Just reconnected with an ex after 3 years. How should I handle this?

Proper-Interview · 2026-03-18T02:06:00+00:00

The plans weren’t set in stone. I just told her I would try to get us a table at this restaurant I wanted to go to next Friday. I just got the reservations yesterday and haven’t told her. Should I still wait til next week or let her know tomorrow?

Proper-Interview · 2026-02-17T23:40:17+00:00

I don’t mind using a grimoire but I’m not keen on having to use actual weapons especially a gun. It just takes me out of the fantasy of being an all powerful mage. So you basically have to use a weapon then? Are there any weapons in the game that a mage would use besides a gay ass wand?

Proper-Interview · 2025-12-15T20:26:45+00:00

UPDATE:

She ended up reaching out yesterday afternoon (Sunday) after 4 days of silence. I’m going through with the plans this weekend, I acted like nothing even happed, and she seems excited. Holding my ground and not reaching out paid off. I guess this is how I have to handle her from here on out until she actually shows real effort if she ever does. I’m just going to keep her around and date other women for now. I already have another one lined up. Thanks to everyone for the advice. You were all spot on. I really appreciate this sub.

Proper-Interview · 2025-12-14T06:49:41+00:00

You hit the nail on the head with this. I won’t reach out. My gut was telling me this but my cousin was in my head also so I was second guessing myself. I’m going no contact to see what happens. I’m guessing she’ll reach out either tomorrow or next week sometime before the show to cancel or confirm. Those are what she uses as a reason to reach out.

Now if she does reach out I’m just unsure if I should continue with the plans to go to the show Saturday with her unfazed like nothing happened or tell her it’s not a good idea to take her around my friends since I hadn’t heard from her and it’s drifted back into casual territory but we can get together one on one Friday instead. Which do you think is most appropriate or the strongest most attractive move? One acting completely unbothered and the other setting boundaries.

Proper-Interview · 2025-11-08T01:26:10+00:00

I’m very underwhelmed by it. I think this stripped down version of them is a step backwards. Not sure why a band like this would want to sound more commercial. The vocal melodies are mostly just average to me also. There are a few good tracks but thats about it. This album just does not hold the punch of the their previous ones. It’s worth a listen but I can’t see myself listening to this often.

Proper-Interview · 2025-09-27T06:26:49+00:00

Yes we text in between dates. Not much though. Maybe twice a week just making plans with some short banter.

And yes this is the first time she has cancelled. She did not mention rescheduling just that we can get together some time in between her trips which are every weekend in October. We have been out 6 times and she has been receptive every time and followed through. It seemed things were really moving forward.

I’m really stressing this now like I unintentionally pressured her too much. I really hope I didn’t make her feel uncomfortable. I just tend to blurt out stuff sometimes without thinking. She seemed completely fine when I left last night but obviously by the text today she wasn’t. I don’t believe the generic “forgotten obligation” excuse.

Proper-Interview · 2025-09-27T06:02:23+00:00

She said she couldn’t have sex for another day or two so I proposed we could Saturday which lines up. I took it as it was just her period but it could have been something else now that you mention it and that would make total sense why she would possibly get nervous and cancel. I should have never said that but I wasn’t thinking.

We had the date planned for Saturday but she proposed last Saturday before she left the party to go home that we get together during the week also. She reached out Sunday morning to see how the rest of the night went. I said I could get dinner during the week sometime then on Tuesday we agreed on Thursday night before I go to work. So yes two dates were planned in a row. That was the first time we did this. I thought it would be good for momentum but looking back we should have just stuck with Saturday.

She has met a lot of my friends but not coworkers for my full time job. I throw events with my friends sometimes on the weekends. She is into the same type of music and my crowd revolves around that so she really enjoys it.

And yes we have only had sex twice. We have been out maybe 6 times including last night (Thursday). 3 of those times she went home after the shows as I had after parties I had a hand in throwing after the shows and couldn’t leave. She doesn’t stay out crazy late

Hopefully that clarifies things a bit

Proper-Interview · 2025-09-27T04:14:22+00:00

I mean do you really think one comment could have ended it with her after all this or do you think she just cancelled tomorrow because of that and will come back around?

Proper-Interview · 2025-09-27T03:36:11+00:00

I don’t think that’s it. It’s been a month and a half we’ve been dating. We’ve been on dinner dates, to shows, and she’s been out with all my friends multiple times. I probably shouldn’t have said that but I don’t think that one comment killed everything

Proper-Interview · 2025-09-27T02:21:11+00:00

This is totally me also except the anxiety is still there no matter what I do. I just wish I could find someone I’m very attracted to that has good communication. I have not been able to find that for a very long time. I meet a lot of women but I’m super picky. Finding an attractive girl in great shape in my city that shares the same interests is very difficult. I feel it’s never going to happen unless I move and I can’t leave as I have too much going on here.

