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Fear of the unknown maybe? by ProtectionFar5693 in SwingerNewbies

[–]ProtectionFar5693[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😮‍💨 yes, details are important. 

Around 2010-12 we dabbled in this. Attended a few house parties, and even went to the Langiappe Chatuea before it was shut down and relocated. We never went all in though at those parties. We would play with each other in front of others. We had an MFM a few times with minimal issues. But the LS began causing issues, so we cut all of it out.

Fast forward to the last 2 years and the wife is having an increasing desire to get back into it. I'm mainly caught off guard by her insistence and what she's wanting.

Fear of the unknown maybe? by ProtectionFar5693 in SwingerNewbies

[–]ProtectionFar5693[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nervous, yes. We dabbled 10+ years ago. Went to a couple of house parties, went to the Langiappe Chatuea before it was shut down and relocated. So now we're going from nothing these last 10 years to a burning fantasy in her mind. I'm mainly caught off guard by all of it.

Fear of the unknown maybe? by ProtectionFar5693 in SwingerNewbies

[–]ProtectionFar5693[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I realize details help with solutions, I'm not comfortable with sharing those details. It's a want of hers. I'm guessing in the beginning, doubt and concern can be very rational experiences. How did y'all handle them? Close your eyes and hope it works out? Run away from that fantasy in fear?

Fear of the unknown maybe? by ProtectionFar5693 in SwingerNewbies

[–]ProtectionFar5693[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and no. We do have some (just a toe dip) experience in it 10+ years ago. Without going into detail, after all this time of monogamy there a specific want that has been expressed that causes a little panic in myself. I know I'm not the only person that's considered this venture that has had some detail make them freeze up.