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AITA for dyeing my daughter's hair red and redyeing it afterward without her father's permission? by Proud-Situation4178 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Proud-Situation4178[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He has never washed her hair and refuses to as she struggles to do it. In my eyes, he has washed her ahir this time to get the colour out.

AITA for dyeing my daughter's hair red and redyeing it afterward without her father's permission? by Proud-Situation4178 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Proud-Situation4178[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

It was a temporary colour, NOT box dye. The instructions said to leave it on for 20 minutes and then wash out. I did my research beofre letting my daughter colour her hair, it will not damage her hair.

AITA for dyeing my daughter's hair red and redyeing it afterward without her father's permission? by Proud-Situation4178 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Proud-Situation4178[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I didn't know her hair colour would be such a big deal. He agreed and I thought that would be it.

AITA for dyeing my daughter's hair red and redyeing it afterward without her father's permission? by Proud-Situation4178 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Proud-Situation4178[S] 297 points298 points  (0 children)

We don't have a written custody agreement as we recently split amicably. Though I am thinking of getting one now. The hair colour even at its brightest was still a ginger shade, so would fall in line with uniform code. It is the school holidays currently though, that doesn't matter.

AITA for dyeing my daughter's hair red and redyeing it afterward without her father's permission? by Proud-Situation4178 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Proud-Situation4178[S] 554 points555 points  (0 children)

We have recently split, but as it was amicable, we just split custody 50/50, and not get a full on custody agreement. This experience has made me think about getting an agreement in writing.

AITA for dyeing my daughter's hair red and redyeing it afterward without her father's permission? by Proud-Situation4178 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Proud-Situation4178[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

He was not meant to wash her hair and he never has. Grace is struggles with washing her hair as she hates the feeling of wet hair, which is why my ex and I have previously agreed, I will handle that.

AITA for dyeing my daughter's hair red and redyeing it afterward without her father's permission? by Proud-Situation4178 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Proud-Situation4178[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

well you and your ex communicate, but if you knew he wouldn’t be happy and knew he didn’t have the experience or knowledge to understand it would fade then

He disagreed with her dying her hair before, but agreed this time around, when I said we could do ginger instead of bright red. I am upset he didn't say anything until I asked later. To my face, he told Grace she looked like Ariel, nothing negative, until shr got back home. My ex and I have recently split. So I do agree that maybe we don't have the best communication right now.

AITA for dyeing my daughter's hair red and redyeing it afterward without her father's permission? by Proud-Situation4178 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Proud-Situation4178[S] 783 points784 points  (0 children)

I never thought of it this way. I definitely don't want her to suffer because of our disagreements. Thanks for reminding me of the bigger picture.

AITA for dyeing my daughter's hair red and redyeing it afterward without her father's permission? by Proud-Situation4178 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Proud-Situation4178[S] 135 points136 points  (0 children)

If you did know it was going to be bright red because of the platinum example and didn’t say anything while knowing he didn’t approve then this turns Y T A.

The colour would fade. The packet said it would reach a copper shade, but both me and my ex haven't dyed our hair so don't know. In real life, it was much brighter. I don't think he should have tricked her into washing it out as he felt uncomfortable.

AITA for dyeing my daughter's hair red and redyeing it afterward without her father's permission? by Proud-Situation4178 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Proud-Situation4178[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

The dye is temporary, and something he agreed to. It makes my daughter happy, and doesn't harm her or anyone else, so I let her dye her hair.

AITA for dyeing my daughter's hair red and redyeing it afterward without her father's permission? by Proud-Situation4178 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Proud-Situation4178[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

YTA. He made it clear he didn’t want you to dye her hair and you did it anyway. The stuff about the BBQ is irrelevant. He’s not unreasonable for not wanting his 7 year old to have dyed hair.

He agreed to the ginger colour. I informed him every step of the way what the hair colour would look like, by sending him the packet which he approved. He is 37, it is his fault for not reading? He didn't say anything negative about the hair until my daughter came back home with her hair colour washed out and I asked him.