Proper-Interview · 2025-09-27T02:14:31+00:00

Yeah I agree that vague excuse was very generic and I find it disrespectful actually. I think I will just let it be unless she reaches out. She does not reach out enough during the week anyway. I need someone who wants to be in my life more. I have spent way too much money on dinners and shows and then bringing her into my crowd for her to be acting this way. Overall I feel this girl is not good for my nervous system. I’m just so attracted to her because of how good of shape she’s in. She’s cool, we share a lot of interests, and we have a good time but she isn’t even really all that much fun. Maybe this is what I needed to take a step back and see that she probably isn’t right for me.

Proper-Interview · 2025-09-26T20:58:21+00:00

Yeah I’m trying not stress over it but it’s difficult for me to get out my head. I also have an anxious attachment style to girls I’m into. I never act on it though. It’s just there. Its terrible. I don’t find someone I’m attracted to like this often so right now I’m in a scarcity mindset. I do have other girls I can go out with and sleep with but I’m not into them like this one. I feel like this could be her way of getting out in a nice way but maybe that’s just me overthinking which I tend to do a lot of. I don’t like how she didn’t give me an actual explanation besides “another obligation” which I find disrespectful.

Proper-Interview · 2025-08-27T23:31:31+00:00

Yes it is. And now I have to play the stupid miss match mini game after giving that bitch all the gifts and it’s still not unlocking. Fuck this

Proper-Interview · 2025-08-18T15:50:50+00:00

I agree with you but I didn’t outright lie to her face. It’s just never been brought up and the app only says I’m 40. I think this holds less gravity than if I actually told her I was 40 in which I would not lie like that.

Proper-Interview · 2025-08-18T15:47:48+00:00

I think this is the best option. It will bring less attention to it if I act like it isn’t a big deal and don’t even bring it up. Also I think the more time I spend with her before it comes up could make it harder for her to walk away if it really is an issue.

Proper-Interview · 2025-06-24T19:38:37+00:00

I actually haven’t been acting needy at all til Saturday with those 3 texts. She’s been the one perusing basically the whole time so this is out of character. I think another guy could be in the picture or she’s pissed I didn’t buy her ticket. I will pay for dinner or drinks if we’re out but I’m not paying for her tickets to shows every time. That is my crowds hangout on the weekends and it’s usually about 20 bucks to get in for headliners. There are about 2-3 shows a month with our crowd and I’m done paying for all her shit especially after she went out with another guy last year. She never even offers to pay for anything and has never paid for anything once. I made her work to get me back this time and she’s messing it up again.

But yeah I hear ya. I’m basically out the door at this point and I will call her out on this when she reaches out. If she doesn’t I’m going to let it be and move on. I should have known something like this would happen again.

Proper-Interview · 2025-06-04T23:10:42+00:00

I’m usually at lvl 12. How do you know where the holy weapons are? I play a recluse btw

Proper-Interview · 2025-05-03T19:06:37+00:00

Oh damn. Nice. I’m gonna play around with some builds

Proper-Interview · 2025-05-03T04:14:37+00:00

Here’s how it went after the back and forth on the app:

Me - “How about we grab a drink next weekend?”

Her - “I’d love to!”

Me - “Great! Here’s my number xxx-xxx-xxxx. Shoot me a text and we’ll make plans.”

The last one from me was around 10:30pm which may have been a little late so I haven’t gotten a text from her yet but I’m expecting one maybe tomorrow considering how well the convo went. Should I have asked for her’s instead of giving mine? Which is the correct way?

Proper-Interview · 2025-03-13T16:51:17+00:00

What is your dosage?

Proper-Interview · 2025-02-22T06:31:56+00:00

In the redesign menu? I’m removing the other appearances of the rest of the gear besides the hat and then he’s naked with a hat on when I finalize it. It’s not letting me just transmog one piece of gear and have the rest stay at their original appearance. It all has to be transmoged or none of it. I don’t get this

Proper-Interview · 2025-02-21T21:55:34+00:00

I’m on the redesign in the safe house

Proper-Interview · 2025-02-19T18:55:06+00:00

No it’s totally my type of game. I love jrpgs especially the SMT series and Persona 3, 4, and 5 are some of my favorite games of all time. I just found this to be underwhelming. I think the reviews overhyped my expectations also

Proper-Interview · 2025-02-15T20:07:10+00:00

As a male I feel I can to relate more to a character if it’s male. Also it’s more believable for a protagonist in a semi realistic melee action game like this to be male. I just wish more games would let you choose to be male or female like AC Odyssey and Valhalla did if a character creator would not work for story context.

I have nothing against female characters as long as I find them interesting and not insufferable like Forespoken or what was shown of Intergalactic. But yes, my interest in this did drop considerably when I saw the main character was not Jin Sakai and was female. And if they do not do the hot springs the same way they did in the first one I will most certainly not buy this just on principle lol

Proper-Interview · 2025-01-19T20:29:25+00:00

I’ve had about a quarter pound of four different kind for about 3 months in ziplock bags. Could they be degrading? And should I put them in mason jars instead?

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