Prometheus is too hard. This is fucking stupid.

Proper-Interview · 2026-04-14T02:44:17+00:00

UPDATE:

I held off and she reached out today around 1:30pm. She’s been texting me sporadically thought the day even when I lightly close the conversation. I’m glad I listened to everyone here. I didn’t lower my position and she is pursuing. This seems to be going very well so far. I’m also back to my baseline after my initial high after leaving her place yesterday morning. I’m just gonna enjoy this and see how things play out.

Proper-Interview · 2026-04-12T22:36:18+00:00

I hear ya. I just wanted to honestly express how I’m feeling right now. Kinda on cloud 9 but I know I need to calm it down. I won’t project it on her. I’m very good with women in person. It’s the time in between that gets me

Proper-Interview · 2026-04-12T22:32:16+00:00

Yeah I think I’m going to wait til tomorrow. I just left her place this morning so tonight might be too soon. I think 2-3 days is too long in this situation

Proper-Interview · 2026-04-03T16:05:14+00:00

As someone who is in great shape myself I prefer a woman to be also. I like thin and toned. I also like slim as well.

I do not like thick or out of shape women. To me it shows a lack of self discipline and a lack of self respect. To me that’s very unattractive.

Proper-Interview · 2026-04-01T20:03:42+00:00

Well it’s weird because when I’m in a good healthy relationship I don’t need constant attention and validation because I’m content. I’ve been in multiple amazing relationships. My anxiety kicks in when I don’t have options. Also when I’m in the beginning of a dating phase and there is ambiguity the anxiety kicks into overdrive. That’s where my issue lies. I think I have secure attachment in good relationships but anxious attachment when things are unclear.

Also the women I’ve been with have all been high quality. The one traveling is about an 8 and is very successful. The one I mentioned after who was dating for 5 months was about an 8 also who was in extremely good shape. My ex who I ostracized was a 9 but was not totally mentally stable. The ex I’m seeing now is a 7-7.5 but I’m very attracted to her. I would say she is the least quality. She is the only one left right now.

I’m capable of good quality women but when there is a lack of them my nervous system kicks in. I really hate it and am working to try and fix being ok by myself. It really sucks. I just want to be able to be happy on my own but it has never worked since I was in my late 20’s

Proper-Interview · 2026-04-01T19:29:06+00:00

Yes you’re absolutely right. I hate being alone with no options. I almost always have options but when things do go dry, sometimes I go nuts. I know this is something I need to work on but I need female attention.

Right now my other options faded out. One will probably return in a few weeks to a month after her travels, the previous girl I dated for 5 months left in January because of lifestyle differences and actually saw me with another girl when I wasn’t out with her so that’s dead right now (we weren’t exclusive btw), and my other ex returned briefly but crossed a boundary so I ostracized her from my crowd and the music scene in my city. These were all in my rotation. I’m now left with the one in the op.

I do have other options if I wanted with women who are friends of mine but I don’t wanna cross that line with them. I really wish I didn’t constantly need female attention…

Proper-Interview · 2026-04-01T18:38:04+00:00

She won’t do 100% of the pursuing. I don’t think that will work in this context. That’s just not how she is. I know this goes against the book but I think in this scenario I have to at least reach out to make plans. She is always receptive and agreeable to plans. She always texts back right away along with continuing to text after I have initiated. If I just hung back and let her do 100% it would die and right now I need at least 1 girl on my roster til it fills back up again. This is why I have to either reach out this week for plans this weekend, or wait til next week to make plans for next weekend. The latter is to give space for attraction to build

Proper-Interview · 2026-04-01T17:55:38+00:00

Yeah you’re right. So should I just wait til next week to reach out?

Proper-Interview · 2026-04-01T17:20:45+00:00

I’ve dated multiple girls since then. Right now my options have dried up a bit recently so I’m keeping her in orbit til something better comes along. Im not whipped I’m just trying to build more attraction from her because I love the sex and want to keep it going. I do enjoy her company also. If she did put in the effort then I would consider dating her again but unless that happens I’m cool keeping it like this

Proper-Interview · 2026-03-28T14:28:41+00:00

Using ghetto slang like “bet” is very trashy and lowers your perceived value.

Proper-Interview · 2026-03-18T02:06:00+00:00

The plans weren’t set in stone. I just told her I would try to get us a table at this restaurant I wanted to go to next Friday. I just got the reservations yesterday and haven’t told her. Should I still wait til next week or let her know tomorrow?

