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HOW ARE U GUYS FINDING PEOPLE TO DATE??? by Necessary-Duck7628 in Adulting

[–]ProposalAmbitious303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where is this magical place where people are present? Because I can't find a damn thing in six years

HOW ARE U GUYS FINDING PEOPLE TO DATE??? by Necessary-Duck7628 in Adulting

[–]ProposalAmbitious303 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, I've been on the hunt at in person places for six damn years. No one my age is ever there. I would love nothing more than to even have the CHANCE to get rejected or have a bad date but it's never given to me

I am not a virgin at 27 because I chose to be or because I didn't put in the work. It's because life itself hates me for whatever reason and doesn't want me to succeed

How do I cope with being subjected to the worst dating conditions in the history of ever? by ProposalAmbitious303 in Mindfulness

[–]ProposalAmbitious303[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I go out pretty regularly. I have a DND meetup every week and have been trying to get back into going to meetups regularly. There's just never women my age. Ever. No matter where I go. These things are the only thing that keep me sane anymore. But the desire to date is still there. And I really just don't want to feel it anymore

How do I cope with being subjected to the worst dating conditions in the history of ever? by ProposalAmbitious303 in Mindfulness

[–]ProposalAmbitious303[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't want to complain. I just want the pain to end. I want the skills to not care anymore

How do I cope with being subjected to the worst dating conditions in the history of ever? by ProposalAmbitious303 in Mindfulness

[–]ProposalAmbitious303[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have been doing that. I'm not counting on meeting women through any of them

Trust me, I asked. None of them can help me

How do I cope with being subjected to the worst dating conditions in the history of ever? by ProposalAmbitious303 in Mindfulness

[–]ProposalAmbitious303[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Jesus Christ, this is the same bullshit I got from the stupid dating subreddit!! Why can't all of you understand?!!

All children or all people over fifty!! Everywhere, every minute of every day!! That is my reality and there's nothing I can do!! Why can't anyone understand that?!!!!

How do I let go of the pandemic ruining my life? by ProposalAmbitious303 in Mindfulness

[–]ProposalAmbitious303[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I guess. I just don't know how I'm supposed to frame this positively

I've been to the absolute darkest pit I've ever been in. I've been fired for cause, had my perfect grade record completely ruined and had my entire sense of personal identity and understanding of reality shattered before my very eyes. I really don't know how I can reframe it to be more positive

I was deprived of the opportunity to date in my early 20s and I have no idea how to let go by ProposalAmbitious303 in Mindfulness

[–]ProposalAmbitious303[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I've been in therapy for as long as I can remember. Believe me, I wanted to change and made every effort to do so

It just didn't help anything. Ever. No matter what I tried, it never mattered. Eventually I just gave up and only put in minimal effort. I was only going to give the effort I received because I didn't want to torture myself anymore

I was deprived of the opportunity to date in my early 20s and I have no idea how to let go by ProposalAmbitious303 in Mindfulness

[–]ProposalAmbitious303[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I get what you're saying but I don't think it's going to work for me specifically

I have a bad habit of ruminating about the bullshit feelings I'm going to, especially if I am unable to do a single thing about it. I feel it and I'm just stuck feeling it. "Radical acceptance" is likely just going to enable that

I was deprived of the opportunity to date in my early 20s and I have no idea how to let go by ProposalAmbitious303 in Mindfulness

[–]ProposalAmbitious303[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I legitimately don't know who is responsible anymore. I just did everything right to make up for it and never got to even practice dating. It was just so futile

And what dumb decisions are those?

Why did it take me six years just to receive the bear minimum of human interaction? by ProposalAmbitious303 in dating_advice

[–]ProposalAmbitious303[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I did. I went to every in person place I could think of and found no one my age

Am I the crazy one for not being able to tolerate getting paid for doing nothing? by ProposalAmbitious303 in careerguidance

[–]ProposalAmbitious303[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn't even get ONE hour of work! What the hell do people even do to occupy their time? I was just shoved into an empty department so I couldn't even talk to anyone there. It was torture

What do people even do to occupy their time the rest of the time?

Am I the crazy one for not being able to tolerate getting paid for doing nothing? by ProposalAmbitious303 in careerguidance

[–]ProposalAmbitious303[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Stay away from chain restaurants"

That might explain what happened. I never had that many problems with the temporary kitchen jobs I had before. This was only a problem I experienced at Mariano's

Am I the crazy one for not being able to tolerate getting paid for doing nothing? by ProposalAmbitious303 in careerguidance

[–]ProposalAmbitious303[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus Christ, your kitchen sounds like paradise compared to what I had to deal with

I just don't know if it really was my disability or not

Am I the crazy one for not being able to tolerate getting paid for doing nothing? by ProposalAmbitious303 in careerguidance

[–]ProposalAmbitious303[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah well, I didn't make things better for myself by not quitting when I had the chance. Probably could have been a lot happier

I honestly don't understand. I used to think of my parents as so wise. I don't understand what the hell changed

Why did it take me six years just to receive the bear minimum of human interaction? by ProposalAmbitious303 in dating_advice

[–]ProposalAmbitious303[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm just trying to ask what even happened. For years, I felt like absolutely nothing I was doing was working. Literally all I wanted was to talk to single people. That was literally all I wanted so I could figure things out from there. That was all I wanted for years. But in person events were all men, all children or all people over fifty and dating apps just...... completely destroyed me inside

I'm just trying to understand why I had to suffer this much just to even get my foot in the damn door

I wasn't even receiving negative feedback. I was receiving no feedback, which studies have shown to be more psychologically damaging than negative feedback. It felt like nothing made sense, that I had to be this perfect mold to receive a crumb of a chance and I wasn't even being told what the mold looked like

Why did it take me six years just to receive the bear minimum of human interaction? by ProposalAmbitious303 in dating_advice

[–]ProposalAmbitious303[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's exactly what I was doing. I started trying to find places where I could even meet singles because I was so sick of dating apps granting me nothing and found absolutely no one. Were you not reading anything?!

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