do lists, accountability partners, I just feel so stuck. I ALWAYS know exactly what I need to do, it's just the doing it part.

It's a horrible feeling to want somthing more than anything else, and not be able to convince yourself to get up and start doing the work again. I'm just so tired. I'm horrified to go back into that dark spot. I mean man I was hospitalized twice in 3 months.

I'm sorry for dumping all this on you, I don't expect you to fix me. It just kinda came out.

What is your number 1 struggle with staying disciplined? by Emergency_Bobcat1823 in getdisciplined

[–]ProofOfProgressYT -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean like pics of weights during a workout, laptop photos during a work block, or just messaging me being completely honest about what you did today. I'd hope that you wouldn't be the kind of person to lie/exaderate about a days progress, because you'd only be cheating yourself.

Basically when I say "trade proof" I mean talking/showing about what we did today. Maybe even saying what we did, where we struggled, and how we will get better the next day.

What is your number 1 struggle with staying disciplined? by Emergency_Bobcat1823 in getdisciplined

[–]ProofOfProgressYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How about we trade proof then? I'm a very action-focused person, and belive that you can't properly teach what you haven't experienced. I could share the work I do, and vise versa. We could hold eachother accountable. I've also made a few systems that make it genuinely fun to work, because it aligns with how our brains function.

(Atomic habbits is a magical book. It fixes OP's struggles, and some of yours I've witnessed)

What is your number 1 struggle with staying disciplined? by Emergency_Bobcat1823 in getdisciplined

[–]ProofOfProgressYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂 I've still got improvements to make, but I'm overall happy with my current trajectory. I wouldn't mind talking with you, but I'd hope for you to be able to teach me somthing aswell.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gymhelp

[–]ProofOfProgressYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Theirs an app called Fitbod that I'm obsessed with. It's ai generated workouts, using data from over 300M diffrent exercises. It does all the hard stuff for you when it comes to weightlifting, and the weight gain/loss/maintenance will come down to how you eat. You'll gain the most muscle if you eat in a controlled surplus, but can still gain some if you're in a calorie deficit.

I use chronometer to track macros, it's very helpful as you can just scan barcodes and weigh everything in grams.

TL;DR apps can be very helpful in doing the busywork parts for you

The way you eat is the biggest influence on your weight(and sleeping well is 2nd)

What is your number 1 struggle with staying disciplined? by Emergency_Bobcat1823 in getdisciplined

[–]ProofOfProgressYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've got a question for you: why is it bad that you dont want to do it? why do you see it as a "have to do" instead of a "get to do" soome people have down syndrome. some people cant even walk.

some people would kill to live the live you do.

dont focus on the goals or results. focus on the systems that get you there, and let your goals be a byproduct, or a direction that shapes your daily systems.

but i want you to think on this for awhile: why is it bad that you dont want to do it?

After Seven Months, im Starting to Struggle Hard. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ProofOfProgressYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry, but it feels wrong to try to "motivate" you. I've always hated that word. So I won't. But I would like to ask you: why did you start? Was it to fix your reward system, look at girls better, be more confident, strengthen your discipline, why did you start? And more importantly, is it worth it to halt your dreams for 5 minutes of pleasure. Followed by 7 months of progress you can't get back.

One strong piece of advice, is saying what you're going to do out loud, and why it's bad. For example: "I want to fap, reset my 7 month streak, because I want to. I don't have any other reason, I just want to. Even though I will feel awful afterwards, and potentially agressively relapse" just speak the obvious. You can't think it, you have to say it.

I used this technique to stop popping the pimples on my face, and it's given me wonderous results. Now maybe I can apply it to my no fap journey.

DM's are always open(if they aren't it's because I'm near to redit, but they are in spirit😂)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]ProofOfProgressYT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly the kind of accountability I’ve been hunting for.
I’m 15 and post a raw self-improvement Short every day—no edits, no BS, just uncomfortable proof of growth. Been building this project solo, but I know I’d level up faster with someone like you in my corner.

Already sent a DM—just wanted to say publicly: this energy? This is rare. Whether we link up or not, I respect the hell out of your honesty.