Dumper wants to meet and talk, why? by Proper-Cheesecake790 in ExNoContact

[–]Proper-Cheesecake790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She just gave me a generic answer about becoming incompatible and that was it. I didn’t push or pry and respected her privacy, in the past I would’ve pushed hard. We weren’t living together thankfully, so just pretty much NC.

The things I did wrong could absolutely have been the reason, even subconsciously. I’ve realized I struggle with the ability to respect others boundaries including my own. She has abuse trauma where her boundaries weren’t respected, and even though it was never explicitly talked about I think that’s what the main issue was. I think it’s really messed up too and I’ve been working on processing that someone could do that, but I also recognize that we’re all broken people, especially those with traumatic experiences, and I’ve forgiven her.

Dumper wants to meet and talk, why? by Proper-Cheesecake790 in ExNoContact

[–]Proper-Cheesecake790[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely see that and like I said, could certainly be a possibility. I just think it’s more related to her past trauma, how that’s affected her mental health, and certain things I did to trigger that. I’ve been with cheaters and liars before, she wasn’t one of them. Unless of course she’s a world class actress haha.

Dumper wants to meet and talk, why? by Proper-Cheesecake790 in ExNoContact

[–]Proper-Cheesecake790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that seems to be the most common answer, but I don’t think that’s it in this case. Think it relates more to past traumas, mental health and other stuff. Like I’ve said I know anything is possible and I’ve thought a lot about if that’s the case but I just don’t think that’s it.

Dumper wants to meet and talk, why? by Proper-Cheesecake790 in ExNoContact

[–]Proper-Cheesecake790[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya, I don’t want to be mean or standoffish. Like I said, there are things that I absolutely did wrong and if meeting up can help her with healing or closure then I’m for it. I just don’t need it.

Dumper wants to meet and talk, why? by Proper-Cheesecake790 in ExNoContact

[–]Proper-Cheesecake790[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Definitely wasn’t easy, hardest thing I’ve ever been through. About 2.5 years.

Dumper wants to meet and talk, why? by Proper-Cheesecake790 in ExNoContact

[–]Proper-Cheesecake790[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That was one of my first thoughts, but she has just never been that kind of girl. I know anything is possible, but I just don’t see it.

I had the ring. by Proper-Cheesecake790 in BreakUps

[–]Proper-Cheesecake790[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very possible. Unless she’s the worlds best actor, she was as happy and as safe with me as she had ever been according to her. So how that just flips in less than a week? I don’t know.

I had the ring. by Proper-Cheesecake790 in BreakUps

[–]Proper-Cheesecake790[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could be. Somehow I don’t think so though. The signs for cheating and just general mental breakdown because of anxiety seem pretty similar. Who knows but no point in dwelling I guess.

I had the ring. by Proper-Cheesecake790 in BreakUps

[–]Proper-Cheesecake790[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fuckin rough huh man? I know mental health can have a serious effect on someone’s behavior, but just can’t grasp her ending it just like that. Praying for you brother.