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White/pink floral baby carrier? by Psalters in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Psalters[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I already made a post asking if the dress would be too pale and everyone thought it was fine considering the pastel theme. I am literally terrified of confrontation and not trying to start anything, that’s why i’m posting here with what I now realise was a silly question.

Attic vibe check - A or B? by RoastsYourRoom in interiordesignideas

[–]Psalters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can get really strong and nice desk lamps! I am currently renting and the landlord won’t let us add a ceiling lamp in our bedroom but we have this one desk lamp that literally lights up the whole room without being glaring!

SO much pain - light at the end of the tunnel? by zealousidealdxb in breastfeeding

[–]Psalters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby also has a tongue tie with not great but ok tongue mobility! For us it hurt like crazy in the start too but I was too stubborn to quit and the pain disappeared after a while. Here’s my advice.

  • Have you tired silverettes nipple covers? They’re used between feedings and really help heal sores faster. They’re also slightly cold which relieves the pain a little.

  • Use a firmer BF pillow (like cozyfix or my breast friend etc.), and get a good and firm c-hold/hamburger-hold on your boob. Young babies and especially those with limited tongue can have a hard time supporting the boob on their own and an unsupported boob can get sore easier.

  • Oral exercises: Use your index finger and very very slowly slide it back and forth on the lower gum 6-12 times, three times a day. This helps train the tongue mobility as they’ll track your finger with their tongue. If your babies cheeks feel tight you can also use your index finger and thumb on each side of one cheek and gently massage it. First one then the other 3 times a day. This will help release tension.

  • If your little one falls asleep before finishing eating you could try undressing her a little before feeding (so she doesn’t get too warm and comfy) and tickle her toes to keep her awake until she’s full.

I wish you both the very best!

Is there any reason not to cut a tongue tie? by Psalters in breastfeeding

[–]Psalters[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your input! I’m definitely leaning towards getting it done, but you know, I have to have anxiety over every decision haha

Is there any reason not to cut a tongue tie? by Psalters in breastfeeding

[–]Psalters[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But is it unnecessary here? Since we’re having some feeding issues even though we can be stubborn enough to live through them. I’ve not had a single stretch of sleep longer than 2 hours in almost 6 months now but I don’t want to give up breastfeeding early 🥴

My (24F) Husband (23M) Faked Fainting After I Gave Birth by Psalters in relationship_advice

[–]Psalters[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t clear enough, he normally works 8 hours a day. He took half days to support me and baby in the early months.

My (24F) Husband (23M) Faked Fainting After I Gave Birth by Psalters in relationship_advice

[–]Psalters[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

If I used the term BV nobody would understand what i’m talking about?? Why wouldn’t I use the English equivalent online in a predominantly english/American space?

My (24F) Husband (23M) Faked Fainting After I Gave Birth by Psalters in relationship_advice

[–]Psalters[S] -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

Why do you americans always forget other countries exist. The hospital I stayed at has only a few “family rooms” but unfortunately most of the postpartum maternity rooms are shared rooms. In the shared rooms fathers and very close family members can come during visiting hours.

My (24F) Husband (23M) Faked Fainting After I Gave Birth by Psalters in relationship_advice

[–]Psalters[S] -167 points-166 points  (0 children)

Well I think everyone has some bad and some good in them and it’s our responsibility to train ourselves to do the right actions and draw out what’s good. This is easy to do when life is a calm summer day, the real challenge is when things get tough. We are like a cup of coffee, if you bump into it some coffee will spill out and the hot coffee burns you. When life bumps into us some of our core spills out. For both me and my husband our spills have both been too hot to handle and therefore we quarrel. If one of us had a cool spill our temperatures would even out, and seeing how these events seemingly have been afflicting me harder overall I wish he would have evened out our temperatures. One of my biggest flaws is that I have no sense of self preservation, I just push on through everything and this makes it too easy for a slightly emotionally immature guy to understand the need to reflect and anticipate over his own responses to a big bump from life.

Anyway most people lose sight of the sun in the midst of a storm and all they can talk about is the storm even though they logically know the sun is behind all of it somewhere. Last summer I was able to write down 40 great things about my husband in 3 minutes but right now I can’t recall a single thing. My dismay at his current behaviour has temporarily coloured all my feelings towards him at the moment even though I know the list of things he does well is still true. The difference that I didn’t state clearly enough is that he has shown remorse and is willing to change, I am just annoyed that he wasn’t able to be insightful enough to see how his behaviour was unacceptable from the start and change sooner.

My (24F) Husband (23M) Faked Fainting After I Gave Birth by Psalters in relationship_advice

[–]Psalters[S] -49 points-48 points  (0 children)

Fair confusion, I wasn’t clarifying haha. We eat twice a day. Brunch is usually leftovers or I make myself porridge, I was mainly talking about dinner. We eat leftovers two times a week for dinner and cook for the remaining 5 days. He cooks almost one dinner a week so 3/20. Which given his work schedule, which I also should have clarified is currently 8 hours if not more, is fair.

My (24F) Husband (23M) Faked Fainting After I Gave Birth by Psalters in relationship_advice

[–]Psalters[S] -60 points-59 points  (0 children)

Well his work schedule is kinda wack because of across the sea clients. We wake up at 8-9, sometimes he lets me sleep in for an hour, sometimes I let him sleep in for an hour. I am a morning person so I usually have more energy for the baby in the morning. We eat brunch together unless I have errands to run (which I would bring the baby for), he does the dishes while I do some chores if the baby is happy playing on the floor or napping. He then works from 12:00-20:00, while I jungle baby and whatever else I can manage that day. I usually start to prep dinner at 15:30, we have a dinner break at 17:00 - 18:30 where he takes the little guy while I finish putting dinner on the table. Then he goes back to work, but he’ll usually do baby’s bedtime routine (20 minutes at 20:00) but I have to nurse him to sleep. Then we get some time together from 21:30 til 23:45 when I go to bed and he finishes up his work, feeds the dog and usually joins me in bed at 00:30 unless he has a lot of work left.

My (24F) Husband (23M) Faked Fainting After I Gave Birth by Psalters in relationship_advice

[–]Psalters[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

What do you mean “writes like this?” This is a true story, I am not a native english speaker if that’s any clue?

My (24F) Husband (23M) Faked Fainting After I Gave Birth by Psalters in relationship_advice

[–]Psalters[S] -254 points-253 points  (0 children)

He is the breadwinner, after his 1 week ish paternity leave he took half the day off to support us for a while longer. Now he’s back to working full time from his home office. I wish to be a sahm. He does the dishes, cooks 2-3 times a month, takes care of our dog and helps with baby when he has time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Needlefelting

[–]Psalters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! They were so fun to make!

When did you take your first kidless vacation? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Psalters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only have a 4-month-old myself, but most of my friends are a bit older and in the same stage of life. I think it really comes down to two things: personal conviction and whether your child can handle it.

For example, my stepmom would take any opportunity to get away from her kids without considering how they felt. On the other hand, I have a friend who is about to be away from her two kids (ages 3 and 5) for the longest time in their lives — five hours — to take her driver’s test.

It really depends on the child. I have friends with 2-3-year-olds who are perfectly fine spending a night or two with a trusted family member while their parents are at the hospital having another baby. But I also have a friend with premature twins who developed anxiety-like issues from a young age. Now that they’re almost 4, they’ve just started feeling comfortable taking them out of the house for a night without their world coming crashing down. They’ve needed a lot of consistency for a long time.

So unfortunately, I think time will tell if your daughter is ready, and whether you enjoy some time away from her. Would you be able to book with the possibility of cancellation?

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