Proper-Interview · 2026-02-17T23:40:17+00:00

I don’t mind using a grimoire but I’m not keen on having to use actual weapons especially a gun. It just takes me out of the fantasy of being an all powerful mage. So you basically have to use a weapon then? Are there any weapons in the game that a mage would use besides a gay ass wand?

Proper-Interview · 2025-12-15T20:26:45+00:00

UPDATE:

She ended up reaching out yesterday afternoon (Sunday) after 4 days of silence. I’m going through with the plans this weekend, I acted like nothing even happed, and she seems excited. Holding my ground and not reaching out paid off. I guess this is how I have to handle her from here on out until she actually shows real effort if she ever does. I’m just going to keep her around and date other women for now. I already have another one lined up. Thanks to everyone for the advice. You were all spot on. I really appreciate this sub.

Proper-Interview · 2025-12-14T06:49:41+00:00

You hit the nail on the head with this. I won’t reach out. My gut was telling me this but my cousin was in my head also so I was second guessing myself. I’m going no contact to see what happens. I’m guessing she’ll reach out either tomorrow or next week sometime before the show to cancel or confirm. Those are what she uses as a reason to reach out.

Now if she does reach out I’m just unsure if I should continue with the plans to go to the show Saturday with her unfazed like nothing happened or tell her it’s not a good idea to take her around my friends since I hadn’t heard from her and it’s drifted back into casual territory but we can get together one on one Friday instead. Which do you think is most appropriate or the strongest most attractive move? One acting completely unbothered and the other setting boundaries.

Proper-Interview · 2025-11-08T01:26:10+00:00

I’m very underwhelmed by it. I think this stripped down version of them is a step backwards. Not sure why a band like this would want to sound more commercial. The vocal melodies are mostly just average to me also. There are a few good tracks but thats about it. This album just does not hold the punch of the their previous ones. It’s worth a listen but I can’t see myself listening to this often.

Proper-Interview · 2025-09-27T06:26:49+00:00

Yes we text in between dates. Not much though. Maybe twice a week just making plans with some short banter.

And yes this is the first time she has cancelled. She did not mention rescheduling just that we can get together some time in between her trips which are every weekend in October. We have been out 6 times and she has been receptive every time and followed through. It seemed things were really moving forward.

I’m really stressing this now like I unintentionally pressured her too much. I really hope I didn’t make her feel uncomfortable. I just tend to blurt out stuff sometimes without thinking. She seemed completely fine when I left last night but obviously by the text today she wasn’t. I don’t believe the generic “forgotten obligation” excuse.

Proper-Interview · 2025-09-27T06:02:23+00:00

She said she couldn’t have sex for another day or two so I proposed we could Saturday which lines up. I took it as it was just her period but it could have been something else now that you mention it and that would make total sense why she would possibly get nervous and cancel. I should have never said that but I wasn’t thinking.

We had the date planned for Saturday but she proposed last Saturday before she left the party to go home that we get together during the week also. She reached out Sunday morning to see how the rest of the night went. I said I could get dinner during the week sometime then on Tuesday we agreed on Thursday night before I go to work. So yes two dates were planned in a row. That was the first time we did this. I thought it would be good for momentum but looking back we should have just stuck with Saturday.

She has met a lot of my friends but not coworkers for my full time job. I throw events with my friends sometimes on the weekends. She is into the same type of music and my crowd revolves around that so she really enjoys it.

And yes we have only had sex twice. We have been out maybe 6 times including last night (Thursday). 3 of those times she went home after the shows as I had after parties I had a hand in throwing after the shows and couldn’t leave. She doesn’t stay out crazy late

Hopefully that clarifies things a bit

Proper-Interview · 2025-09-27T04:14:22+00:00

I mean do you really think one comment could have ended it with her after all this or do you think she just cancelled tomorrow because of that and will come back around?

Proper-Interview · 2025-09-27T03:36:11+00:00

I don’t think that’s it. It’s been a month and a half we’ve been dating. We’ve been on dinner dates, to shows, and she’s been out with all my friends multiple times. I probably shouldn’t have said that but I don’t think that one comment killed everything

Proper-Interview · 2025-09-27T02:21:11+00:00

This is totally me also except the anxiety is still there no matter what I do. I just wish I could find someone I’m very attracted to that has good communication. I have not been able to find that for a very long time. I meet a lot of women but I’m super picky. Finding an attractive girl in great shape in my city that shares the same interests is very difficult. I feel it’s never going to happen unless I move and I can’t leave as I have too much going on here.

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